Why is it considered ok and in fact normal for bw to be earning considerably more than their male counterparts? Are BM Willing to start contributing in the household? Cooking, cleaning, etc....
The Nightly Show Panel - Black Women And Dating
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Why assume that bw are not attracted to any wm? Attraction is fluid.Because i didn't say all,and i gave options earlier how to expand that pool among BLACK men but you rejected that on some "Bu bu but why should we date black men we aren't attracted to?"....And i responded why wouldn't she if she's willing to date white men shes not really attracted to? Once again you rejected that with "I have no proof but I got a feeling black women are just as attracted to white men but are scared to admit it
"....I gave other options to expand the pool among black men...But seems like your hell bent on rejecting whatever way doesn't end with black women in the arms of white men so we might as well end this discussion
This is the bone of contention for bw wheb it comes bm. These women weren't talking about dating the 1%, they were talking dating professionals like themselves of their own race...that is not out of the ordinary for nost people in the dating world. People mainly date within their social class.
The problem I think BW is being told because you don't ha e the same circumstances as other races odof women you have accomodate bm who have not of your social class more so than other women. However, the laundry list of what bw need to be in order to have a man remains the same.
That's where interject and say that if bw need to adjust their expectations of bm then bm need to adjust their expectations of bw because no woman is going to accept being told to be a traditional wife when bm do nor observe being a traditional husband. Sone will put up with it but many will not and I can't blame them cause its not fair.
But to add insulf to injury, some bm tell these bw well if you aren't going to do it then I'll find me a white/Asian/latina girl who will, completing ignoring tye fact that these women are not being raised t9 accept that. So bw must accept the reality of the bm but which bm accept the reality of a bw?
This is not a fair exchange and to presume that this is not a huge stress in a relationship is disingenuous.
Blackout
just your usual nerdy brotha
Miss you know our situation in the US and you know what it will take to have more black men to rise up to match the women and for women to be raised better as well.
You can either help us get there and fight the real ones making us suffer or jump ship and contribute to the problem.
The choice is yours.
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I've been reading your posts and I'm sorry to say you seem to be out of touch with reality. You keep pointing to white women as 100% of them are married to handsome, six figure white guys. They are not. Alot of them are single and baby mommas just like black women. Admittedly not nearly as many but there are valid reasons for that. Some BW can control and others they can't.
Of the WW that are married to successful WM, many of those guys are unattractive. Yet many BW want the perfect BM, handsome, successful, swagger, etc. If a WW living in a country built for WHITE people can accept a man that is "flawed" in some way why can't a BW living in a country that wasn't built for BW?
So since BW seem to be SO damn jealous of how much dikk WW are getting why don't BW start being like WW and forget about looks, swag, what type of shoes a nikka is wearing or what type of car he is driving.
Also there just like there are many WW with unattractive WM, there are many WW married to WM who make no more than 40K per year. That's a fact, not an opinion. And we know 95% of white dudes don't have swag so WW aren't getting a man with swag either.
And lastly but certainly not least anybody that's comparing BM and WM financially without talking about oppressing and the legacy of slavery is being dishonest. That's not to say that a BM can't be successful. There are a lot of BM such as myself pulling in the big checks each week but we are in the minority so let's not pretend otherwise. And I just said oppressing and the legacy of slavery is a big reason for that, not the only one but a big reason.
So if BW want to do something to improve their odds of landing a black man that's balling how about standing up and fighting institutional racism instead of enabling it.
I swear some of you BW act like y'all don't have no damn sense.
And that's where the disconnect is between the sexes, some bw feel like compared to other women they have to be super women to have the privilege of having partner of their own race.
Miss you know our situation in the US and you know what it will take to have more black men to rise up to match the women and for women to be raised better as well.
You can either help us get there and fight the real ones making us suffer or jump ship and contribute to the problem.
The choice is yours.
What I am saying you are not going to continue to have bw understand the plight of the bm without reciprocity. If bm financially are strapped because of tge discrimination, than they have to offer bw something else to reward their sacrifice if these bm want dainty/care free bw because simply stating what you are saying and have bm lead in interracial relationships/marriages is not going to fly in this generation.
Blackout
just your usual nerdy brotha
You talk as if there aren't black men who are marrying black when there still many to this day.
Not to mention what you yourself are promoting women going interracial which makes you a hypocrote and your talk will drive black women away from the black men who want them.
Your doing the c00ns work child.
Great Post
First; where are you basing your analysis that ww go with men dispoportionately that they are not attracted to/with meager income?
