STOP TALKING TO WOMEN. Don't say anything to Random women. #HOH

[12345A]

nikka it works for me so why you on my dikk I never had to approach women, guess I'm just a good lookin nikka

Or they felt sorry for you.

 

[AAKing23]

Or they felt sorry for you.

Stay salty

 

[Liquid]

I didn't read any of this thread and I doubt I have to.

Here are the facts:
In most cultures around the world, it is generally accepted that MEN are the initiators. This whole idea that women are "offended" or somehow trying to use "cat-calling" as some sort of wrong is annoying when women are the ones who prefer men to initiate conversation first. In this politically correct culture we all live in now we are starting to get a little ridiculous as to what is deemed "unacceptable". If you don't want men to initiate are you going to convince females in the United States and across the globe to be more forthcoming? This is not rocket-science, single men are always actively seeking a potential mate. Women do it too, but we have to initiate first. Almost every scenario imagineable in where a single man or female goes out there is always that thought in the back of their mind that they can meet someone special. It is a thrill, it is necessary, it is natural, and it is fun to communicate with new people.

Men accept these facts when approaching women:
Chance of success is slim, this is a given. Been like that since the start of time.
There is a slight risk of embarrassment, this is common in a public setting.
Most don't like the idea of having "friends" hooking each other up past high school-shortly after college.

Tinder is not a natural way of communicating, you need an initiator to start a conversation. Anyone can prove me wrong and I will continue.

 

[12345A]

Stay salty

You got the looks I got the height swag and money.

 

[KOOL-AID]

Yesterday I swear I saw male under your name I just went to your profile and someone was begging you to fucj en doggy style.

Naw not a dude, n that was a tranny in his feelings

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

I tried but the black dudes in California don't like bw

I used to want to marry a black dude sooo bad but all I kept hearing was " I need me a snow bunny, a Latina, or an Asian" or "I don't fukk with black bytches/hoes" you gotta just move on. I typically stick with Latinos and brown guys if that counts.

What kinda bullshyt lie is this?

You probably some goofy looking chick, and caught the attention of some desperate no p*ssy gettin, musty ass sand nikka

And bet money you don't live in LA or never really spent any time there.

No black excellence in Cali

Is that why @marcuz mad

That's a damn lie

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

What if you're tall handsome and fit? Do these rules still apply?

They will approach you. Trust me. Word to brother @Walt.

 

[TRY GOD]

How do you not cold approach? Are you saying that if you saw a girl who you don't know and never met and she ticked all of your physical requirement boxes and you have an opportunity to talk to her you will pass that up because she's a stranger?

Are you us?

I do this every day, b. nikkas need that Self control


I'm pretty good looking, and now I'm in shape and getting muscular. And I'm a flirt like the best of them.



But out on these streets, when a girl gives me the looks, signs, and gestures, I always hit them with the "mama said don't talk to strangers." In fact that would be a good opener.

That shyt makes me feel good to be at the point where a girl is expecting you to say SOMETHING and you just hit her with the . That Self control high get me like



But when they come up to me and actually flip the script I be like

 

[Strawberry]

I'm getting tired of this KENTTV mind-frame about women on the coli. Are yall really out here Cold approaching women in 2015?

lets face facts, The cold approach of talking to women you don't know isn't efficient, and it isn't very effective. Whats worse they are creating laws for you just saying "Hi" to them.


Why do yall continue to harp on this shyt when the solution is very simple. DON'T SAY ANYTHING.


With websites like POF, Social media like Tinder, special interest groups, church, friends, work, gym, there are a ton of these options for people to have a greater success rate at approaching, and yall still want to go with this previous level cold approach shyt


DO YOU WANT TO BE BOTHERED BY RANDOM STRANGERS WHILE YOU ARE OUT AND ABOUT?


Think about it like this, what is your reaction when an able-bodied homeless grown ass man comes up to you with his stories of hardship trying to get some money?


