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OP is Nigerian why not take up @Matt504 @Art Barr suggestion and find a Nigerian girl who just moved to the USA who ain't into Western materialism?

Why not? @*F*U*N*E*R*A*L*

Not tryna play devils advocate but maybe you're actually chasing the wrong girls

:skip: You sound like the typical African uncle. "Find you a good Nigerian woman that ain't westernized" lol.
 

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first thing you need to realize is that you take life one day at a time. you cannot change what traits girls tend to like in men; what you can do is change your presentation. what you need to do is just start hollering at ugly girls to get that confidence/experience points up, and then when you acquire more skills you can start to get at prettier girls. but i tell you once, i tell you again. IF YOU WANT A GIRL, PAY HER NO ATTENTION. THEY ARE USED TO nikkaS SIMPIN. ACKNOWLEDGE HER PRESENCE AND LET THEM DECIDE TO GET TO KNOW YOU. AND IF YOU SEE THAT YOUR CURRENT APPROACH IS NOT WORKING APPEARANCE-WISE, CHANGE IT UP.

IF ANYTHING, LIE TO THESE HOES AND TELL THEM THAT YOUR PARENTS WORK WITH THE NIGERIAN GOV'T. THESE DUMB BIRDBRAINS WILL BELIEVE ANYTHING. THEN DUMP THE HOE AND REPEAT THE PROCESS.

AND STOP TRYING TO LOOK FOR LONG TERM shyt. LET THAT HAPPEN WHEN IT HAPPENS. LIVE LIFE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND LOWER THOSE ASTRONOMICAL EXPECTATIONS.
 

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:skip: You sound like the typical African uncle. "Find you a good Nigerian woman that ain't westernized" lol.

I honestly don't think he is the problem. Unlike my other Nigerian brother @#1 pick I don't think OP's problem is his confidence. I don't think if he gets the bravado TheNigerian has he will magically attract the TYPE of woman he wants.

The advice in here is catered to him attracting women, in general , however @*F*U*N*E*R*A*L* has made it pretty clear he also wants a certain type of woman.

Western culture has a lack of these women and maybe he needs to start broadening his horizons to women who haven't been tainted yet.

@Matt504
 

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IF ANYTHING, LIE TO THESE HOES AND TELL THEM THAT YOUR PARENTS WORK WITH THE NIGERIAN GOV'T. THESE DUMB BIRDBRAINS WILL BELIEVE ANYTHING. THEN DUMP THE HOE AND REPEAT THE PROCESS.

AND STOP TRYING TO LOOK FOR LONG TERM shyt. LET THAT HAPPEN WHEN IT HAPPENS. LIVE LIFE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND LOWER THOSE ASTRONOMICAL EXPECTATIONS.

Good God, this is terrible advice.
 

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first thing you need to realize is that you take life one day at a time. you cannot change what traits girls tend to like in men; what you can do is change your presentation. what you need to do is just start hollering at ugly girls to get that confidence/experience points up, and then when you acquire more skills you can start to get at prettier girls. but i tell you once, i tell you again. IF YOU WANT A GIRL, PAY HER NO ATTENTION. THEY ARE USED TO nikkaS SIMPIN. ACKNOWLEDGE HER PRESENCE AND LET THEM DECIDE TO GET TO KNOW YOU. AND IF YOU SEE THAT YOUR CURRENT APPROACH IS NOT WORKING APPEARANCE-WISE, CHANGE IT UP.

IF ANYTHING, LIE TO THESE HOES AND TELL THEM THAT YOUR PARENTS WORK WITH THE NIGERIAN GOV'T. THESE DUMB BIRDBRAINS WILL BELIEVE ANYTHING. THEN DUMP THE HOE AND REPEAT THE PROCESS.

AND STOP TRYING TO LOOK FOR LONG TERM shyt. LET THAT HAPPEN WHEN IT HAPPENS. LIVE LIFE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND LOWER THOSE ASTRONOMICAL EXPECTATIONS.
This ain't good advice for him. He already said he isn't looking and doesn't like short term flings. For him, it's about location for his management, time, appearance, confidence, and faith.

I seen too many of his posts where if nikkas are winning, he would say some shyt like :duck:

Just because you aren't winning, doesn't mean others aren't winning. I really don't know what he stands for either. Most posters have stuff they stand for, most ppl for that reason but what does he stand for is another big question.
 