Second; making 50000km to 80000 A year is middle class imcome we are not talking 100s of thousand of dollars here or even millions. I am talking about middle class incomes....nw are told that this is too much of an expectation of black men that that shoukd expect 40000 dollars are lower. or even be lucky if their partner makes minimum wage while they make much much more than that.
Then they are told go for men you have noo attraction to, then they are told improve your looks...then they are told cater to your man/cook/clean/etc...these expectatiobs are not unrealistic to you? You think that's fair?
Are bw not under attact withing the racist society, what are bm offering bw in exchange for their sacrifice? You hear bm say well I can have my pick of women and yet tell bw that they should be happy with a man, so what tjey want is for naught.
What accomodation are bm making for bw in this day and age? Considering what they go through as well. That's the selfishness anf unwillingness to recognize that bw contribute to workhorse/must be independent attitudes of bw.
I don't think that post is great. And what y'All don't realize is you ate pushing bw to date out with this mentality.
nikkas trying to tell black women why they should settle for broke ugly dudes because they black 
I'm ugly but decently successful, with a kid, and successful, educated black women are absolutely willing to give me chance.
Ugly white people are typically with ugly white people of the same class. You don't see no fine ass trophy wife CAC with some bubba redneck dude.
@Yup is saying that black men should be willing to handle domestic duties (Cooking, cleaning, etc) if he isn't the same level as her financially which makes sense.
The housework should go to the less successful partner but black men are way too concerned with masculinity and want head of the household privileges while bringing in non-breadwinner money. If a women is gonna be expected to be the domestic housekeeper, she might as well go for dudes making more than her and if those dudes are CACs, who's fault is that? Should she lower her expectations and deal with making HOH money while being a doting housewife if it means being with a less successful black men? How's that fair for her?
I'm ugly but decently successful, with a kid, and successful, educated black women are absolutely willing to give me chance.
Ugly white people are typically with ugly white people of the same class. You don't see no fine ass trophy wife CAC with some bubba redneck dude.
@Yup is saying that black men should be willing to handle domestic duties (Cooking, cleaning, etc) if he isn't the same level as her financially which makes sense.
The housework should go to the less successful partner but black men are way too concerned with masculinity and want head of the household privileges while bringing in non-breadwinner money. If a women is gonna be expected to be the domestic housekeeper, she might as well go for dudes making more than her and if those dudes are CACs, who's fault is that? Should she lower her expectations and deal with making HOH money while being a doting housewife if it means being with a less successful black men? How's that fair for her?
A relationship os stressful enough as is. I don't know how y'all believe thst what you asking bw to do is reasonable? I just don't.
Thank you!nikkas trying to tell black women why they should settle for broke ugly dudes because they black
I'm ugly but decently successful, with a kid, and successful, educated black women are absolutely willing to give me chance.
Ugly white people are typically with ugly white people of the same class. You don't see no fine ass trophy wife CAC with some bubba redneck dude.
@Yup is saying that black men should be willing to handle domestic duties (Cooking, cleaning, etc) if he isn't the same level as her financially which makes sense.
The housework should go to the less successful partner but black men are way too concerned with masculinity and want head of the household privileges while bringing in non-breadwinner money. If a women is gonna be expected to be the domestic housekeeper, she might as well go for dudes making more than her and if those dudes are CACs, who's fault is that? Should she lower her expectations and deal with making HOH money while being a doting housewife if it means being with a less successful black men? How's that fair for her?
Blackout
just your usual nerdy brotha
As long as you don't have the hood mentality and assess your judgement in men it is reasonable.
I'm not saying date broke and ugly men I'm saying try to find one who is average looking and finacially stable at least.
Also you living in a c00n area Canada and looking to move to another c00n area Cali doesn't help.
nikkas trying to tell black women why they should settle for broke ugly dudes because they black
I'm ugly but decently successful, with a kid, and successful, educated black women are absolutely willing to give me chance.
Ugly white people are typically with ugly white people of the same class. You don't see no fine ass trophy wife CAC with some bubba redneck dude.
@Yup is saying that black men should be willing to handle domestic duties (Cooking, cleaning, etc) if he isn't the same level as her financially which makes sense.
The housework should go to the less successful partner but black men are way too concerned with masculinity and want head of the household privileges while bringing in non-breadwinner money. If a women is gonna be expected to be the domestic housekeeper, she might as well go for dudes making more than her and if those dudes are CACs, who's fault is that? Should she lower her expectations and deal with making HOH money while being a doting housewife if it means being with a less successful black men? How's that fair for her?
Exactly why you on the c00n list.........
