The happily married or in a relationship thread. (Positive posts only)

[-DMP-]

Great thread. A young breh been thinking about marriage and what not as I get older. Needed all these positive anecdotes

Needs to be stickied.

 

[Tanahashi Coates]

Damn our stories are almost identical.

Met my fiance back in high school and asked for her number while riding the train home. Transfered to another school in my Junior year and that lead to us breaking up. We stayed in touch with each other throughout the years and she's probably heard more of my manwhoring stories than I remember. I was living with a girl when she called me to meet up and we ended up making out. My ex was always jealous/wary of our friendship because we were extremely close and probably for good reason. She ended up going overseas to pursue her Masters and when she came back, the spark returned. Ended up dropping my casual relationships and we've been together for almost 3 years and we're getting married in a couple weeks. She's the positive to my negative . When I'm being a pessimistic a$$hole she's always there to hold me down and reassure me that shyt isn't doom and gloom.

To add, we've been through a lot of shyt. The strength of our relationship comes from being friends throughout the years and not tripping over the small things.

 

[Tanahashi Coates]

Great thread. A young breh been thinking about marriage and what not as I get older. Needed all these positive anecdotes

Needs to be stickied.

I'm not gonna be preachy but I was all "fukk marriage, fukk kids" until I started getting tired of the game. Getting sex was never the issue for me, it was the lack of intimacy with those I slept with.

 

[-DMP-]

For all the married brehs. What would y'all say the hardest thing about marriage is, and what could y'all have as done a couple to maybe circumvent the problem?

 

[Colicat]

Wife and I have been married for almost 10 yrs. Have a son and daughter.

Has been An amazing 10 yrs. Couldn't ask for more.

Up

Here's to 10 times more

 

[-DMP-]

I'm not gonna be preachy but I was all "fukk marriage, fukk kids" until I started getting tired of the game. Getting sex was never the issue for me, it was the lack of intimacy with those I slept with.

Yea, I tell my married homie all the time ain't nothing out here for him.

 

[Black Sinatra]

How old are the kids? What's stopping her from getting a job. I had a good stretch of unemployment, and even though I would still carry most of the weight financially it was tough to relate to her normal 9-5 routine of bosses and co-workers. Our relationship quite a bit once I picked up a normal job again.

both kids under 10.
She has been employed both away and in home. I encouraged her to focus on post graduate degree realization and proper child rearing. No pressure financially.
My assumption is she simply wants to "have her own"...self equity. It's a matter of where she saw herself without me VS how life turned out. That is 90% of where resentment evolves in any relationship. I'm lowkey proud of her battling with being mad at not being individually successful...in regards to professionally, she the g.o.a.t mom tho.

 

[Tanahashi Coates]

both kids under 10.
She has been employed both away and in home. I encouraged her to focus on post graduate degree realization and proper child rearing. No pressure financially.
My assumption is she simply wants to "have her own"...self equity. It's a matter of where she saw herself without me VS how life turned out. That is 90% of where resentment evolves in any relationship. I'm lowkey proud of her battling with being mad at not being individually successful...in regards to professionally, she the g.o.a.t mom tho.

Have you thought about therapy?

 

[Stir Fry]

both kids under 10.
She has been employed both away and in home. I encouraged her to focus on post graduate degree realization and proper child rearing. No pressure financially.
My assumption is she simply wants to "have her own"...self equity. It's a matter of where she saw herself without me VS how life turned out. That is 90% of where resentment evolves in any relationship. I'm lowkey proud of her battling with being mad at not being individually successful...in regards to professionally, she the g.o.a.t mom tho.

That's what's up. A successful relationship is all about learning to compromise on certain things and truly embracing the more positive traits of their partner.

 

[Black Sinatra]

Have you thought about therapy?

I'm pretty certain she wouldn't be receptive to somebody else telling her she needs to make some changes.
She knows I'm right most of the time...she knows a therapist would agree with me too. Her mom takes my side on all issues....the bih just tired of me being correct breh.

I have since relinquished my desire to counsel on certain matters. Her decisions...her mistakes/successes...and I can see she is better with that. Hell, I even intentionally do impulse purchasing...just so she can have a reason to point a finger at me on occasion like " yeah...prally couldve done without this XBOX one huh?...you right".

Get strategically scolded by your wife while ignoring because you low key accounted for the expenditure...yet sold it as unplanned....while simultaneously underestimating how entertaining NBA2K really is breh.

 

[Black Sinatra]

For all the married brehs. What would y'all say the hardest thing about marriage is, and what could y'all have as a couple to maybe circumvent the problem?

The hardest thing about marriage? Giving up the three S's

Stillness, Silence, and Space.

Took me 2 years to adapt.

 

[MajorVitaman]

My girlfriend is cool AF, cute, and she's smart.

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

2.5 year happy stress-free relationship

We're going to the one of the brewerys and a food truck meet up tonight and then we're going to see Spectre

We were supposed to marathon some of the Bond Movies but my flight got delayed yesterday. She's only seen one of the movies her entire life

 

[...o3]

i met her in a past life, so even though our relationship is new to me in this life, she is blatantly familiar to me. she raises your boy's vibrations to levels i can't yet fathom. i've never been this happy.

 

[LeVraiPapi]

@BLAZO da GAWD