The Victorian era: Laws of etiquette
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What a load of shyt.
Ill give you a proper Texas ass whoppin' if you wanna learn etiquette so bad.
@ this sissy Captain talking to me about proper etiquette and how to be a man
I see you're location, never heard of it, but probably some small faggy european country where you walk around wearing a man purse, sipping tea getting your nails manicured
WHAT! Come down to my neck of the woods and try that shyt boy
Ill give you a proper Texas ass whoppin' if you wanna learn etiquette so bad.
@ this sissy Captain talking to me about proper etiquette and how to be a manI see you're location, never heard of it, but probably some small faggy european country where you walk around wearing a man purse, sipping tea getting your nails manicured
WHAT! Come down to my neck of the woods and try that shyt boy
Boutdatlife
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minus the Scurvy 
What a load of shyt.
Ill give you a proper Texas ass whoppin' if you wanna learn etiquette so bad.
I see you're location, never heard of it, but probably some small faggy european country where you walk around wearing a man purse, sipping tea getting your nails manicured
WHAT! Come down to my neck of the woods and try that shyt boy
you've been drinking?
cocksucker
Scotch Hall
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MouseTeeth
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Good i wish thee disgusting trollops would adhere to these rules today, along with wearing scarlet letters detailing their adulterous ways.
Conduct At Places Of Public Amusement
If the entertainment be a fancy fair, where goods which have been manufactured by a company of ladies are sold for church or charitable purposes, good sense will immediately suggest that as large a price should be realized as possible, and hence it is not etiquette for the purchaser to attempt to buy under price. It is also courtesy for the saleswoman, when a larger sum is presented than is charged, to deduct the price and promptly return the change, unless the surplus be donated to the charity.
Bad Manners
Do not forget, while you make yourself comfortable, that others have rights which should be always considered.
Do not talk loudly, laugh boisterously, or make violent gestures.
Do not talk or whisper so loudly during the entertainment as to disturb those sitting near you.
Do not make a display of secrecy, mystery, or undue lover-like affection with your companion.
Do not prevent your companion from giving attention to the exercises, even though they may be without interest to yourself.
Do not, in a picture-gallery, stand conversing too long in front of pictures. Take seats, and allow others to make examination.
Do not, if a lady, allow a gentleman to join you, and thus withdraw your attention from your escort And do not, if a gentleman, allow your attention to be taken up, to any great extent, with a lady other than the one you have in charge.
Do not, if a gentleman, be continually going from the hall between the acts of the play. To be passing up and down the aisle, eating peppers and cardamom seeds, advertises the fact that you are addicted to the too frequent use of liquors.
Do not join a party about to visit a place of amusement unless invited to do so. Should the party consist of one gentleman and two ladies, a gentleman, if well acquainted, may ask the privilege of attending one of the ladies. Should a ticket be furnished him, he should return the favor by an equal politeness bestowed upon the party, if possible, during the evening.
GENTILITY IN THE DINING-ROOM.
The evidences of good breeding with a party of ladies and gentlemen seated about a table, who are accustomed to the usages of polite society, are many. Among these will be the fact that the table is very beautifully and artistically spread. This need not require much wealth, but good taste is necessary to set it handsomely.
Again, the company evince gentility by each assuming a genteel position while eating. It is not necessary that an elaborate toilet be worn at the table, but careful attention should always be given to neatness of personal appearance, however plain may be the dress which is worn.
Another evidence of good manners is the self-possession with which the company deport themselves throughout the meal. ' the drawing-room to receive guests as they arrive, each of whom should be welcomed with a warm greeting.
The hostess having determined who shall accompany each other to the table, each gentleman should be informed what lady he is expected to escort. The hour having arrived, the host offers his right arm to the most honored or possibly the eldest lady guest, and the gentleman most distinguished will escort the lady of the house.
Proceeding to the dining-room when all is in readiness, the host will take his seat at the foot of the table, and the hostess at the head, the lady escorted by the host taking her seat at his right, and the escort of the hostess sitting also at her right. The next most honored seat is at the left of the hostess.
It is fashionable to have cards laid upon the table, bearing the name, sometimes printed very beautifully upon silk, indicating where each guest shall sit, which saves confusion in being seated. The ladies having taken their places, the gentlemen will be seated, and all is in readiness for the dinner to be served, unless grace be said by a clergyman present or by the host.
