roxxthe96er
Emcee
Something about this made me lose my shyt laughing, I'm sorryI can only imagine how you feel brehbreh.
On a side note, and I don't know if it's been brought up, but would you take her back if she aborted for you?
So I Took A Rare, Yet Severe L The Other Day :huhldup:
- Thread starter onelastdeath
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the fact that she broke up with you and continued to throw this in your face is a huge red flag. Drunken night where all you did was kiss someone on the neck and grab a titty would get you in trouble, but not a break up. I would say maybe she has high standards, but obviously she didn't. Chick just wanted a reason out of the relationship to get her freak phase out the system, then come back to you and have you on some
thanks for forgiving me my queen ...unfortunately for her, she wasn't protecting herself in this hoe phase and let a real nikka bust in her, just my opinion though 
onelastdeath
Banned
No, hell no
Genuine question - how would you have reacted had the situation been reversed?
I know I didn’t mean to do it, but I was hard on myself like I did it on purpose
You were incapacitated enough not to be aware of what you were doing, but still with it enough to only do it "once"...
onelastdeath
Banned
I don't know. I'm not in the situation. I know I would have been angry, but I don't know the extent of which my anger would reach.
And yeah, I know it was nothing more than that. I know it for a fact.
Thatrogueassdiaz
We're on the blood path now
Yup. In my crib, making me eggs and pancakes, getting her insides rearranged by another nikka.
"it feels good to be here again, so good"
That's some cold shyt.
Yeah, my ex gloated to me when she found out she was pregnant lol
Powerful
We fukked for hours that day too. shyt had me feeling like we were prime again for a second. Made me breakfast, gave me a back rub, gave me the earth shattering dome THAT I TAUGHT HER, and then gets pregnant
I mean son
Always remember if dude wasn't a bum she'd be telling you I'm pregnant now there will never be us ever again
You don't do/can't do hypotheticals?People are giving you dumb advice which you're probably very open to hearing right now to fuel either your indifference or bad feeling toward her. Keep taking that manipulation expert seriously
...And the insightful poster harping on about women being illogical etc. is a dumb ass. What he said is untrue, about women in general and particularly women with complex trust issues. Even some of most nauseatingly passive women find cheating unbearable and will dump someone over it or if they stay feel entitled to revenge cheat. What you did was highly disrespectful and embarrassing and she had to find out about it on Facebook where presumably her friends/acquaintances also saw it? The drunk excuse never works, tbh it doesn't really matter what you think about it it's what it looks like, It looks bad.You publicly disrespected her and aren't being objective about it or really taking full responsibility for it. And a lot of people are wrongly encouraging you to continue with this messed up logic.
You've alluded to some personal stuff about her and mentioned that she felt like she couldn't trust anyone growing up - literally anyone? People who grow up like that tend to have somewhat crappy parents. You have virtual strangers in here talking about a girl you paint (prior to your indiscretion) as a complete dream like she's some kind of manipulative she devil and literally no one is encouraging you to take her back, yet her own mom was encouraging her to take YOU back after what YOU did? Friends, let alone moms are generally even more cautious/protective over their girlfriends/daughters, what you've described is odd and if it is to do with you being a "good catch" in other regards and successful then that is revealing. The fact that she's now saying it was minor is a lie and means nothing. She's saying that because she's finally feeling forgiving since she got you back and doesn't want to lose you.
By your own account she was distraught over it and spent what a damn year and a half warring with herself on whether on not to take you back, it wasn't minor to her. And you're giving yourself a bit too much credit for trying to woo her back, I mean from the outside you didn't sacrifice that much in any sense and you were still dealing with other girls. Idk if you think that was all "enough" to level out the cheating
.I can completely understand being hurt by it, but you're really dealing with it worse than she did. When you betrayed her initially (without cause might I add) she was upset but undecided- you totally cut her off. Won't even give her a chance to explain herself because to you there are certain actions for which there's no reasonable explanation at all, fair enough, but be consistent - you keep and kept trying to explain/deflect what you did to her.
Sometimes when someone is hurt like that the only way they can get over it or put it aside is to get revenge. What she did was about you...tbh this whole situation she's gotten herself into sounds a bit self destructive. What you did left her doubting how you really felt about her because regardless of how you want to spin it, it did mean something even if it was just that you still have some sloppiness//ho-ishness in you that even your love for her couldn't completely eradicate. You say she had doubts about you initially but came to trust you, probably thinking she's different/changed you and then you go and do something like that. I mean do you even trust yourself to be faithful, if you slip up even with someone you're beyond satisfied with? A lot of people will cheat and say it doesn't mean anything but who really buys that? do you buy that excuse from women?