Well when you cold approach, you are that homeless man. NOBODY WANTS TO BE SOLICITED.

I strongly disagree.

I have recently expressed my opinion on this topic in 2 previous threads.

This is how I feel:

From: http://www.thecoli.com/threads/is-t...e-when-nikkas-wanna-talk-to-you-mjpls.350840/

(Video in the thread shows a dude tryin to cold approach a girl in a store and she acts like a bytch)

All girls are not like that bytch.

Poor guy was just showin some interest and she acts all stupid filmin it and sayin dumb shyt like "I don't have a name".

She could have just said "Sorry, I'm not interested." or "Sorry I'm taken." like an adult but this bytch insisted on being rude and then accused him of being rude.

People are weird.

I'm probably the most friendly girl on the Coli. I love people and I talk to pretty much everyone except a$$holes or people with negative energy.

I probably would have ended up smokin a spliff with that dude

&

From the thread: http://www.thecoli.com/threads/dealing-with-modern-women-is-unbearable.349558/

Bad advice?

WAKE UP DUDE!!!!!

You:


Me:

This guy randomly approached me a week or 2 ago. He had the balls to take a chance and approach me and I was receptive cuz he was sexy & charming.

Anyways I was busy & we fell out of touch (I think he gave me his # but I never gave him mine, so it was on me to contact him) and we randomly bumped into each other tonight & now we're gonna fukk


So what am I trying to make you learn here, you ask?



-be in tune with your natural attraction

-DO NOT be afraid to approach people you are attracted to (Say hello at least!!)

-being in the right place at the right time is very fukking real

-shyt is MEANT TO BE

-DO NOT give a fukk if you're rejected, move on, she wasn't the one

@DrX

I just wanted to give you a recap/play by play & update from the story with the dude that randomly approached me at the liquor store.

-dude randomly says hello to me as I'm leavin the liquor store

-I stop and talk with him for a minute

-He gives me his # & tells me to call him later

-I got busy, never called, forgot about it for a minute and then was like I never called that dude...I wonder what he's sayin?

-I still don't call

-I make a run to a convenience store in my hood. As I'm on my way out dude from the liquor store walks in with some friends. I don't recognize him right away but made very suggestive and deliberate eye contact with him cuz I was attracted to him. Turns out he was in my way, so I apologize and then he's like hey, do you remember me and I'm like the liquor store dude that I was just thinkin of earlier!

-I had to run to a friend's and he told me to link up with him after

-He calls, Im busy. I call back, he's busy. I shoot him a late night booty call style text, no answer

-When I wake up he texts back asking me what I'm up to. I tell him I gotta do a few things but that I'll be tanning on my roof in the afternoon & invite him over

-He comes by with a friend, knocks on my door, I answer wearing a bikini, ready to go tan on the roof

-We smoke a spliff, friend leaves, we immediately start whinin & daggering to dancehall

-Within about 5min we start making out. 5min later, we're on our way to my apt.

-We have a quality sex session, that I can honestly say was the best sex I've had all summer

It was some real Goldilocks shyt, that D felt just right. I dunno if it's the same for guys with girl's pussies when sometimes it just feels so good/so right? You guys must be able to feel that too...anyway

-I tell him I'm so glad that we met & bumped into each other again and he tells me it was meant to be

See what I'm sayin? shyt is meant to be. You gotta learn to pick up on this stuff and stop brushing off what you might consider to be "coincidences". I'm telling you yo, this shyt is very real!

Anyway we end out hanging all day, drinkin, smokin, eatin...by evening he's callin me bae . He even takes a couple selfies of us cuddlin/kissin

We ended up fukkin 3 times and it hasn't even been 24 hours since we first chilled 1 on 1

All this because he took a chance and said hello to me. We were literally passing by each other and he said hello and that was it!

I ended up being attracted to him/interested so for sure that helped the situation but he didn't know this and took the random approach route and it worked like gold. Maybe not as immediately as it could have happened but life just randomly brought us back together and it was definitely worth the wait.