Let us hope if there is any carving, it will be done before the meat is brought to the table, and the time of the company saved from this sometimes slow and tedious work. Should soup be passed, it is well for each one to take it, and also the various courses as they are served, making no special comment on the food. The gentleman will, when a dish is brought, having seen the lady he escorted provided for, help himself and pass it on; he will pay no attention to the other lady near him, but will leave that to her escort. In all cases he will be careful and attentive to the wants of the lady in his charge, ascertaining her wishes and issuing her orders to the waiters.
No polite guest will ever fastidiously smell or examine any article of food before tasting it Such conduct would be an insult to those who have invited him; neither will the host or hostess apologize for the cooking or find fault with each other, the cook or the waiters; all having done the best they could, there is nothing left to do but to make the best of everything that is provided.
Especial pains should be taken by the host and hostess, as well as all the company, to introduce topics of conversation that shall be agreeable and pleasing, that the dinner hour may be in the highest degree entertaining. When all the guests have finished their eating, the hostess, with a slight nod to one of the leading members of the party, will rise, as will all the company, and repair to the drawing-room, where, in social converse, the time should be spent for the next two or three hours. Etiquette demands that each member of the company remain at least an hour after the dinner is finished, it being impolite to hurry away immediately after rising from the table. Should he do so, however, he will ask to be excused.
Actions Which Indicate Bad Manners When Eating.
DO NOT speak disrespectfully to the waiters, nor apologize to them for making them trouble; it is their business to bring forward the food called for. It is courtesy, however, when asked if you desire a certain article, to reply, "If you please;" "Not any, I thank you," etc.; when calling for an article, to say, "Will you please bring me," etc.; and 'when the article has been furnished, to say, "Thank you."
Never eat very fast.
Never fill the mouth very full.
Never open your mouth when chewing.
Never make noise with the mouth or throat.
Never attempt to talk with the mouth full.
Never leave the table with food in the mouth.
Never soil the table-cloth if it is possible to avoid it.
Never carry away fruits and confectionery from the table.
Never encourage a dog or cat to play with you at the table.
Never use anything but fork or spoon in feeding yourself.
Never explain at the table why certain foods do not agree with you.
Never introduce disgusting or unpleasant topics for conversation.
Never pick your teeth or put your hand in your mouth while eating.
Never cut bread; always break it, spreading with butter each piece as you eat it.
Never come to the table in your shirt-sleeves, with dirty hands or disheveled hair.
Never express a choice for any particular parts of a dish, unless requested to do so.
Never hesitate to take the last piece of bread or the last cake; there are probably more.
Never call loudly for the waiter, nor attract attention to yourself by boisterous conduct.
Never hold bones in your fingers while you eat from them. Cut the meat with a knife.
Never use your own knife when cutting butter. Always use a knife assigned to that purpose.
Never pare an apple, peach or pear for another at the table without holding it with a fork.
Never wipe your fingers on the table-cloth, nor clean them in your mouth. Use the napkin.
Never allow butter, soup or other food to remain on your whiskers. Use the napkin frequently.
Never wear gloves at the table, unless the hands from some special reason are unfit to be seen.
Never, when serving others, overload the plate nor force upon them delicacies which they decline.
Never pour sauce over meat and vegetables when helping others. Place it at one side, on the plate.
Never make a display of finding fault with your food. Very quietly have it changed if you want it different.
Never pass your plate with knife and fork on the same. Remove them, and allow them to rest upon a piece of bread.
Never make a display when removing hair, insects or other disagreeable things from your food. Place them quietly under the edge of your plate.
Never make an effort to clean your plate or the bones you have been eating from too clean; it looks as if you left off hungry.
Never tip back in your chair nor lounge upon the table; neither assume any position that is awkward or ill-bred.
Never, at one's own table or at a dinner-party elsewhere, leave before the rest have finished without asking to be excused. At a hotel or boarding house this rule need not be observed.
Never feel obliged to cut off the kernels with a knife when eating green corn; eaten from the cob, the corn is much the sweetest.
Never eat so much of any one article as to attract attention, as some people do who eat large quantities of butter, sweet cake, cheese or other articles.
Never expectorate at the table; also avoid sneezing or coughing. It is better to arise quietly from the table if you have occasion to do either. A sneeze is prevented by placing the finger firmly on the upper lip.
Never spit out bones, cherry pits, grape skins, etc., upon your plate. Quietly press them from your mouth upon the fork, and lay them upon the side of your plate.
