So Brehs, I'm Trying To Make The Transition From "Player" To "Boyfriend Material"

[DaChampIsHere]

I don't want to be any woman's "boyfriend" per se, but this shyt is hard brehs. At this point, I'm just fukkin' out of boredom/routine.

I've been settled on this decision for a couple of weeks, but I'm discovering that it's not very easy to break out of a lifestyle you've been living for around 7 years.

I am annoyed with random women hitting up my phone, I'm annoyed with random women knowing me before I know them, I am annoyed with the angry texts/phone calls, I'm annoyed with silly rumors. I'm just all around. I could never have a girlfriend and manage to keep her around in the midst of all of this so I have decided that I am going to make some lifestyle changes, just trying to figure out how to properly strategize these moves right now.


I've had the same number since 8th grade and from like second semester freshman year (college) up until this summer, I decided it'd be smart to just hand out hella business cards to people (females) so I have an assortment of females I don't really fukk with like that hitting me up (big fukk up). I would like to change my number, but I also do not want any good contacts losing my information plus, I am in the midst of a job search. The cards also had my main email on them as well. Also, I know that even if I changed it, the new number would still manage to find it's way around anyway. I don't give people my AIM screen name and even that shyt be findin' it's way out. Low key thinking about changing that as well.

I even started a new Facebook, but that one got swarmed within a matter of days as well, but not as bad as the old one. I reached past the limit some kind of way on my first Facebook. I would delete it, but again, that's too many contacts to lose and it is a great tool for promotion. My Twitter is pretty straight. I have a lot of followers, but I'm not on it enough to the point where it effects anything.

Not really interested in dating females on campus. At this point I can't tell if most are genuinely interested or if they are looking for a status come-up or because they think I have some kind of money, minus a few exceptions. I talk with this one girl from school, but she is not "black" and that kind of concerns me, so I don't think I will ever make it serious.

I'd actually prefer to date a woman who is not familiar with me at all. I'd keep a lot of things about myself private from her so as not to hype myself up or anything like that. I don't have any details about myself on my new Facebook and I can't add anymore people on my old FB with all the info, so there's no way she'd be able to see that stuff

My main problem is that I would very much so like to hold on to the social status I have right now, just without all of the added female drama from females who are not in my family. My mom and dad met in college and I feel like I have slightly disappointed them with my actions/behavior. My little sister goes to school with me and she is starting to give me the face because of the way other females treat her upon learning who she is

I can't wait 'til I graduate

 

[Steve Piffler]

just wait until you graduate to make any changes. since you are in college, it will be IMPOSSIBLE to shake the chicks on campus. graduate, then move away. start fresh in a new city with a new attitude. born again virgins (ex HOES) do it all the time...

 

[-G$-]

you can't force yourself to change. one day you'll meet the right woman who will make you want to change and be a better person, and the whole thing will start happening before you can even realize it is. at least that's how it happened in my case .

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Big Pun

just wait until you graduate to make any changes. since you are in college, it will be IMPOSSIBLE to shake the chicks on campus. graduate, then move away. start fresh in a new city with a new attitude. born again virgins (ex HOES) do it all the time...

I tried to do this, this summer, when women ask that "How many people have you been with?" question, I immediately .

Plus I like to hang around too many black people. It all eventually comes out when I hit the right social circle.

 

[newarkhiphop]

Not possible

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Not possible

you can't force yourself to change. one day you'll meet the right woman who will make you want to change and be a better person, and the whole thing will start happening before you can even realize it is. at least that's how it happened in my case .

I would like to believe this but, but it all seems a little corny and contrived for me. Maybe though.

 

[Steve Piffler]

Big Pun
big pun feat joe- don't want to be a player no more - YouTube




I tried to do this, this summer, when women ask that "How many people have you been with?" question, I immediately .

Plus I like to hang around too many black people. It all eventually comes out when I hit the right social circle.

Damn...

i don't know what to tell you then, breh....

 

[Chief]

Age possibly or falling in love with the right woman

 

[kevm3]

You just have to choose to be loyal and move on to that other mindset and find a woman who is worth it. Ain't no magical formula other than making that choice and choosing to live up to it.

 

[-G$-]

I would like to believe this but, but it all seems a little corny and contrived for me. Maybe though.

i wouldn't have believed it at your age either. even after all the fukkery i engaged in high school and college... i still needed another 5 or 6 years after school of messing around before it happened.

 

[Amy Traphouse]

Ocmf is right as corny as it may sound. You need a woman such as the one you described to come into your life and make you want to change so badly that without even realizing it you will push all that extra shyt to the wayside just to make sure things work out with your new girl

 

[MoneyTron]

you can't force yourself to change. one day you'll meet the right woman who will make you want to change and be a better person, and the whole thing will start happening before you can even realize it is. at least that's how it happened in my case .

I'm saying.

You won't even realize it breh. One day you'll be all saying wildly soft shyt for no reason. You'll look back and be like .

Never thought it would happen to me so quickly.

 

[PrnzHakeem]

I warned you about this and you brushed me off.

Old habits die hard. Even when you're with a girl and being faithful, dumb shyt from your past gonna pop up out of nowhere and gonna fukk your relationships up. One of my best friends is going through this now.

What's really gonna fukk you up is that you'll realize you won't be able to escape your social circle or your rep.

I had your opposite problem, in college I had a long-term girlfriend and no drama. So after college, chicks were looking at me like some dude they could settle down with. But they couldn't escape their reps either, so I was like


Good luck to you tho. lol.

 

[The ADD]

you can't force yourself to change. one day you'll meet the right woman who will make you want to change and be a better person, and the whole thing will start happening before you can even realize it is. at least that's how it happened in my case .

 

[Why-Fi]

if im in your position id just lay low and focus on myself...a whole lot of "nah not tonight..."