That's all it takes sometimes (random approach) and I challenge you to try this even though you're against it. Brush off any rejections you encounter (wasn't meant to be...NEXT!), keep your chin up & you're bound to hit a quality chick eventually.

Can you really live with yourself knowing you could have passed up a really awesome person (or even just awesome sex depending what you're after) just because you were too shy or stubborn to say hello to someone who attracted you?

I can't

Take more chances, trust me. Put yourself out there and follow your natural attraction. And pay attention to body language too...maybe you just assume she's not interested meanwhile you don't even notice what her body language is telling you.

Now get out there & report back!

I want play by plays, updates & all that!

*EDIT: It's very important to note the other lesson learned in my story: just because she doesn't call doesn't mean she's not interested! There are a percentage of girls like myself that are interested but get busy and forget about shyt.

What?
I think OP has some important lessons to learn from my story.

He asked for advice approaching/finding women. I suggest the random approach technique and remind him that shyt happens for a reason and is meant to be. He doesn't like my advice and refuses to ever randomly approach women again.

then magically, as if on cue, my story of random approach + things happening for a reason + cuz it's meant to be plays out in front of me.

This was literally the same night I was tryin to explain to OP about random approach/meant to be/for a reason. shyt's happenin in real time.

And then I reported back with solid evidence that random approach not only works but can have extremely satisfied results for both

And on top of that, you have a clear example of natural attraction, things happening for a reason & shyt being meant to be. My dude even said it to me, I couldn't believe it
Just makes the story so perfect







The random approach is versatile and can be for whatever you want it to be. If you want to use it for sex, use it for sex. If you want to use it for finding a quality woman, then use it for that.

You gotta start somewhere and you'll never know unless you try

Trust me, get out there!

And in addition, I tried my own cold approach just for fun a couple days ago and it worked like a charm. Exchanged contact info in 2min & he's been hittin me up to hang.

You just have to know how to do a cold approach. Feel the vibe. Practice makes perfect

 

[Ashley Banks]

What kinda bullshyt lie is this?

You probably some goofy looking chick, and caught the attention of some desperate no p*ssy gettin, musty ass sand nikka

And bet money you don't live in LA or never really spent any time there.



That's a damn lie

I'm not "goofy looking" but whatever makes you feel better.

and I don't live in LA

 

[TEH]

I do this every day, b. nikkas need that Self control


I'm pretty good looking, and now I'm in shape and getting muscular. And I'm a flirt like the best of them.



But out on these streets, when a girl gives me the looks, signs, and gestures, I always hit them with the "mama said don't talk to strangers." In fact that would be a good opener.

That shyt makes me feel good to be at the point where a girl is expecting you to say SOMETHING and you just hit her with the . That Self control high get me like



But when they come up to me and actually flip the script I be like

All I can say is that your self control is at Buddhist Monk levels.

 

[Elle Driver]

What kinda bullshyt lie is this?

You probably some goofy looking chick, and caught the attention of some desperate no p*ssy gettin, musty ass sand nikka

And bet money you don't live in LA or never really spent any time there.



That's a damn lie

I'm hearing it's on a million out there

Don't tell me you PAWGING

 

[TRY GOD]

All I can say is that your self control is at Buddhist Monk levels.

I ain't gunna lie, I don't get laid tho.


I actually don't approach women in any setting


It's not that I can't get laid, I just don't want to put in any work#toomuchselfcontrol

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

I was waiting for the train the other day when I noticed a fine one with a fat ass eyeing me in my peripheral. She was doing that pat the side of the head whilst looking my direction.

I thought about approaching but then I remembered I was broke, swagless and under 6 ft so I kept pretending to text

Missed opportunities.

She probably thought u were p*ssy

 

[TheNig]

There's nothing wrong with approaching a woman even if she doesn't give you "signs" that she's interested, but if she says she isn't interested, just walk away.

I've never approached a lady and she was a turd about it.