Essential The Mental Health Thread

[Mandarin Duck]

I’ve been told that there’s 4 quadrants in life. Responsibility hobbies self care and socialisation. For me I’ve been trying to get back to hobbies which in turn would invite socialisation. I’ve been to poetry nights and got a couple more this week. Maybe you could try that in your city? Could get you talking about art and politics, maybe a start of reliability?

I think I've allowed myself to forget my hobbies and interests as I've gotten older. Everything is about work for me and I've convinced myself that I don't have time to socialize.

I work 8:00-4:00 Mon-Fri. I have time. That's just an excuse.

The reality is it's something I need to work on but because socializing is outside of my comfort zone I go head first into what I feel like I'm comfortable with.

Working out and my career. I guess that'd fall under the self care and responsibilities category.

I'm insecure and I'm not sure what I need to fix it but as sorry as it sounds I need female validation, yet I feel like I'm not worthy of it.

I've never had a gf in my life. I know I'm attractive and charming enough for a woman now, but I can't convince myself that I'm not that same loser I was at 15.

Woman have shown interest in me and I brush it off.

 

[Sensitive Christian Grey]

I think I've allowed myself to forget my hobbies and interests as I've gotten older. Everything is about work for me and I've convinced myself that I don't have time to socialize.

I work 8:00-4:00 Mon-Fri. I have time. That's just an excuse.

The reality is it's something I need to work on but because socializing is outside of my comfort zone I go head first into what I feel like I'm comfortable with.

Working out and my career. I guess that'd fall under the self care and responsibilities category.

I'm insecure and I'm not sure what I need to fix it but as sorry as it sounds I need female validation, yet I feel like I'm not worthy of it.

I've never had a gf in my life. I know I'm attractive and charming enough for a woman now, but I can't convince myself that I'm not that same loser I was at 15.

Woman have shown interest in me and I brush it off.

Breh I'm not gonna claim myself to be an expert regarding mental health. But I hope the pieces of advice I'll offer you here you can take on board and help you onto the path you wanna be on.

First, the simple line I've learnt recently, which really keeps me going: "Your past self doesn't need you, your future self does." I think you know how you can take that in and reflect on that.

Second,

With this one, it might be an idea to get a notebook and write down who were and what you objectively had and knew when you were young as compared to who are you and what you have and know now. Reflect on the differences when you have compiled them.

Again I can only suggest to the best of my knowledge, but I hope you make it out breh bless up

 

[Striving For Greatness]

A therapist declined me because I asked if they had another time slot available for a session

Well hopefully I can find someone that’ll be dirt cheap with my insurance

 

[Coolin']

Any drinkers/former drinkers here?

 

[MalaKai]

Any drinkers/former drinkers here?

Right here...current.

 

[Pazzy]

Today is one of those days. im hiding it though

 

[semicko82]

Any advice would be helpful.
I have a family member who's mental capabilities are pretty much diminished.
He can't find employment and homeless.
We can't find any resources to get him the type of help he needs.
If anyone knows where I can start with helping him find a resource(s) I would greatly appreciate it

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Any advice would be helpful.
I have a family member who's mental capabilities are pretty much diminished.
He can't find employment and homeless.
We can't find any resources to get him the type of help he needs.
If anyone knows where I can start with helping him find a resource(s) I would greatly appreciate it

What state do you live in?

Has he been diagnosed medically with a disability?

In California we have a program known as IHSS.
In Home Support Services.

A county worker comes and helps the person with errands, budgeting, rides to doctor visits and help manage their life.

I'm sure the state your in offers programs similar to this.

Your specific city probably has an EDD office. You should be able to give a snapshot of his situation to someone there and they can point you in the right direction.

Unfortunately if he were a single mother or a woman the help would be a little easier, but don't give up.

I work for the state of California and we have a lot of programs to help folks with mental and physical disabilities find jobs.

 

[semicko82]

What state do you live in?

Has he been diagnosed medically with a disability?

In California we have a program known as IHSS.
In Home Support Services.

A county worker comes and helps the person with errands, budgeting, rides to doctor visits and help manage their life.

I'm sure the state your in offers programs similar to this.

Your specific city probably has an EDD office. You should be able to give a snapshot of his situation to someone there and they can point you in the right direction.

Unfortunately if he were a single mother or a woman the help would be a little easier, but don't give up.

I work for the state of California and we have a lot of programs to help folks with mental and physical disabilities find jobs.

Thanks my brother lives in Texas. Fort Worth to be exact
I've been trying to find programs similar to the one you mentioned

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Thanks my brother lives in Texas. Fort Worth to be exact
I've been trying to find programs similar to the one you mentioned

This seems to be a similar program offered in Texas.

Family Support Services | Texas Health and Human Services

Family Support Services are services that help families take care of Children with Special Health Care Needs Services Program clients at home. These services can also help a client be more independent and able to take part in family life and community activities.

www.hhs.texas.gov

I wish you and your family member the best.

Let me look for something for adults.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

@semicko82

Here's a page about Texas Disability rights. You may be able to find something on here.

Disability Rights Texas

Disability Rights Texas helps people with disabilities understand and exercise their rights, ensuring full and equal participation in society.

disabilityrightstx.org

 

[semicko82]

@semicko82

Here's a page about Texas Disability rights. You may be able to find something on here.

Disability Rights Texas

Disability Rights Texas helps people with disabilities understand and exercise their rights, ensuring full and equal participation in society.

disabilityrightstx.org

Dap and rep

 

[Coolin']

@Mandarin Duck, do you work in mental health? I've noticed you contribute great resources to this thread and you seem very knowledgeable in what you speak.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

@Mandarin Duck, do you work in mental health? I've noticed you contribute great resources to this thread and you seem very knowledgeable in what you speak.

Yea I'm a healthcare analyst.

Spoiler

I work in Prisons and make sure staff members who interact with all inmates that have developmental disabilities take those disabilities into consideration.

 

[Stir Fry]

I've been going through a rough patch myself lately and have discovered journaling to be extremely beneficial to my mental well being while I'm working through a couple things.

I also came across this book that I really like. It is basically a lesson in strength training this muscle between our ears to be much more weighted towards positive responses rather than negative reactions to any issues that may present themselves to us.

https://middleofthepacific.files.wordpress.com/2012/11/mobook8120.pdf

This is a good article too