So how do I not fall in the loop of compliments when going out to meet ladies?

[Karb]

Ask questions. Even if you know the answer. Women think a good conversation is someone listening to them talk about themselves

This man knows

Just ask the right questions. I can't count the number of times I've been told "oh gosh, I've been babbling about myself this whole time. Tell me about yourself?" Sometimes after an hour or two of me just steering the conversation

It comes easy for me because I don't like to talk about myself when I'm talking to women.

 

[Rozay Oro]

Dont make getting women, or sex the goal. Make being more social the goal, and make the effort in all social aspects of your life, not just dating.

Be yourself is only half the advice, itll never work unless you actually like yourself as well. If you think youre awesome, youll think every else should think the same, and start to carry yourself as such.

When you really are ready to introduce yourself to that girl you like, dont shoot yourself in the foot.

Meaning, you dont want to approach a girl briskly walking down the street with headphones in her ear, she doesnt want to talk to you. Dont approach that hot girl you work with if youre in corporate America, its a bad idea. You dont want to approach any girl in general who looks busy or engaged in something.

Finally, shes a human being with thoughts and dreams and opinions and ideas, dont reduce her to a target, itll only backfire and frustrate you.

The only social media I have is Snapchat. I wish I had Instagram, way more friends and partied every weekend or whatever the fukk. Life is boring.

 

[Rozay Oro]

Depends on what he values more...

But also getting that attention from females can give you confidence..



Real shyt..he would be able to make money on the side, and even make a living off playing if he devotes time to it.

And you're right about the grounded confidence...you start to see yourself as valuable..and having musical ability is something that alot of people openly say they wish they had...so you begin to take pride in that..

Confidence is key because you tend to talk yourself out of stuff when you're not confident...

Are you a studio guitarist?

 

[Rozay Oro]

This man knows

Just ask the right questions. I can't count the number of times I've been told "oh gosh, I've been babbling about myself this whole time. Tell me about yourself?" Sometimes after an hour or two of me just steering the conversation

It comes easy for me because I don't like to talk about myself when I'm talking to women.

Care to add on
Edit:
Was looking at the unedited post

 

[BruhManFromTheFifthFlo]

If I could start life over as handsome breh

It’s never too late, breh

 

[Benefited]

You should learn to be more observational would be my advice. Notice what the hell is going on around you,and about her.

Notice tattoos?-"I like your tattoos,are those recent or something you got a while ago?". She answers your question,you can ask a followup,if she says it was one of her first you can ask if she regrets it,where she got it,talk about your tattoos etc.

Notice her body? You can ask if she works out,ask if she was a athlete,followup with if she likes sports etc.

She wears glasses?Ask if they are prescription,compliment her frames.

Notice she stays in her phone?ask if she is heavy into social media,whats her favorite platform,ask how many followers she has,plenty of questions to go along with this.

learn to listen and observe and stay out of your head. The more you do this,the more you will learn which questions are the best,that branch off easily into different convos that can keep the convo going for a long time.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

if you think she is pretty you should say it. dont see why its a bad thing. think about it, if they look good then they probably get told that on the daily just in passing. but here you come trying to put your tongue in her and you can't or don't want to say it as some sort of mind fukk or idk why. i would figure if you dont say it then you are trying to hard to be the cool guy or you are following some random advice and that's not cute. it's less for them, and more for just saying how you feel and not trying to front.

 

[Roid Jones]

Did you quote someone?

Yeah @Flywin Lannister

 

[Apex]

Fukk bars, clubs.

If you are going out to meet a girl, you're fukked. Don't think a girl will fill any hole. You need to do this yourself.

Build yourself up: find your goal, find your reason, find your passion. Put time into that. Build your body up. Read, build your mind up. Build strong relationships with key family members and friends.

By the time you reach this point you'll find yourself in a situation where you feel great, and your confidence is up.

Women aren't like men. Thing will change once you get your confidence up, your life together and your focus right. They will come to you and things will go naturally when you speak with a girl.

what books do you recommend

also can u recommend on that last line "They will come to you and things will go naturally when you speak with a girl."

 

[Hey_zeus]

Best game is no game. Just be quick witted and charming. Too quick to compliment shows thirst and uncreative approach. If she's bad enough she's heard that already. Come at her like she's regular.

 

[Rozay Oro]

It’s never too late, breh

We'll see

 

[Rozay Oro]

This is not manipulation. Not necessarily at least. "Niceness" without power is insincere for the most part. You have no choice but to be "nice" if you are weak.

However, if you have the choice between being a POS and being nice and you choose the latter, that is strength of character.

It's like when weak, powerless people claim that they are "peaceful". Reality is that in most cases they are "peaceful" because they have no power.

The element of choice has to be present .

This is what Nietzsche was alluding to when he said that most people who claim to be moral are just cowards who lack the courage to be what they really are (something along those lines).

But I digress. Carry on, brethren

I fukk with that

 

[Rozay Oro]

Fukk bars, clubs.

If you are going out to meet a girl, you're fukked. Don't think a girl will fill any hole. You need to do this yourself.

Build yourself up: find your goal, find your reason, find your passion. Put time into that. Build your body up. Read, build your mind up. Build strong relationships with key family members and friends.

By the time you reach this point you'll find yourself in a situation where you feel great, and your confidence is up.

Women aren't like men. Thing will change once you get your confidence up, your life together and your focus right. They will come to you and things will go naturally when you speak with a girl.

I'm gonna get laughed at here. I want to be scriptwriter, actor and musician. Maybe stand up. I'm in my early 20s. Most people who get that success started in their teens and even went to highschool for the arts (Dave Chappelle, Donald Glover, etc). Also Hollywood is a weird place to say the least. Yeah, being dork in my teens fukked me up.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

If she finds you attractive then she’ll engage you in a way that should be obvious that she finds you attractive.

But if she isn’t attracted to you and is just being nice then she will just be considerate and entertain you enough to get a drink and look for someone she finds attractive,

You should hopefully be able to discern the difference

 

[Rozay Oro]

If she finds you attractive then she’ll engage you in a way that should be obvious that she finds you attractive.

But if she isn’t attracted to you and is just being nice then she will just be considerate and entertain you enough to get a drink and look for someone she finds attractive,

You should hopefully be able to discern the difference

I wear glasses to drive and for screens. Other then that I don't put them shyts on, might need them if a girl choosey but too far away. Should I get some stylish frames?