Your logic is flawed in all types of ways. First there are more prosperous people than homeless crackheads so just going by numbers my kids have a better chance of being successful than not. Second who are you to say working at mcdonalds is a bad thing. It's not the best outcome but there are plenty of proud people flipping burgers and taking care of themselves. Plenty of parents are proud of their autistic kids, hell Einstein was probably autistic. And lastly raising kids is not about shielding them from a connected world or controlling them. It's about raising them with dignity, respect and morals, and the ability to think for themselves. Society only raises kids who's parents won't do it themselves. Influence can't be stopped but if you raise them correctly they will know how to deal with those influences.
Think about it like this. Movies are rated Pg and Pg-13 not because kids shouldn't see them but because Parents should be present to offer GUIDENCE on the things the kids might see.
would you wish for your child to be working at McDonald's at 40? would you desire to have an autistic child if given the choice to have a perfectly normal child or an autistic one?
raising kids is about giving a child the opportunity to become the best person possible. parents want their children to turn into a person they'd be proud of. would you love a 40 year old basement dweller that works at a fast food joint? probably but quit acting like that's how you'd want your child to turn out.
you can't raise your children correctly because my parents did everything they could to raise me that way and the moment they weren't around i went against their directions. you can't always be there. i've seen my little cousins swallowed up by the streets turned into young thugs despite their parents best efforts to raise them otherwise. their parents didn't teach them that shyt or instill those values in them. i know both them and the parents and those children ended up finding other children and being influenced by other children. next thing you know you getting a call saying your child was arrested with other children who was robbing a corner store. society will find a way to reach your kids and corrupt them in some way despite your best efforts.
my parents wouldn't let me listen to rap as a child so i saved my lunch money and walked to the store before i hit the bus stop and bought rap cds. you think my parents ever even exposed me to rap? you think they told me what South Park was? i couldn't even watch the Simpsons as a kid. in jr high when the kid gave me a porno and i sneaked it into the house and watched it while they slept in the middle of the night was that something they wanted me to do?
kids will find a way to do shyt you don't want. you can't really control how they turn out.
love is the rationalization of insanity. the absence of logic so of course parents love their children for the most part regardless of how they turn out but lets quit pretending parents who put their all into raising failures wanted them to turn out they way they did. lets also quit dressing up failure and pretending like there's no such thing. despite your best efforts you or i could have a child put our all into raising them and have them be a failure.
I live for my children not by force its a choice I made the day I PLANNED to have them.