While you admit to having ho-ish tendencies in the past I'm assuming you didn't do this stuff like this when drunk at other times during the relationship, so if not why not? why do it that time?
You did that to someone with massive trust issues it was always gonna be a huge problem, even you had gotten back together she probably would have cheated on you, probably cheated on you and told you about it. I could be off but imo the only thing that would have resolved those feelings was getting you back (like she did), then after she really hurt you (like you did her) and you forgave her, then it would be like, "ok, we're even" and she wouldn't feel like a victim in the relationship, something which would have been intolerable to a lot of people but especially to someone like her.
You're painting yourself as some kind of victim here, which you aren't and a lot of people are pandering to it...it's not some epic L, damn.
You guys weren't even back together... and you don't have to like it but you pretty much deserve what you got
This feels like a dish it out but can't take it, cry about it and act like the victim type situation
People are giving you dumb advice which you're probably very open to hearing right now to fuel either your indifference or bad feeling toward her. Keep taking that manipulation expert seriously
What you did was highly disrespectful and embarrassing and she had to find out about it on Facebook where presumably her friends/acquaintances also saw it? The drunk excuse never works, tbh it doesn't really matter what you think about it it's what it looks like, It looks bad.You publicly disrespected her and aren't being objective about it or really taking full responsibility for it. And a lot of people are wrongly encouraging you to continue with this messed up logic.
You've alluded to some personal stuff about her and mentioned that she felt like she couldn't trust anyone growing up - literally anyone? People who grow up like that tend to have somewhat crappy parents. You have virtual strangers in here talking about a girl you paint (prior to your indiscretion) as a complete dream like she's some kind of manipulative she devil and literally no one is encouraging you to take her back, yet her own mom was encouraging her to take YOU back after what YOU did? Friends, let alone moms are generally even more cautious/protective over their girlfriends/daughters, what you've described is odd and if it is to do with you being a "good catch" in other regards and successful then that is revealing. The fact that she's now saying it was minor is a lie and means nothing. She's saying that because she's finally feeling forgiving since she got you back and doesn't want to lose you.
By your own account she was distraught over it and spent what a damn year and a half warring with herself on whether on not to take you back, it wasn't minor to her. And you're giving yourself a bit too much credit for trying to woo her back, I mean from the outside you didn't sacrifice that much in any sense and you were still dealing with other girls. Idk if you think that was all "enough" to level out the cheating
I can completely understand being hurt by it, but you're really dealing with it worse than she did. When you betrayed her initially (without cause might I add) she was upset but undecided- you totally cut her off. Won't even give her a chance to explain herself because to you there are certain actions for which there's no reasonable explanation at all, fair enough, but be consistent - you keep and kept trying to explain/deflect what you did to her.
Sometimes when someone is hurt like that the only way they can get over it or put it aside is to get revenge. What she did was about you...tbh this whole situation she's gotten herself into sounds a bit self destructive. What you did left her doubting how you really felt about her because regardless of how you want to spin it, it did mean something even if it was just that you still have some sloppiness//ho-ishness in you that even your love for her couldn't completely eradicate. You say she had doubts about you initially but came to trust you, probably thinking she's different/changed you and then you go and do something like that. I mean do you even trust yourself to be faithful, if you slip up even with someone you're beyond satisfied with? A lot of people will cheat and say it doesn't mean anything but who really buys that? do you buy that excuse from women?
While you admit to having ho-ish tendencies in the past I'm assuming you didn't do this stuff like this when drunk at other times during the relationship, so if not why not? why do it that time?
You did that to someone with massive trust issues it was always gonna be a huge problem, even you had gotten back together she probably would have cheated on you, probably cheated on you and told you about it. I could be off but imo the only thing that would have resolved those feelings was getting you back (like she did), then after she really hurt you (like you did her) and you forgave her, then it would be like, "ok, we're even" and she wouldn't feel like a victim in the relationship, something which would have been intolerable to a lot of people but especially to someone like her.
You're painting yourself as some kind of victim here, which you aren't and a lot of people are pandering to it...it's not some epic L, damn.