Never allow the conversation at the table to drift into anything but chit-chat; the consideration of deep and abstruse principles will impair digestion.
Never permit yourself to engage in a heated argument at the table. Neither should you use gestures, nor illustrations made with a knife or fork on the table-cloth.
Never pass forward to another the dish that has been handed to you, unless requested to do so; it may have been purposely designed for you, and passing it to another may give him or her what is not wanted.
Never put your feet so far under the table as to touch those of the person on the opposite side; neither should you curl them under nor at the side of your chair.
Never praise extravagantly every dish set before you; neither should you appear indifferent. Any article may have praise.
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If the entertainment be a fancy fair, where goods which have been manufactured by a company of ladies are sold for church or charitable purposes, good sense will immediately suggest that as large a price should be realized as possible, and hence it is not etiquette for the purchaser to attempt to buy under price. It is also courtesy for the saleswoman, when a larger sum is presented than is charged, to deduct the price and promptly return the change, unless the surplus be donated to the charity.
Bad Manners
Do not forget, while you make yourself comfortable, that others have rights which should be always considered.
Do not talk loudly, laugh boisterously, or make violent gestures.
Do not talk or whisper so loudly during the entertainment as to disturb those sitting near you.
Do not make a display of secrecy, mystery, or undue lover-like affection with your companion.
Do not prevent your companion from giving attention to the exercises, even though they may be without interest to yourself.
Do not, in a picture-gallery, stand conversing too long in front of pictures. Take seats, and allow others to make examination.
Do not, if a lady, allow a gentleman to join you, and thus withdraw your attention from your escort And do not, if a gentleman, allow your attention to be taken up, to any great extent, with a lady other than the one you have in charge.
Do not, if a gentleman, be continually going from the hall between the acts of the play. To be passing up and down the aisle, eating peppers and cardamom seeds, advertises the fact that you are addicted to the too frequent use of liquors.
Do not join a party about to visit a place of amusement unless invited to do so. Should the party consist of one gentleman and two ladies, a gentleman, if well acquainted, may ask the privilege of attending one of the ladies. Should a ticket be furnished him, he should return the favor by an equal politeness bestowed upon the party, if possible, during the evening.
GENTILITY IN THE DINING-ROOM.
The evidences of good breeding with a party of ladies and gentlemen seated about a table, who are accustomed to the usages of polite society, are many. Among these will be the fact that the table is very beautifully and artistically spread. This need not require much wealth, but good taste is necessary to set it handsomely.
Again, the company evince gentility by each assuming a genteel position while eating. It is not necessary that an elaborate toilet be worn at the table, but careful attention should always be given to neatness of personal appearance, however plain may be the dress which is worn.
Another evidence of good manners is the self-possession with which the company deport themselves throughout the meal. ' the drawing-room to receive guests as they arrive, each of whom should be welcomed with a warm greeting.
The hostess having determined who shall accompany each other to the table, each gentleman should be informed what lady he is expected to escort. The hour having arrived, the host offers his right arm to the most honored or possibly the eldest lady guest, and the gentleman most distinguished will escort the lady of the house.
Proceeding to the dining-room when all is in readiness, the host will take his seat at the foot of the table, and the hostess at the head, the lady escorted by the host taking her seat at his right, and the escort of the hostess sitting also at her right. The next most honored seat is at the left of the hostess.
It is fashionable to have cards laid upon the table, bearing the name, sometimes printed very beautifully upon silk, indicating where each guest shall sit, which saves confusion in being seated. The ladies having taken their places, the gentlemen will be seated, and all is in readiness for the dinner to be served, unless grace be said by a clergyman present or by the host.
Let us hope if there is any carving, it will be done before the meat is brought to the table, and the time of the company saved from this sometimes slow and tedious work. Should soup be passed, it is well for each one to take it, and also the various courses as they are served, making no special comment on the food. The gentleman will, when a dish is brought, having seen the lady he escorted provided for, help himself and pass it on; he will pay no attention to the other lady near him, but will leave that to her escort. In all cases he will be careful and attentive to the wants of the lady in his charge, ascertaining her wishes and issuing her orders to the waiters.
No polite guest will ever fastidiously smell or examine any article of food before tasting it Such conduct would be an insult to those who have invited him; neither will the host or hostess apologize for the cooking or find fault with each other, the cook or the waiters; all having done the best they could, there is nothing left to do but to make the best of everything that is provided.
