The black male personal development/responsibility thread.

[PikaDaDon]

...Guess I'll re-iterate a post I made a couple of months ago on here since it's somewhat relevant:

http://www.the-coli.com/2289437-post32.html

http://www.the-coli.com/2289495-post35.html

 

[winb83]

[ame]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8SrAew6B-W8[/ame]
Learn what MGTOW accept it and do it. Stop being a slave to what society says you should do with your life as a man..

 

[I_Q]

@ Marcuz you bring up perfect points but it will fall on deaf ears as always, at least for the most part. It's very difficult to ask black men to not put as much value into those things when we've been conditioned for so long to believe they determine our worth. A good woman will support her man if he's working his ass off even if he drives a 92 Toyota and wears regular shoes, but most of us it seems are only worth shyt if we got that Charger, or those Jordan's, or that bad bytch that makes every other man envious. Honestly I haven't given up hope completely but there's no way we will all get own the same page, the damage done to our community has been too devastating and we have an influx of young black children learning and being conditioned by the same system. I also don't see an end to our community being pimped by other communities, like you mentioned we're all so consumer based and that's not just us but Americans in general. These immigrants come over pimp the shyt out of us and our system and send money back home to their people, while we slave away die broke and leave nothing for our seeds.

 

[Wild self]

We really need to stop being slaves to p*ssy.

Blame it on everything that pressures us. From middle school, there were dudes that were fukking walrus looking girls cause they had to lose their viriginity as fast as they can. A lot of them were fathers by the 10th grade. Plus grown men out there (30+) are still changing their clothing styles to get with women and even go as far as ruining their life for it.

we have to get out of this dumbass consumer mind state, first of all. i know a lot of us were raised by single mothers, which is why we think like women. but buying a bunch of shyt when you're not producing a bunch of shyt is setting us up for failure. how do black folks have the most buying power in america, yet we're the poorest group.

i think we've gotta start looking at how mexicans are excelling in america. many of them garden for fresh fruits and vegetables. they farm chickens and fish. then they sell the food to their own community. i know we don't have the resources to build fortune 500 businesses, but we could at least profit off the basics like food.

there's a black owned soul food restaurant up the street, they're always packed. this is the direction many of us should take when considering small businesses. there's a guy that sells popcorn out of a truck on crenshaw, dude makes 200-300 dollars a day. this is good money. we gotta stop being too cool to earn a buck the hard way.

i see a lot of coli posters started wholesaling from china, that's a good start. i sold iphone cases in 2010, started out as a hobby. but i ended up making around 50-100 day just off selling 50 cent cases, chargers, screen protectors for 5-10 bucks.

The consumer state is very feminine and illogical, IMO. When I see a man brag about how many clothes he buys, while he says that he gets more clothes than a girl, I see it very .

 

[Squirtle]

We need to stop being so damn negative, most of the stuff we say is bringing someone down.

 

[marcuz]

We need to stop being so damn negative, most of the stuff we say is bringing someone down.

damn, described me on coli to a T

i think black males have a tendency to be negative around others is because we're taught to believe regular emotions are signs of weakness. we constantly have to prove we're the alpha male and simple things like being hurt, jealous, or even in love is feeble. plus the whole crab in the bucket mentality.

then again, a lot of us are just comedic trolls behind the monitor

 

[Squirtle]

damn, described me on coli to a T

i think black males have a tendency to be negative around others is because we're taught to believe regular emotions are signs of weakness. we constantly have to prove we're the alpha male and simple things like being hurt, jealous, or even in love is feeble. plus the whole crab in the bucket mentality.

then again, a lot of us are just comedic trolls behind the monitor

Although I meant off the internet I agree, I can't even act nice around the homies with out them asking me if I'm gay or something. Its like we have to have a constant frown 24/7.

