The longer I live, the more apparent it becomes that most people (men and women alike) are full of shyt. What people primarily engage in socially is this legerdemain that acts to persevere and protect their ego. When that breh graduated law school and stated he’s the prize now — a lot of dudes on here agreed with him. A lot of women on social media said he’s not cute enough for that declaration, and so on. Here, you have an accomplished woman basically saying that’s the kind of man she’s wants, and you have men saying that she’s not cute enough for those stipulations. Essentially, it’s the other side of the same damn coin.
Moreover, is what she’s asking for really that crazy? I’m 30+, no kids, I start on my PhD in the fall at either Rice or Notre Dame, have no issues with whatever people choose to do sexually in their bedroom or whatever they sexually identify as. I don’t have to call someone a fakkit to feel like a man. Additionally, I have no interest romantically or sexually in other men — and never have. I can hold these positions simultaneously. I’ve never been married, and being a baby daddy is not an option. Yet, despite being a p*ssy magnet and putting up prime Kobe numbers yearly — not siring any children has been incredibly easy.
If she doesn’t look good enough for those requirements, and she’s a bytch and all this other extra-curricular shyt… what we’re really saying is that we’re more animalistic and primal than we want to admit. And if that’s the case most of that shyt people talk socially about what women need to do to attract men — particularly black men — is bullshyt. Right? If it all really boils down to how fine a woman is, she should get a BBL, and get her chi’s chi’s done, start rocking a 27 piece, and her requests becomes much more reasonable. That’s kinda warped, no?
To keep it real, if her expectations were on the opposite end of the spectrum, y’all would say she needs to choose better. If she was somewhere in the middle, “Oh, she wants Tupac in business suit.” If Tupac in a business suit fukked her over and left her as a baby momma, “Oh, she should have had higher expectations. She should have chose better.” Basically, for a woman that isn’t prime Cherokee D’ass Phatty Girl 2 fine — it’s always going to be her fault, so I can’t blame shorty for wanting what she wants because no will give a damn if shyt goes sideways, because she’s not fine, right?
People are funny.