Spin: More Women need to start being honest with men.
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And the 2nd part?
After the Kent thread
http://www.thecoli.com/threads/women-pulling-the-i-have-a-boyfriend-card.427647/unread
I see the need for common decency and respect from one human being to another. Ladies if you already don't, we need to be straight up with the men that approach us.
If you don't have a boyfriend, don't lie and say you do out of convenience. Deal with the awkward, uncomfortable conversation. Be blunt, tell the truth. I mean, he took the risk to approach you after all. That way you can both move on knowing the truth. Woman up, we can do that and we should encourage our fellow women.
And we will...As soon as men are straight up, and honest about their intentions and thoughts right off the bat as well. I mean surely if the truth is needed for something as small as an approach from a stranger, it is also needed when dealing with someone's body, feelings, sex, and mind . Deal with that awkward uncomfortable conversation. Possibly not getting what you want. That way you can both move on knowing the truth.
Come on guys, let’s do this
http://www.thecoli.com/threads/a-3-...ecaus-a-man-was-told-no-by-her-mother.428385/
I'm cool.
That is not what I am getting at.
I knew it
But to the second part, I think men are pretty straight forward with there intentions. I think alot of times women just don't want to believe what it is or "change" a man.
You don't have to say much to know that a dude is only there for the sex, most dudes arent keeping female company because they like being friends and just hanging out with them. If they like all that they usually are trying to lock them down unless they have other things in life they are trying to deal with which usually still we let women know.
If a dude steps to you and s say's i'd like to get to know you, he probably means it.
Dudes are pretty upfront at 1st, its later on that you need to start worrying.
are you really suggesting that men who only want sex from a woman make that known upfront?
Well what are you getting at?
On an approach basis?
I'll just keep saying whatever I can to not hurt their feelings and keep my safety. I've been cussed out, threatened, and I'm cool with lying to not have to deal with it.
BelowTheMasonDixon
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I remember this guy waiting for a train asked me if I had a boyfriend. I said yes (i didnt), then he said "do you cheat"?
they dont stop
What kind of train?
the green line
so you want a guy to roll up and be like "hey I want casual sex from you and if your personality is tolerable, I may consider making you my main girl"
or "hey I just want to fukk you"
you will respond positively to that women
Or shall the games continue
or "hey I just want to fukk you"you will respond positively to that womenOr shall the games continue
Sure but most women not gonna like hearin dudes just wanna smash tho so that might not be the best course of action. However wording it differently and bein considerate and respectful could wrk, idk.
are you really suggesting that men who only want sex from a woman make that known upfront?
In certain situations yes.
"What it do"
"When we getting up out of here"
"You leaving with me tonight right"
I've heard it all, there are the rare occasion where I've had a chick be upfront about wanting just a quick smash. But most the time its a game of connect four, and its up to the man to figure it out and make the move.
Over all a man will let a woman know early on if he's mostly interested in sex, friendship, companionship or a relationship. Maybe not jump, but when they get that 1st call or text at 12-2: am "Hey ma, you trying to come over I'd like to see you" it should be clear
so you want a guy to roll up and be like "hey I want casual sex from you and if your personality is tolerable, I may consider making you my main girl"
Or shall the games continue
the point is, if she's the type of woman who's only interested in sex, she won't mind the guy being upfront about his desire to have sex, the problem is that nikkas don't want to risk reducing their odds of getting sex so they'd much rather play games and rationalize it with bullshyt like "women want to be lied to".