I think we have entered a very peculiar Era. One we been veering toward for a long time. It's not that selfishness is suddenly prevalent...it's always been. It's just that it has become more socially acceptable and open, and coinciding with women's lib, women can now be openly selfish too.
As u said these women are successful, they don't "need" a man. Their children may need a father, but as far as they concerned, like all selfish people with anything, there's an app for that
It's like I was alluding to in another thread. People confuse their superficial feelings for a superficially desirable partner for love for that partner. But when we choose a partner in vanity it's really ourselves we loving on. We don't love, or on many cases even truly know that person. They just nice to look at, nice to have on our arm, etc. This is why marriages and relationships violently crash and burn. Once we get to know that person we often realize we can not even stand each other. And God forgive us how this affects our seed when kids are involved