Here is a key that changed everything for me and I hope it helps someone.
Let go.
How?
Let go of the
self-perceived benefit you get from holding on.
For example.
I needed to let go of the aggression and defensiveness I feel at times. The
self-perceived benefit of this is; that aggressive energy protects me. I fear looking soft or like someone can take advantage of me. So I over-compensate.
So then the real question is, what do I value more? Holding on to that energy...Or letting go and growing spiritually. It's a host of things that keep us from manifesting, we won't get to the root of any of them if we aren't honest with our self. If we don't critically scrutinize our reasons.
So letting that
self-perceived benefit go just means I'm letting go of fear when I dig deep. (we all have fear in some form or fashion) So all my thoughts and beliefs would be geared towards feeling courageous and confident. AKA, those feelings on the opposite end.
But do you guys know what the opposite of love is?
NOT hatred...
It's fear.
So in this example, I would need to transmute that fear energy with love somehow. How?
That's where the roads can differ. It's many way routes to get to a location.
I just know the more I love what I do, or love myself...or love an interaction...or love whatever, the more I will not find a
self-perceived benefit in holding on to that fear that caused me to be aggressive and impatient. I'd start seeing a verbal attack as a learning lesson for me to grow and not to tear me down. I'd be grateful for the opportunity to grow, and to improve. My whole perception of the same situation would change. That's our super-power. That's how we can change anything in life. Simply change how we see it.
I don't know what this'll do for any of you, but it really helped make a lot of things make sense to ME...