So I Might Become A Stepdad Soon

[97Pac]

Ten.



That wasn't the deciding factor :mjlolhairfade:

We been dating for about 6 months. I might be rushing, but I waited 3 years to to marry my ex-wife...so :kanyebp:

Just go back to your ex-wife

 

[Pressure]

Nothing abnormal about being in your early 30s and on a second marriage.

Nothing wrong with being a role model and eventual step father for the child of a woman you love.

But it's only been 6 months. It's fair at this point to access whether you want to be a stepfather. If you're okay with it then continue forward with the relationship.

If not, it's best to move on.

 

[EndDomination]

How big is her butt and how successful is she in her career?
And how willing is she to allow you lee-way into parenting?
I know if I were to have a child, at this point, I'd be a bit of a tiger-parent, though with a healthy focus on their health (emotional and physical) and wellbeing.
If she doesn't want to align with you, and your heart isn't in it, it can be disastrous.

Being their for a young Black kid is incredible thing though breh.

 

[EBK String]

be a simp brehs

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Hate to say it if your gonna be a step father it has to be in an honorable way.If Her ex husband died in Iraq or fighting overseas or something .As a single man with no kids especially healing from a divorce not easy 'Its like driving a sports car. Are you willing to trade that in for a van?

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Six months seems more than reasonable as a timeframe to meet your kid. A lot of people get married after 12-24 months. By six months you know where you want the relationship to go, things happen and y’all may break up, but two people, especially at 29/30/31 like OP, know what they’re doing at that point. If you feel like it’s serious, y’all are in a relationship - not just long term cut buddies, you need your partner to start building a relationship with the kid then also.

When would you introduce them? When y’all get engaged and they have no clue who the man is that’s about to be their step dad?

I agree

6 months is cool. If yall see each other everyday or often af, 6 months is enough time to ease your child into an introduction.

I was dating one chick and we were taking it slow. Had a young 2 year old that we both weren’t in a hurry to introduce to each other.

Turns out, we were on a movie date and her bytchass baby father was there with the kid (and a snow bunny). Apparently he got mad she was on a date even though he was on a date and should’ve been watching his own kid. They got into an argument (I just sat on the trunk of my car and watched) he gave her the kid and took off with becky...

First time I was introduced after like a month of dating. The lil girl was adorable though and she grew attached fast af that when we broke up it was a lil sad...

I still talk to the mom sometimes and check on her. She’s a tall, cute lil kid now, got to be at least 12.

 

[Strapped]

Do it man

 

[Swirv]

Best of luck to you both. I had a step pop growing up. He taught me how to be a man and provide for my family. As a kid I didn’t like him because I wanted my bio dad. Unfortunately things didn’t work out between my mom and he. My step pops looked out for me and I’m thankful for him.

I know people throw flack on men who wife women with kids but without these step pops becoming fathers to the fatherless how will the kids learn to be men (if the bio dad isn’t in the picture)?

 

[panopticon]

I wouldn’t do it but maybe you’re a better man than me.

 

[panopticon]

Step sons are cool, that way you don't have to beat your own children.

 

[Paradise50]

if you like being around her and her son then date her.....if it progress than love then take the next step down the road. Nothing wrong with dating a woman w/ a kid, especially at 30. Unfortunately if you date "black" you'll run into it a lot especially with the decent to good looking ones.

1 kid isn't "bad" per say, but > 1 then I'm more like


Also, I couldn't date a chick w/ a bad ass son. If he's not too old and lost already then long term things might be ok if it get to that

 

[panopticon]

Best of luck to you both. I had a step pop growing up. He taught me how to be a man and provide for my family. As a kid I didn’t like him because I wanted my bio dad. Unfortunately things didn’t work out between my mom and he. My step pops looked out for me and I’m thankful for him.

I know people throw flack on men who wife women with kids but without these step pops becoming fathers to the fatherless how will the kids learn to be men (if the bio dad isn’t in the picture)?

Nah, no flack from me at least. I get why it's so important.

I just know I couldn't do it. Character flaw, immaturity, whatever it is, I just know I'd never see them as my own.

Respect to the brehs that can tho.

 

[jwonder]

Why would you make a thread about this when you know this is GMB capital. I could never date a woman with a small child. These women aren't from the old school and let their bad ass kids run a muck.

I'm 40 and found a woman in her mid 30's with no kids with a great job. I really truly lucked out.

 

[mag357]

Would she be with you if she didn't have kids?

When a nikka spits that Ether....
I go "ummmmmmmmm"
End Thread

 

[mag357]

Soooo... the father of the child is an absentee, no good, alcoholic nikka, huh?

Did she tell u that?
Id like to know his side of the story