So I went to the bar/club last night SOLO for the 1st time....

[kermit da hustla]

The ppl I usually hang out with were busy or didnt have any money...so last night, I'm watching the Celtics game like, "screw this, I'm going out...even if by myself. It's time I start having more self-assuredness in situations like this"

So the place I went to is a kinda a casual club/bar(some ppl wear shorts, hats, etc.), so I just wore some jeans and a t-shirt. My muscle fitted OU t-shirt to be exact...this will play in later. So the whole time I'm drivign in the car, half of me is like "Do you really wanna do this?" other half of me is like "I'm on my YOLO shyt, henceforth. And I'm gonna be positive."

So anyway, I get there bout 11 something, spray a dab of Kenneth Cole cologne, square myself up and head to the door like a . Off the bat, this white chick was like, "you know what, I like you....and I like ur shirt....I'm not gonna even charge you cover." I was like "Really...why thank you very much!"
She said she was from Tulsa.

So then I walked in, and no sooner than I got 10 feet in the door these two brothas were like, "Ahhh man, you got the right shirt on...you went to OU? We did too" So we chopped it up for a minute, then I headed on.

Several mins later, I'm walking around & I spotted this girl I went to college with, she saw me, and so I start talking to her about what she'd been up to since then, etc....while that was goign on, this other dude came up to me like, "hey man, I knew you looked familar, then I got closer and saw ur shirt and remembered you....I went to OU too" (I didnt remember him tho)

By now I'm thinkin', "hey this shyt just might work out afterall."

Anyway, so I leave that area and head over to the dance floor area by the DJ booth & sidebar. I post up....and these two cool ass Nigerian dudes that were over there start talkin to me, and we're hollerin at girls as they pass through, dancing with them etc. I got a beer or two and they offered to pay for it.

Talked to some girls, got a couple girl numbers by the end of the night....and had a great time overall.

I'd lost my swag a while back and was in a severe slump within myself, but last night was like

for me. I'm not all the way back yet, but I'm on the road.

Moral of the story: Have some damn confidence in yourself regardless of the situation, believe that some positive stuff will come to you and it will.

man, you've been missing out. going to a bar solo is dope, provided your game is on point. dressed nicely. groomed well. looking great. you have a better chance of having a girl take you home.

 

[lachreyatarbabypits]

I've done that shyt before in different states

And if I wasn't so damn broke when I was in Europe, I would have done it there too

Clubbing in Europe is ill. I went to this ill club in Madrid that was like 7 floors. Filled with bad ass bytches and not just Spanish women, Black and white. It was nuts. Was with the main chick so i couldnt do shyt but shyt was cool. If you ever got to Madrid go to Grupo Kapital.

 

[kermit da hustla]

Ok I understand everybody wanna pretend like going to the club solo is cool but lets be honest....

9 times outta 10 that shyt is a L. Jadillac may have avoided a L on his outing but don't act like that will happen on a regular basis. Infact he may have taken a L and didn't even know it. The club is all about perception. If anybody tries to say anything different they are a muthafukking lie or they are the dude I'm about to describe. We all know this dude...

Dancing in the middle of the club solo with a 3X Coogi shirt, baggy south pole jeans and shades. From his perspective he's having the time of his life, nobody can tell him nothing. From everyone else's perspective homie is the lamest nikka on earth. Did he walk away with a W that night? Nope....

I'm not saying u will automatically turn into the coogi nikka if u roll solo. But it's hella easy to get lumped into lame nikka category if u roaming around the club by urself. U stick out like a sore thumb unless A. U know mad people in there or B. U pulling bytches constantly. Chances are u not doing either of those. And trust me everybody see u sitting on the wall with ur drink, bobbing ur head to the music trying to look cool. 90% of the time in the club people are just scoping that bytch out looking at everybody.....so we see u nikka.

negged.

if someone plays their cards right, rolling solo will see them leave with a chick more often than if they're having drinks with their bros. it shows confidence, reveals an ease with oneself, and demonstrates to those watching that you aren't dependent upon others to enjoy yourself -- all of these are attractive qualities to females.

 

[dabestkeptsecret]

Honestly Now that I'm older I enjoy going out solo or with another cat more than in a group. Instead of planning who's driving; trying to narrow down a spot; waiting in a long ass line cuz you got mad dudes with you; and than trying to meet up at the end of the night cuz there's always stragglers. It's for the birds. I'd rather go on my own schedule. Get to the spot and divide and conquer if I'm wit my boy or just do me.
I think the pack mentality was cool in college when u had to deal with fights and stuff

 

[Buckeye Fever]

I walk into the spot dolo like it aint shyt. It aint like I go there and post up wit my phone out. I go in, get my drink, holla at a few ppl, and just vibe off the music and crazy shyt nikkaz talk about. Then when it's about to shut down, I head to mcdonalds and get some food i wouldnt eat if i was sober, head home to the wife for her to ask "who all did u talk to tonight?" And i'd be like "darien, nick, charles...."