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I honestly don't think he is the problem. Unlike my other Nigerian brother @#1 pick I don't think OP's problem is his confidence. I don't think if he gets the bravado TheNigerian has he will magically attract the TYPE of woman he wants.

The advice in here is catered to him attracting women, in general , however @*F*U*N*E*R*A*L* has made it pretty clear he also wants a certain type of woman.

Western culture has a lack of these women and maybe he needs to start broadening his horizons to women who haven't been tainted yet.

@Matt504

Tainted by what? :patrice:

Funeral is a cool guy, I don't think he should settle, if he wants a certain type of woman then he should just keep going for it. I don't think he's the problem either, it's good that he won't give up his own values just for some p*ssy. Real talk.
 

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Tainted by what? :patrice:

Funeral is a cool guy, I don't think he should settle, if he wants a certain type of woman then he should just keep going for it. I don't think he's the problem either, it's good that he won't give up his own values just for some p*ssy. Real talk.

You're a beautiful queen and the type of woman most intellectual black men are looking for. However, you must acknowledge Elle that black women such as yourself aren't easy to come by.

Tainted by whatever it is...
 

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This ain't good advice for him. He already said he isn't looking and doesn't like short term flings. For him, it's about location for his management, time, appearance, confidence, and faith.

I seen too many of his posts where if nikkas are winning, he would say some shyt like :duck:

Just because you aren't winning, doesn't mean others aren't winning. I really don't know what he stands for either. Most posters have stuff they stand for, most ppl for that reason but what does he stand for is another big question.
everything should start out short-term. if it can't last short-term, how can you expect it to last long? stop looking for life long shyt, live for today, and if you just take everything one day at a time, eventually it will be long term. stop pursuing that and just let it come to you.
 

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so its better for him to keep expecting a virtuous queen when he isn't properly prepared for that? as i see it, he just needs anyway he can to get some p*ssy. desperate times call for desperate measures.

we've all lied for p*ssy at some point.

He shouldn't settle if he has made the decision to have a strong moral ground of what he wants he shouldn't compromise that.
 

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You're a beautiful queen and the type of woman most intellectual black men are looking for. However, you must acknowledge Elle that black women such as yourself aren't easy to come by.

Tainted by whatever it is...

:mjlol: "Tainted by whatever it is". The Ghanian uncle in you is coming out.

Thanks for that major compliment though. :cheers: :hug:
 

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I honestly don't think he is the problem. Unlike my other Nigerian brother @#1 pick I don't think OP's problem is his confidence. I don't think if he gets the bravado TheNigerian has he will magically attract the TYPE of woman he wants.

The advice in here is catered to him attracting women, in general , however @*F*U*N*E*R*A*L* has made it pretty clear he also wants a certain type of woman.

Western culture has a lack of these women and maybe he needs to start broadening his horizons to women who haven't been tainted yet.

@Matt504
Nigerian's bravado is his overconfidence and his ability to sell you a broken ship which you know is broken but Nigerian markets it so well you buy the ship or at least have interest in it long term. Not to mention my brother, we don't really know what the OP stands for. If you think about it, he makes great points but what is great points without a M.O.

I don't think this is a western culture issue, in this world there are too many options for this to be just a culture issue and there are women who don't partake in the culture for the same reason. This is probably more than just a confidence issue but confidence is a clear issue, make no quarrels about it.
 

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everything should start out short-term. if it can't last short-term, how can you expect it to last long? stop looking for life long shyt, live for today, and if you just take everything one day at a time, eventually it will be long term. stop pursuing that and just let it come to you.
True, BUT everything should have long term goals in mind as well especially if your intentions are for marriage. That goes for both men and women. That ideal short term logic of sex, getting to know each other, and if things work it was meant to be. That's a worldly viewpoint and one that is far from fail proof as well.
 

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Nigerian's bravado is his overconfidence and his ability to sell you a broken ship which you know is broken but Nigerian markets it so well you buy the ship or at least have interest in it long term. Not to mention my brother, we don't really know what the OP stands for. If you think about it, he makes great points but what is great points without a M.O.

I don't think this is a western culture issue, in this world there are too many options for this to be just a culture issue and there are women who don't partake in the culture for the same reason. This is probably more than just a confidence issue but confidence is a clear issue, make no quarrels about it.

Stop comparing him to Nigerian that's such an African Uncle move 'why can't you be like your broda?!?!'

Can we focus on OP and OP alone? :ld:
 
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