 

[Squirtle]

damn, described me on coli to a T

i think black males have a tendency to be negative around others is because we're taught to believe regular emotions are signs of weakness. we constantly have to prove we're the alpha male and simple things like being hurt, jealous, or even in love is feeble. plus the whole crab in the bucket mentality.

then again, a lot of us are just comedic trolls behind the monitor

Although I meant off the internet I agree, I can't even act nice around the homies with out them asking me if I'm gay or something. Its like we have to have a constant frown 24/7. Anything else isn't normal.

 

[Carter G. Hoodson]

It starts with the foundation at home. Disciplining the child is necessary but educating them as well is essential. We cannot trust the Prussian model of education that these Euro's have been brainwashing our kids with. How the hell do we expect a child with deep roots to evolve and grow in a world when they don't know themselves, their heritage?...etc

We have to make it essential that they treat these young women with the respect they deserve. Nowadays, plenty young women act accordingly to the way we see them.

 

[PikaDaDon]

I've been severely depressed for years but as for as personal development goes I plan on going back to school to study business administration and finance. Ultimate I want to own my own bank and finance scientific research (i.e.: stem cell research, nanoscience, space exploration, etc.) as well as infrastructure (i.e.: build roads, schools, hospitals, provide energy/electricity) in Africa.

I want my personal success to extend to my family and future generations. Here is a repost from another topic:

I want to start a family where we emulate some of the characteristics and traditions of European royal families, the Rothschilds, Rockefellers, etc. Where there will be kings, queens, princes, etc. within the internal family structure. All of my children will inherit a piece of my wealth. My sons will be encouraged to marry other blacks (I don't want a white woman to divorce my son and steal all of his money). My children will also be encouraged to become bankers/investors/people of great power.

More importantly I will have to preserve the wealth within the family by, perhaps, promoting cousin intermarriage (Rothschild: Rothschild family - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia ; Discover Magazine: The latest in science and technology news, blogs and articles - Go Ahead, Kiss Your Cousin) for my grandchildren (my current family is too 'Americanized' to even consider this).

My ultimate goal is to establish a black banking dynasty throughout North and South America, Europe, Africa, and Asia. Basically do the same thing the Rothschilds did by spreading across Europe but only on a global scale.

 

[MewTwo]

I've been severely depressed for years but as for as personal development goes I plan on going back to school to study business administration and finance. Ultimate I want to own my own bank and finance scientific research (i.e.: stem cell research, nanoscience, space exploration, etc.) as well as infrastructure (i.e.: build roads, schools, hospitals, provide energy/electricity) in Africa.

I want my personal success to extend to my family and future generations. Here is a repost from another topic:

Interesting post. Funny how alot of your posts get ignored on here. Black men in general don't seem to give a shyt about their children/family and just want to bust a nut for bragging rights. It's very rare to see someone in their 20's muster a plan like this.

 

[Wild self]

Although I meant off the internet I agree, I can't even act nice around the homies with out them asking me if I'm gay or something. Its like we have to have a constant frown 24/7. Anything else isn't normal.

Blame for that shyt. It is getting better though in the hipster era. When I was growing up, if you were smiling or laughing, you were 'weak" or "soft." Traumatizing to say the least. I still have a expression at times cause that shyt is hard to break.

 

[marcuz]

Blame for that shyt. It is getting better though in the hipster era. When I was growing up, if you were smiling or laughing, you were 'weak" or "soft." Traumatizing to say the least. I still have a expression at times cause that shyt is hard to break.

you cant blame any one person, especially pac. these problems were around before he even thought of rapping. it's generational.

 

[Wild self]

you cant blame any one person, especially pac. these problems were around before he even thought of rapping. it's generational.

My fault, its the crack era that made monsters out of people.

 

[Squirtle]

Blame for that shyt. It is getting better though in the hipster era. When I was growing up, if you were smiling or laughing, you were 'weak" or "soft." Traumatizing to say the least. I still have a expression at times cause that shyt is hard to break.

Truth, especially with the bolded.