You guys weren't even back together... and you don't have to like it but you pretty much deserve what you got
2014 posters right here
onelastdeath
Banned
People are giving you dumb advice which you're probably very open to hearing right now to fuel either your indifference or bad feeling toward her. Keep taking that manipulation expert seriously
What you did was highly disrespectful and embarrassing and she had to find out about it on Facebook where presumably her friends/acquaintances also saw it? The drunk excuse never works, tbh it doesn't really matter what you think about it it's what it looks like, It looks bad.You publicly disrespected her and aren't being objective about it or really taking full responsibility for it. And a lot of people are wrongly encouraging you to continue with this messed up logic.
You've alluded to some personal stuff about her and mentioned that she felt like she couldn't trust anyone growing up - literally anyone? People who grow up like that tend to have somewhat crappy parents. You have virtual strangers in here talking about a girl you paint (prior to your indiscretion) as a complete dream like she's some kind of manipulative she devil and literally no one is encouraging you to take her back, yet her own mom was encouraging her to take YOU back after what YOU did? Friends, let alone moms are generally even more cautious/protective over their girlfriends/daughters, what you've described is odd and if it is to do with you being a "good catch" in other regards and successful then that is revealing. The fact that she's now saying it was minor is a lie and means nothing. She's saying that because she's finally feeling forgiving since she got you back and doesn't want to lose you.
By your own account she was distraught over it and spent what a damn year and a half warring with herself on whether on not to take you back, it wasn't minor to her. And you're giving yourself a bit too much credit for trying to woo her back, I mean from the outside you didn't sacrifice that much in any sense and you were still dealing with other girls. Idk if you think that was all "enough" to level out the cheating
I can completely understand being hurt by it, but you're really dealing with it worse than she did. When you betrayed her initially (without cause might I add) she was upset but undecided- you totally cut her off. Won't even give her a chance to explain herself because to you there are certain actions for which there's no reasonable explanation at all, fair enough, but be consistent - you keep and kept trying to explain/deflect what you did to her.
Sometimes when someone is hurt like that the only way they can get over it or put it aside is to get revenge. What she did was about you...tbh this whole situation she's gotten herself into sounds a bit self destructive. What you did left her doubting how you really felt about her because regardless of how you want to spin it, it did mean something even if it was just that you still have some sloppiness//ho-ishness in you that even your love for her couldn't completely eradicate. You say she had doubts about you initially but came to trust you, probably thinking she's different/changed you and then you go and do something like that. I mean do you even trust yourself to be faithful, if you slip up even with someone you're beyond satisfied with? A lot of people will cheat and say it doesn't mean anything but who really buys that? do you buy that excuse from women?
While you admit to having ho-ish tendencies in the past I'm assuming you didn't do this stuff like this when drunk at other times during the relationship, so if not why not? why do it that time?
You did that to someone with massive trust issues it was always gonna be a huge problem, even you had gotten back together she probably would have cheated on you, probably cheated on you and told you about it. I could be off but imo the only thing that would have resolved those feelings was getting you back (like she did), then after she really hurt you (like you did her) and you forgave her, then it would be like, "ok, we're even" and she wouldn't feel like a victim in the relationship, something which would have been intolerable to a lot of people but especially to someone like her.
You're painting yourself as some kind of victim here, which you aren't and a lot of people are pandering to it...it's not some epic L, damn.
You guys weren't even back together... and you don't have to like it but you pretty much deserve what you got
These type of women and their way of thinking is common place these days
God help us all
onelastdeath
Banned
Not in this situation. Nope.
People are giving you dumb advice which you're probably very open to hearing right now to fuel either your indifference or bad feeling toward her. Keep taking that manipulation expert seriously
What you did was highly disrespectful and embarrassing and she had to find out about it on Facebook where presumably her friends/acquaintances also saw it? The drunk excuse never works, tbh it doesn't really matter what you think about it it's what it looks like, It looks bad.You publicly disrespected her and aren't being objective about it or really taking full responsibility for it. And a lot of people are wrongly encouraging you to continue with this messed up logic.
I took full responsibility for it. I apologized and damn near begged her to forgive me, long before I started dealing with other women again. It took a while for me to even want to be around other women,and to get used to it again. This happened almost 2 years ago, I'm not going to live in the past to that extent. Was it disrespectful? Yes. But am I supposed to hold onto something I did unknowingly, for TWO years? No. I won't. Too much other shyt going on to beat myself in the head about that.
Like I said, if that was the case. If it was so nauseating and unbearable, then you move on. Tell me straight up that there's no chance, and I would have accepted that, even if it hurt.