Especial pains should be taken by the host and hostess, as well as all the company, to introduce topics of conversation that shall be agreeable and pleasing, that the dinner hour may be in the highest degree entertaining. When all the guests have finished their eating, the hostess, with a slight nod to one of the leading members of the party, will rise, as will all the company, and repair to the drawing-room, where, in social converse, the time should be spent for the next two or three hours. Etiquette demands that each member of the company remain at least an hour after the dinner is finished, it being impolite to hurry away immediately after rising from the table. Should he do so, however, he will ask to be excused.
Actions Which Indicate Bad Manners When Eating.
DO NOT speak disrespectfully to the waiters, nor apologize to them for making them trouble; it is their business to bring forward the food called for. It is courtesy, however, when asked if you desire a certain article, to reply, "If you please;" "Not any, I thank you," etc.; when calling for an article, to say, "Will you please bring me," etc.; and 'when the article has been furnished, to say, "Thank you."
Never eat very fast.
Never fill the mouth very full.
Never open your mouth when chewing.
Never make noise with the mouth or throat.
Never attempt to talk with the mouth full.
Never leave the table with food in the mouth.
Never soil the table-cloth if it is possible to avoid it.
Never carry away fruits and confectionery from the table.
Never encourage a dog or cat to play with you at the table.
Never use anything but fork or spoon in feeding yourself.
Never explain at the table why certain foods do not agree with you.
Never introduce disgusting or unpleasant topics for conversation.
Never pick your teeth or put your hand in your mouth while eating.
Never cut bread; always break it, spreading with butter each piece as you eat it.
Never come to the table in your shirt-sleeves, with dirty hands or disheveled hair.
Never express a choice for any particular parts of a dish, unless requested to do so.
Never hesitate to take the last piece of bread or the last cake; there are probably more.
Never call loudly for the waiter, nor attract attention to yourself by boisterous conduct.
Never hold bones in your fingers while you eat from them. Cut the meat with a knife.
Never use your own knife when cutting butter. Always use a knife assigned to that purpose.
Never pare an apple, peach or pear for another at the table without holding it with a fork.
Never wipe your fingers on the table-cloth, nor clean them in your mouth. Use the napkin.
Never allow butter, soup or other food to remain on your whiskers. Use the napkin frequently.
Never wear gloves at the table, unless the hands from some special reason are unfit to be seen.
Never, when serving others, overload the plate nor force upon them delicacies which they decline.
Never pour sauce over meat and vegetables when helping others. Place it at one side, on the plate.
Never make a display of finding fault with your food. Very quietly have it changed if you want it different.
Never pass your plate with knife and fork on the same. Remove them, and allow them to rest upon a piece of bread.
Never make a display when removing hair, insects or other disagreeable things from your food. Place them quietly under the edge of your plate.
Never make an effort to clean your plate or the bones you have been eating from too clean; it looks as if you left off hungry.
Never tip back in your chair nor lounge upon the table; neither assume any position that is awkward or ill-bred.
Never, at one's own table or at a dinner-party elsewhere, leave before the rest have finished without asking to be excused. At a hotel or boarding house this rule need not be observed.
Never feel obliged to cut off the kernels with a knife when eating green corn; eaten from the cob, the corn is much the sweetest.
Never eat so much of any one article as to attract attention, as some people do who eat large quantities of butter, sweet cake, cheese or other articles.
Never expectorate at the table; also avoid sneezing or coughing. It is better to arise quietly from the table if you have occasion to do either. A sneeze is prevented by placing the finger firmly on the upper lip.
Never spit out bones, cherry pits, grape skins, etc., upon your plate. Quietly press them from your mouth upon the fork, and lay them upon the side of your plate.
Never allow the conversation at the table to drift into anything but chit-chat; the consideration of deep and abstruse principles will impair digestion.
Never permit yourself to engage in a heated argument at the table. Neither should you use gestures, nor illustrations made with a knife or fork on the table-cloth.
Never pass forward to another the dish that has been handed to you, unless requested to do so; it may have been purposely designed for you, and passing it to another may give him or her what is not wanted.
Never put your feet so far under the table as to touch those of the person on the opposite side; neither should you curl them under nor at the side of your chair.
Never praise extravagantly every dish set before you; neither should you appear indifferent. Any article may have praise.
