So how do I not fall in the loop of compliments when going out to meet ladies?
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That's easier said than done
It's never too late...you sound like me..don't speak negative about a situation, or talk yourself down.
fukking 2chainz didn't pop until he was like 33 or something like that.
What are the things you doing to achieve your dreams? Taking some writer's courses? Acting/improv classes....practicing your music?
A good pair of frames goes a long way...I was wearing some busted frames, but got a good pair..half rimless, and they darken in the sun , and would get compliments on them...embrace the glasses or wear contacts..I don't fukk with contacts..I've embraced my glasses..I NEED them though.
Don't undersell yourself. You gotta start somewhere. Just like anything else, you got to flex the muscle to gain traction. The more you work on being the confident, complete you; the easier this will become. nikkas rely on game/script so much they don't even know how to be themselves. The goal should be to not have to put on an act. The Art of Being>>>>>>>
For now start by routinely getting out of your comfort zone. Take the Ls and learn from them. Don't be afraid of rejection. Build from it. It may not come easy but in time it will. Once the uncomfortable becomes comfortable issa wrap. The energy is contagious and eventually the jawns will be seeking you out.
TheBoyDuddus
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You remind me of jane birkin, your body is insane in person, wanna do special things for you.
TheBoyDuddus
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A lot of people that play guitar never get past playing open chords. Holla at me when y'all can play like this.
Because it takes dedication to learn more ..
I learned wanting to know the lead parts to I started by knowing solos and shyt and couldn't play a simple G-F-C Steve Miller song until about 3 years into my playing because I never focused on chord playing...that and I kinda got discouraged but stuck with it.
But then again there will always be that one person who is unimpressed by your playing...that is something I gotta get use to if I want to pursue a music career...
"Oh that's nice...but can you play fast like yngwie malmsteen?
" .."You're playing is too fast and has no feeling...you should learn from guys like b.b king"...
You're that guy
I wouldn't hit up not bars to meet ladies. shyt can be loud and I am not trying to make a thirsty hoe drunk.
The best places to meet ladies is wherever you are at. If you have hobbies and activities that you enjoy then unless it is some male dominated type shyt (i.e. football fantasy league draft stupid shyt) then there should be some women there. It is always nice to meet women that have similar hobbies, because there is stuff that you can talk about with them without feeling too uptight. Comedy clubs, poetry events, museums, auto shows etc., are nice places to meet like minded women. But I would stay the fukk out of bars, unless you just want to be out get a drink with friends.
The best places to meet ladies is wherever you are at. If you have hobbies and activities that you enjoy then unless it is some male dominated type shyt (i.e. football fantasy league draft stupid shyt) then there should be some women there. It is always nice to meet women that have similar hobbies, because there is stuff that you can talk about with them without feeling too uptight. Comedy clubs, poetry events, museums, auto shows etc., are nice places to meet like minded women. But I would stay the fukk out of bars, unless you just want to be out get a drink with friends.
I don't know if it already exists on the Coli, but if it doesn't then they need to have a sub-forum where guys can get and give advice on how to meet women. There are a lot of nerds on the Coli that make approaching women sound like some damn calculus problems or splitting the damn atom or something.
So this is a good subject. There is nothing wrong with guys trying to learn how to approach women the right way. Emphasis on the right way.
Rep + dap.
These two statements are incongruent and demonstrate a lack of understanding of women and Western culture.
Women have varying levels of approachability depending on where they are. I'd wager bars/clubs are among the worst places to approach women. Those are the spaces where they are most confident and self assured, so most likely they will do the approaching, or at least throw cues which you are most likely going to miss.
There is also the danger of alcohol which could put you in a #MeToo situation. In 2018 it's too dangerous for a man to deal with a drunk woman he doesn't know.
Plus it doesn't sound like you have many friends or a social life. Going to the club/bar dolo is fine when you are just in it for the sport but you sound desperate. So odds are high that when you are in the club you will LOOK desperate and out of place.
Club scene (and to a degree the bar scene) is a little dead anyway. Too much clout chasing and IG flexing. You need to meet women in a more relaxed and organic setting.
@Rose Gold breh you can even document your progress as you're learning piano/guitar on youtube..
It's plenty people doing it, and it's get people invested in you,and people like to watch other people learning something.
People typically expecting black dudes to only be rappers nowadays works in your favor as youtube is flooded with a bunch of white people playing guitar..that and who knows..you could be inspiring some black breh or brehette to pick up the instrument..
It's plenty people doing it, and it's get people invested in you,and people like to watch other people learning something.
People typically expecting black dudes to only be rappers nowadays works in your favor as youtube is flooded with a bunch of white people playing guitar..that and who knows..you could be inspiring some black breh or brehette to pick up the instrument..
Because she is regular. That is why you should come at them like that.
If there is a chick that has to have her head blown up then she is probably looking for you to blow her head up to, which means that she probably has low self esteem. You definitely don't want that chick, because she is likely to be very high maintenance.
I would always have success with chicks outside the bars...especially when you seem leaving early like at 11 or some shyt ..in my thinking she leaving, she prolly didn't get the attention she wanted from a dude, or been approached at all.
TheBoyDuddus
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Because it takes dedication to learn more ..
I learned wanting to know the lead parts to I started by knowing solos and shyt and couldn't play a simple G-F-C Steve Miller song until about 3 years into my playing because I never focused on chord playing...that and I kinda got discouraged but stuck with it.
But then again there will always be that one person who is unimpressed by your playing...that is something I gotta get use to if I want to pursue a music career...
"Oh that's nice...but can you play fast like yngwie malmsteen?
"You're playing is too fast and has no feeling...you should learn from guys like b.b king"...
You're that guy
The thing about learning blues is that it opens up the guitar neck. It stops being about the four frets next to the nut. I can solo in six positions for any key, and when you learn that, you learn the landscape of the guitar.
I would never say some stupid shyt like "You're playing is too fast and has no feeling...you should learn from guys like b.b king" cause I can play fast... well not as fast as Yngwie i'm closer to SRV.
I hate bars for meeting women, unless it is a closed party at the bar and the women at that party are like the people throwing the party. Otherwise I have met some real fukked up broads at bars. Another thing that I don't like about bars is that some dudes are at their stupidest when alcohol and p*ssy are around.