Why would anyone here be encouraging me to take her back? I spent the last 2 years of my life trying to convince her that it would never happen again. You finally come back, (which I appreciated and personally thanked her for) only to get pregnant? Let's not pretend that kissing a girl on neck while drunk is anything similar to having someone else's baby. Had I gone out and got a girl pregnant, NO ONE, including her mother, would be pushing her to get back with me. Be realistic. The only reason her mother tried to get her to go back was because she probably genuinely believed it was an accident. Which it was.
It has nothing to do with me being a good catch. I value myself, what I've accomplished and what I will accomplish. I look to my future, and nowhere in the cards do I see me taking care of another man's child. It's just not happening. I've accepted what I've done, and I've accepted that I was an 18 year old kid when I did it. I'm not going to criticize myself for that forever.
By your own account she was distraught over it and spent what a damn year and a half warring with herself on whether on not to take you back, it wasn't minor to her. And you're giving yourself a bit too much credit for trying to woo her back, I mean from the outside you didn't sacrifice that much in any sense and you were still dealing with other girls. Idk if you think that was all "enough" to level out the cheating
Exactly, from the outside. I know how much work I put in trying to get her back. Months and Months of pleading, and begging. Doing a whole bunch of shyt that was completely out of my character. I wasn't going to stopped living for her.
I can completely understand being hurt by it, but you're really dealing with it worse than she did. When you betrayed her initially (without cause might I add) she was upset but undecided- you totally cut her off. Won't even give her a chance to explain herself because to you there are certain actions for which there's no reasonable explanation at all, fair enough, but be consistent - you keep and kept trying to explain/deflect what you did to her.
Sometimes when someone is hurt like that the only way they can get over it or put it aside is to get revenge. What she did was about you...tbh this whole situation she's gotten herself into sounds a bit self destructive. What you did left her doubting how you really felt about her because regardless of how you want to spin it, it did mean something even if it was just that you still have some sloppiness//ho-ishness in you that even your love for her couldn't completely eradicate. You say she had doubts about you initially but came to trust you, probably thinking she's different/changed you and then you go and do something like that. I mean do you even trust yourself to be faithful, if you slip up even with someone you're beyond satisfied with? A lot of people will cheat and say it doesn't mean anything but who really buys that? do you buy that excuse from women?
I'm dealing with it worse than she did, because what she did is 1000x worse than what I did. You're talking about bringing someone's child into the world. Something that will follow you the rest of your life. I'd have to accept that, and have a constant reminder of it in my mind the rest of my life (assuming we were together that long). There's nothing to explain. She lied to my face. Gave me fool's gold, and then got pregnant. That's not the same as me being drunk at a party and grabbing titties. I'm not deflecting, believe me. What I did was wrong, but I'm not worrying about it anymore. It was a mistake. And so was spending so long trying to recreate that chemistry.
The fact that I never cheated on her, with the amount of p*ssy I got thrown at me at home , is enough. I never gave into any temptation, and I completely changed in order to secure whatever we had. Being blasted out of my mind, and kissing someone on the neck doesn't define who I am. Other than that one time, it was all her, all the time. I'm not even a habitual cheater. Other than that time, I've never cheated on a girl.
And even then, I didn't get head, or fukk anyone, I did some outside the clothes shyt. I never had a rep for cheating, I had a rep for not settling down in general. I don't cheat on women.I don't know why I did it. I just know I was really messed up that night. Pissy, Throwing Up on the way home, drunk. I drank too much that night. There is no "even" here. I don't even want to get even. I'm sure she was having her fun within that year and a half, and I don't blame her. That's not my issue. My issue is when you lie to my face, sell me hope, and then get pregnant. There will be no forgiveness from me. Just indifference and abandonment. So if that was her plan, to get "even", then great. I'm not going to try to get even. I'm not going to lead her on for the next year thinking she has a chance. Getting even isn't in my playbook. I only get better. Every day.
onelastdeath
Banned
Apparently
Getting Sloppy Drunk And Grabbing Titties = Baiting someone a year and a half, telling them you love them, having sex with them, making them promises, and then getting pregnant.
I should just take her back and take her care of her kid too
I should move them both in
onelastdeath
Banned
2014 posters right here
Apparently
Getting Sloppy Drunk And Grabbing Titties = Baiting someone a year and a half, telling them you love them, having sex with them, making them promises, and then getting pregnant.
I should just take her back and take her care of her kid too
I should move them both in
a real coli man would