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Hints and Helps on Good Behavior at all Times and at all Places
1. Cultivate a happy temper; banish the blues; a cheerful saguine spirit begets cheer and hope.
2. Be trustworthy and be trustful.
3. Do not place a light estimate on the art of good reading and good expression; they will yield perpetual interest.
4. Study to keep versed in world events as well as in local occurrences, but abhor gossip, and above all scandal.
5. Banish a self-conscience spirit - the source of much awkwardness - with a constant aim to make others happy - remember that it is incumbent upon gentlemen and ladies alike to be neat in habits.
6. The following is said to be a correct posture for walking: Head erect - not too rigid - chin in, shoulders back. Permit no unnecessary motion about the thighs. Do not lean over to one side in walking, standing or sitting; the practice is not only ungraceful, but it is deforming and therefore unhealthy.
7. If the hands are allowed to swing in walking, the arc should be limited, and the lady will manage them much more gracefully, if they almost touch the clothing.
8. A lady should not stand with her hands behind her. We could almost say, forget the hands except to keep them clean, including the nails; cordial and helpful. One hand may rest easily in the other. Study repose of attitude here as well as in the rest of the body.
9. Gestures are for emphasis in public speaking; do not point elsewhere, as a rule.
10. Look the person to whom you speak in the eye. Never under any circumstances wink at another or communicate with furtive looks.
11. Before introducing a gentleman to a lady, remember that she is entitled to hold you responsible for the acquaintance. The lady is the one to whom the gentleman is presented, which may be done thus: "Miss A, permit me to introduce you to my friend, Mr. B." or :Miss A, allow me to introduce Mr. B." If mutual and near friends of yours, say simply "Miss A - Mr. B."
12. A true lady will avoid familiarity in her deportment towards gentlemen. A young lady should not permit her gentlemen friends to address her by her home name, and the reverse is true. Use the title Miss and Mr. respectively.
13. Ladies should be frank and cordial toward their lady friends, never gushing.
14. A lady on meeting a gentleman with whom she has a slight acquaintance will make a medium bow - neither too decided nor too slight or stiff.
15. If a young lady desires to visit any public place where she expects to meet a gentleman acquaintance, she should have a chaperone to accompany her, a person of mature years when possible, and never a giddy girl.
16. A lady should not ask a gentleman to walk with her.
1. Cultivate a happy temper; banish the blues; a cheerful saguine spirit begets cheer and hope.
2. Be trustworthy and be trustful.
3. Do not place a light estimate on the art of good reading and good expression; they will yield perpetual interest.
4. Study to keep versed in world events as well as in local occurrences, but abhor gossip, and above all scandal.
5. Banish a self-conscience spirit - the source of much awkwardness - with a constant aim to make others happy - remember that it is incumbent upon gentlemen and ladies alike to be neat in habits.
6. The following is said to be a correct posture for walking: Head erect - not too rigid - chin in, shoulders back. Permit no unnecessary motion about the thighs. Do not lean over to one side in walking, standing or sitting; the practice is not only ungraceful, but it is deforming and therefore unhealthy.
7. If the hands are allowed to swing in walking, the arc should be limited, and the lady will manage them much more gracefully, if they almost touch the clothing.
8. A lady should not stand with her hands behind her. We could almost say, forget the hands except to keep them clean, including the nails; cordial and helpful. One hand may rest easily in the other. Study repose of attitude here as well as in the rest of the body.
9. Gestures are for emphasis in public speaking; do not point elsewhere, as a rule.
10. Look the person to whom you speak in the eye. Never under any circumstances wink at another or communicate with furtive looks.
11. Before introducing a gentleman to a lady, remember that she is entitled to hold you responsible for the acquaintance. The lady is the one to whom the gentleman is presented, which may be done thus: "Miss A, permit me to introduce you to my friend, Mr. B." or :Miss A, allow me to introduce Mr. B." If mutual and near friends of yours, say simply "Miss A - Mr. B."
12. A true lady will avoid familiarity in her deportment towards gentlemen. A young lady should not permit her gentlemen friends to address her by her home name, and the reverse is true. Use the title Miss and Mr. respectively.
13. Ladies should be frank and cordial toward their lady friends, never gushing.
14. A lady on meeting a gentleman with whom she has a slight acquaintance will make a medium bow - neither too decided nor too slight or stiff.
15. If a young lady desires to visit any public place where she expects to meet a gentleman acquaintance, she should have a chaperone to accompany her, a person of mature years when possible, and never a giddy girl.
16. A lady should not ask a gentleman to walk with her.
That's fair, manners would make you an outcast at the Gathering of The Juggalos... I understand your disdain for this topic.
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