Her: "no, no, no, no....what GIRLS did u talk to?"

Me:

 

[Malta]

Dancing in the middle of the club solo with a 3X Coogi shirt, baggy south pole jeans and shades. From his perspective he's having the time of his life, nobody can tell him nothing. From everyone else's perspective homie is the lamest nikka on earth. Did he walk away with a W that night? Nope.....

From his perspective is all that matters, he's there for his own enjoyment and if he's having the time of his life nothing else matters. Also, not everyone at the club will be so narrow minded, for every 5 dudes that think he's lame there's a chick that doesn't. At the end of the day how others view you is completely irrelevant if you're having a good time, especially when it'll be mostly dudes thinking he's "lame".

He got numbers, that could turn into a "W" before long.

 

[you're NOT "n!ggas"]

That's cool to hear... I wanna know where you went though

 

[Da Jungles]

Clubbing in Europe is ill. I went to this ill club in Madrid that was like 7 floors. Filled with bad ass bytches and not just Spanish women, Black and white. It was nuts. Was with the main chick so i couldnt do shyt but shyt was cool. If you ever got to Madrid go to Grupo Kapital.

7 floors????

Damn that sounds dope as hell. I do plan on going there so I'm gonna write that shyt down lol

Good looking out!

 

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

buy alma matter shirts...

 

[gldnone913]

I gotta try this

If I told my wife I was going out by myself, she would accuse me of going to fukk a bytch

 

[CrimsonTider]

I will never stop clubbing/going out.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Ok I understand everybody wanna pretend like going to the club solo is cool but lets be honest....

9 times outta 10 that shyt is a L. Jadillac may have avoided a L on his outing but don't act like that will happen on a regular basis. Infact he may have taken a L and didn't even know it. The club is all about perception. If anybody tries to say anything different they are a muthafukking lie or they are the dude I'm about to describe. We all know this dude...

Dancing in the middle of the club solo with a 3X Coogi shirt, baggy south pole jeans and shades. From his perspective he's having the time of his life, nobody can tell him nothing. From everyone else's perspective homie is the lamest nikka on earth. Did he walk away with a W that night? Nope....

I'm not saying u will automatically turn into the coogi nikka if u roll solo. But it's hella easy to get lumped into lame nikka category if u roaming around the club by urself. U stick out like a sore thumb unless A. U know mad people in there or B. U pulling bytches constantly. Chances are u not doing either of those. And trust me everybody see u sitting on the wall with ur drink, bobbing ur head to the music trying to look cool. 90% of the time in the club people are just scoping that bytch out looking at everybody.....so we see u nikka.

nikka please. I've gone dolo plenty of times and ain't no one said shyt to the kid. When you step to a broad do you got all your nikka behind you with a sign saying "We're with this nikka" or do you step to shorty by yourself? If you're scared to do something as a man by yourself, that's a reflection on you. I'm at t he crib now getting right bout to hit the club solo mad excited.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

And for my brehs who travel solo... how do yall do that? Any tips you can give a breh? And would you do a cruise solo?

Went to a cruise and Bahamas solo. If you're confident and you know how to talk to people you good. When I went all the broads I met all say the same thing, "I wish I had the confidence to do things by myself"

negged.

if someone plays their cards right, rolling solo will see them leave with a chick more often than if they're having drinks with their bros. it shows confidence, reveals an ease with oneself, and demonstrates to those watching that you aren't dependent upon others to enjoy yourself -- all of these are attractive qualities to females.

Exactly. When you go out by yourself and approach a broad or a group of broad ive always gotten mad cooperation from them. Not one single time have a chick ever said "you by yourself? You must not have any friends"

Yall the same nikkas who terrified to go to a restaurant by yourselves too. Low self esteem ass nikkas.

 

[Peak]

And for my brehs who travel solo... how do yall do that? Any tips you can give a breh? And would you do a cruise solo?

Book a flight, get on the flight and go. One of the things im most proud of. Cruise solo? Probably, you'll get on the cruise alone, but if the swag is in effect chances are you have bagged when you leave.

 

[DallasTxRep]

I'm proud of ya mane