Spin thread: How many brehs are actually looking to date or be with a woman?

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Yeah, Houston is cool but a lot of women I've been encountering are not really serious. A girl I was dating last year was real cool but I had to end it because I wanted to take things further but she wasn't with it. She said she's too young to settle down even though she's 28.

Strange
28 is the perfect age for women to get married

 

[WaveMolecules]

Married.

If you choose correctly, it’ll be on of the best decisions you ever make.

 

[Neuromancer]

Yeah, Houston is cool but a lot of women I've been encountering are not really serious. A girl I was dating last year was real cool but I had to end it because I wanted to take things further but she wasn't with it. She said she's too young to settle down even though she's 28.

One has to wonder how much of that is her and how much of that is outside influence i.e. social media? I'm assuming you're a younger cat. Not wanting to settle down is one thing but saying you're too young when you're almost 30 is kinda odd. I'm 38 mind you so maybe I'm just an old head.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

got divorced in 2022. that shyt killed me..

sorry to hear that

 

[BBG]

Yall think I'm joking when I say I pay these hoes ZERO mind, but my paper ain't never been straighter since I made a conscious decision to ignore these birds. If "the one" falls out the sky I feel like I'd recognize her and act accordingly but aside from that I enjoy the space I'm in because it feels powerful as fukk.

 

[Neuromancer]

Very few.

It seems like dudes aren't even trying which is fine. I get the juice ain't worth the squeeze. Maybe I'm just outta touch? shyt looks bleak

 

[Neuromancer]

got divorced in 2022. that shyt killed me..

but now, I just date when I want. Marriage a contract, but I'd do it again

Sorry to hear brehski

 

[Mr. Jack Napier]

I would like to, but I'm not on anyone's radar, so I've kind of given up.

 

[richaveli83]

One has to wonder how much of that is her and how much of that is outside influence i.e. social media? I'm assuming you're a younger cat. Not wanting to settle down is one thing but saying you're too young when you're almost 30 is kinda odd. I'm 38 mind you so maybe I'm just an old head.

Naw, I'm 40. I'm looking at my mortality more and more. I was engaged years ago but it ended BADLY and I became very bitter so for almost ten years I was on some city boy shyt.

 

[Neuromancer]

Naw, I'm 40. I'm looking at my mortality more and more. I was engaged years ago but it ended BADLY and I became very bitter so for almost ten years I was on some city boy shyt.

Ah I see. I went through that phase but in like my late 20's. Gotta heal breh. That stuff eats you.

 

[WIA20XX]

It seems like dudes aren't even trying which is fine. I get the juice ain't worth the squeeze. Maybe I'm just outta touch? shyt looks bleak

It's like matrix of factors

Factor 1 - Cats trying to spend the least, because spending anything on a female is a sin.
Factor 2 - Cats trying to hook up, on night 1 - money might help, money might hurt -
Factor 3 - Broke dudes that can't
Factor 4 - Simps that think that spending money IS the way to get affection
Factor 5 - Cats going on dates to see if there's chemistry
Factor 6 - Cats looking for a wife.
Etc

Some of this is the dude's age, some is his experience with women (be it positive or negative)

But the main problem is that cats in all these different camps - think that everyone else is a bunch of dummies. Unwilling to entertain different ideas and motivations.

 

[beenz]

Married.

If you choose correctly, it’ll be on of the best decisions you ever make.

@Rekkapryde

 

[hood b. goode]

Post-pandemic, dating fell off HARD.
I can set my watch to it

- Flirt over dating app
- Meet in person
- Chick is entitled and stuck up, no 2nd date


OR chick is feeling me, but shes dating 5 other dudes and 10 more are tryin to get at her

Fizzles out.

Ive reached the point where I wonder whats the point. For a little more than the cost of a 1st date you could buy some guaranteed

 

[Rekkapryde]

@Rekkapryde

shyt ain't easy, but I know I got lucky.

If shyt don't work out long term, I'm going to Africa. Word to @MikelArteta

 

[Vandelay]

Been married before, and it was a shytshow...but I got what I allowed. Not jaded, but I have a much lower tolerance for bullshyt since.

Broke up with an LTR in January. Started dating again in March. I'm either getting pretty chicks (7-8's) that have a funky attitude or 5-6's that I'm only mildly attracted to. Thinking about pausing dating again to get my personal shyt in order because I still have a lot of ties with my LTR ex; financially and relationally.

I really do want to be in a relationship with one woman and we're on the same page; emotionally, mentally, romantically, sexually. I don't think I want a great deal, but I don't want a basic bytch either. It's probably gonna take me a while to find that in someone I'm actually attracted to.