Signs your girl doesn't respect you
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and i'm glad i did, because it shows what type of stupid shyt nikkas are on. "i dont care about the white mans currency, im waiting for everything to collapse" these are the nikkas black women have to depend on?i get it now, black women go get you a white man cus these nikkas is retarded
and @TheStripper, why co-sign men making less than their women? what benefit does it offer besides a little bit a control? funny part is your first insult towards me is that i'm broke.
We both know the only reason I called you broke was b/c you were trying to come for me. That's the only way I get any respect around here. I would happily be nice to ya'll but you all won't let me. Anyway, I wasn't co-signing "men making less than women". I was co-signing this:
" if nikkas was really on this head of the household shyt, then they wouldn't want their woman working AT ALL"
and this
"They want a woman to make money, just not more money than them so their precious ego won't be fractured."
Honestly I don't even agree with the whole men run the house BS or one person controlling the relationship at all. My parents have been married almost 25 years and are by far the happiest couple I know. We all get along wonderfully and no one "ran" the house. My father made more at one point and my mother makes way more now and it doesn't matter. They still treat each other exactly the same. My parents ran and still run the house as equals. Each has their own strengths.
I've dated men who felt they need to "run" the relationship and I can honestly say those are the most worrisome men. They are always worried about maintaining their status and being respected. It's very trying on the relationship. It's usually a front anyway. They want to look like they maintain control on the outside but really it's the woman "running" things. These men are usually the easiest to "control"/encourage. All you have to do is ask in a nice non-confrontational (don't argue) way and they fold like cards. Don't get me wrong, I like that in a man but I don't have time for men who act like their opinion is more valuable than minds. It's about compromise and finding common ground.
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She doesnt put on clothes when friends come over.
one time me and my homie were at a friends house and his baby mama come downstairs in a tank top and booty shorts w/ cheeks hangin out. Even tho we were company, she shoudlve respected her dude and stayed upstairs or put some clothes on cuz I was lookin like
Yo, I deadass saw this one time. We were at a homie's crib studying when his girl came into the common room dressed like she was cruising. Hair tossled up, a skimpy ass satiny long shirt that was almost see through and some boy shorts looking undies. It would've been
if that wasn't homie's girl.The lot of us (guys and girls) were like
Homie tried to play it off like he wasn't burning up on the inside, but through his eyes you saw the
in his heart. It was almost as if he told her to get dressed because he was having company over and she straight up igged him. It was mad uncomfortable. Even worse was when we left other cats were talking about how they'd toss his girl up if given the chance. I felt bad for him.Another topic that came up is the economic disparity between men and women. Truthfully a lot of what is said in this forum, I take as bullshyt and posturing, but this one admittedly kind of bugs me. For many reasons. The first of which is that I don't think a person's value should be tied to their wealth. I think that's a horrible way to live. Money comes and goes, integrity and character last a lot longer. Secondly, I think motivation should factor way more into compatibility than current net worth. It's one thing if one person is along for a free ride or a mooch, but if one person is actively trying to improve themself, then I think the other person has an obligation to help them as much as they can within reason (obviously this depends on the nature and duration of your relationship). As it stands, my S/O Just landed a gig where she makes more than I do currently. It's by a decent margin too . She was able to attain that in part because I helped through school. I held her down when I could and provided support, now that I'm gearing up for law school in a few, I won't be able to work as much, but she'll hold us down til I graduate. I'll still work and provide for myself, but she'll help more. Do I feel like I've lost power or am suddenly less than desirable? Nope. I trust that she's the exact same person that I feel in love, she's always respected me as I've respected her, and she knows that we're building something. I guess it's a matter of who you choose to build with.
If it should fall apart between now and then though, I'd regret nothing.
PS: I hope I never ever write a response this long again. Idk how some of y'all do it.
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Anyway, I wasn't co-signing "men making less than women". I was co-signing this:
" if nikkas was really on this head of the household shyt, then they wouldn't want their woman working AT ALL"
and this
"They want a woman to make money, just not more money than them so their precious ego won't be fractured."
Honestly I don't even agree with the whole men run the house BS or one person controlling the relationship at all. My parents have been married almost 25 years and are by far the happiest couple I know. We all get along wonderfully and no one "ran" the house. My father made more at one point and my mother makes way more now and it doesn't matter. They still treat each other exactly the same. My parents ran and still run the house as equals. Each has their own strengths.
I've dated men who felt they need to "run" the relationship and I can honestly say those are the most worrisome men. They are always worried about maintaining their status and being respected. It's very trying on the relationship. It's usually a front anyway. They want to look like they maintain control on the outside but really it's the woman "running" things. These men are usually the easiest to "control"/encourage. All you have to do is ask in a nice non-confrontational (don't argue) way and they fold like cards. Don't get me wrong, I like that in a man but I don't have time for men who act like their opinion is more valuable than minds. It's about compromise and finding common ground.
and to me, when a woman says "worrisome" it's a polite, non-offensive way of saying "insecure". I often wonder why women get with these types of dudes.. @TheStripper answered it in that paragraph so....
The rest of the post, where your parents were an equal unit, is how I was taught to believe and shown how marriage works. That relationships were about compromise, finding common ground, a partnership, and etc.
nikkas with their shallow, insecure and primitive thinking. Like a man who cooks or cleans in his house is in a females position....Some nikkas just like to cook
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GhettoNintendo
chill its a secret b
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Very true. I had to get my fiance' to realize that about herself. She was so use to having to do everything on her own that she would get upset when i'd help her out. She just didn't like having to depend on other's...and etc...so i had to actually do something i never did in any other relationship i had been in. I asked her about her previous relationships and why she felt they didn't work. I began to realize that she didn't know how to just let a man be a man. She's slowly put it all together and we are getting to the point of being like a well oiled machine. She gets it now more than ever being pregnant.
My nikka. Im glad you guys got it together. Its so many women out there that are demasculating their men and wondering why they having failed relationships. The scope of male female relationships is wider than just this one point because there is also the fact that you got many bytch made dudes (dudes raised by single women) and how that upbringing ruin men in general. Congrats on the pregnancy
lol but I was in your shoes a few months ago when my fiance was pregnant too and I stepped up to the plate as a man which was something she aint never seen before.
this type of logic is why the black male in america is the most disrespected and under appreciated person in america.go on. tell me more about how you demand respect with no power.
what type of bread does your girl make?
would you not mess with a chick who made more than you?
my homeboy girl pull slick shyt like thisIwhen i see a bish with her bf and she chops it up with some other dudes (that are tryin to lightweight holla) and treats her dude like he's not even there
i dont see how he puts up with it (she fine as hell, that's probably why)
1. If she's with u and she brings up someone her girlfriend or co-worker dates or married to and always say well so and so man do this or that
2. asking u to borrow money saying she'll pay u back but never do
3. going places with her girls like sporting events and tells u afterward that her and her girls went
4. complains about sexual positions that u want to do
5. Buys u cheap shyt for your birthday or xmas
2. asking u to borrow money saying she'll pay u back but never do
3. going places with her girls like sporting events and tells u afterward that her and her girls went
4. complains about sexual positions that u want to do
5. Buys u cheap shyt for your birthday or xmas
