SEX 101: Should Women Approach Men On The Dating Scene?

[My neck and my back]

This could equally be applied to women too. There's no way around it.

yes it could, but if you want to be seen as a dominant figure you have to be willing to do the things that people are afraid to do. women are afraid of rejection that's why they respect a guy who is confident enough to approach them.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

No bullshyt or ducktales, I get approached by women all the time It surprises me when dudes act as if being approached by a woman is rare or shouldn't happen

Same. I get approached by women and I dont have a problem with it. Nothing hurts a girl like when u turn down the puss tho

It actually works to your advantage to get approached. They end up having no power in the relationship cuz u didnt chase em.... This is why women love to be chased, to feel wanted/needed. If u aint going after her she doesnt get that.

 

[Petty Crocker]

Hmmm...Im rather old school when it comes to these types of things..If we are in close proximity to each other, I might try to strike up a conversation..Say for instance im at the bar and we're watching the game, we both might complain about a call..and then from there I see my opening and try to make small talk..But thats it..If we exchange numbers at the end of the night, he would have to ask me for it.But normally I just use eye contact...A subtle wink or something like that..

 

[CoolazzFemale]

My question to you is, how does a dude do that without lookin like that thirsty guy? If I see a female gettin approached by numerous dudes and atleast engaging in a conversation but seemingly turning down the advances why should or shouldn't I go talk to her? I don't wanna be dude #14 that tried to get at the chick.

He should keep his eye out and take mental notes.

What was it about the other guys that turned her off?.

What are your intentions?.

what do you have to offer other than some wack ass dikk?.

 

[AgentGrey]

I used to approach men but they always thought I was joking, so I stopped. I do think more women should approach men but women are afraid of rejection so that will probably never happen.

It really leaves an impression on me, even if im not feelin her like that I applaud her audacious character.

 

[Petty Crocker]

He should keep his eye out and take mental notes.

What was it about the other guys that turned her off?.

What are your intentions?.
what do you have to offer other than some wack ass dikk?.

 

[DaRealness]

yes it could, but if you want to be seen as a dominant figure you have to be willing to do the things that people are afraid to do. women are afraid of rejection that's why they respect a guy who is confident enough to approach them.

Women making that one initial step doesn't undermine the dominance in males in any shape or form. I doubt any woman (unless she's a total idiot) will think that just because she took the first step of approaching a dude that everything else he ever does throughout their (potential) relationship is a step beneath manliness.

Maybe a man finds it attractive in a woman to show a measure of feminine strength and prowess by going for what she likes? Maybe a man would likewise want to know a woman is strong enough to overcome HER fears and show she's the real deal? Aren't we all supposed to be equal nowadays anyway?

Again, you're last sentence equally applies the other way, in fact maybe even more so in light of the context of this thread. For women to use that excuse is just a copout in actuality.

 

[My neck and my back]

Women making that one initial step doesn't undermine the dominance in males in any shape or form.

i never mentioned that it did, all i said was approaching someone while knowing that rejection is a possibility that people fear displays strength. the person being approached isn't weaker but the one approaching has courage.

I doubt any woman (unless she's a total idiot) will think that just because she took the first step of approaching a dude that everything else he ever does throughout their (potential) relationship is a step beneath manliness.

a man is not weaker because he got approached by a woman, but if that man passed up the opportunity of approaching a woman because of his fear of rejection, he's weaker than a woman who would take a chance on being rejected and pursue approaching a man she's interested in.

Maybe a man finds it attractive in a woman to show a measure of feminine strength and prowess by going for what she likes? Maybe a man would likewise want to know a woman is strong enough to overcome HER fears and show she's the real deal? Aren't we all supposed to be equal nowadays anyway?

all of this is coo. my point isn't that your weaker if you get approached, it's that whoever is willing to approach the other is stronger than someone who is afraid to approach the other because of the fear of rejection.[/QUOTE]

Again, you're last sentence equally applies the other way, in fact maybe even more so in light of the context of this thread. For women to use that excuse is just a copout in actuality.

if my last sentence applies the other way then that means that the man is weaker because he fears rejection and would want someone who has the courage to approach them. like someone said

That standing next me at the bar while flippin ya hair, acting quiet, waiting for me to speak to you shyt is just wack, childish, high school shyt to me.

if someone is trying to send signals to someone their interested in, then it's wack instead of just approaching them cuz you want to talk to them.

 

[Slystallion]

I get approached but it's not the really hot ones that approach. The hot ones usually just eye contact or they might talk louder to their friends or act silly to be noticed then you just approach.

 

[DaRealness]

i never mentioned that it did, all i said was approaching someone while knowing that rejection is a possibility that people fear displays strength. the person being approached isn't weaker but the one approaching has courage.a man is not weaker because he got approached by a woman, but if that man passed up the opportunity of approaching a woman because of his fear of rejection, he's weaker than a woman who would take a chance on being rejected and pursue approaching a man she's interested in.

all of this is coo. my point isn't that your weaker if you get approached, it's that whoever is willing to approach the other is stronger than someone who is afraid to approach the other because of the fear of rejection.

if my last sentence applies the other way then that means that the man is weaker because he fears rejection and would want someone who has the courage to approach them. like someone said if someone is trying to send signals to someone their interested in, then it's wack instead of just approaching them cuz you want to talk to them.[/QUOTE]


It seems like we're pretty much on the same page.

 

[Dirty_Jerz]

if you see something you want go get it

 

[philmonroe]

Which ever way works for me but in all honesty it's hard for me to take most of these chicks serious that want me to do everything but then be treated equally like they put in any type of work. I leave that to them thirsty sucker boys.

 

[rapbeats]

Video: SEX 101: Should Women Approach Men On The Dating Scene?

take ya hand off ya chin.

the answer is NO.

now that also depends on what do you consider "APPROACHING"

i never want to see a situation where dude is so shook he cant holla at some chick he thinks is right.

LADIES, forget these dudes. LADIES. LISTEN. if dude is to timid to talk on his own. He will be to timid when you need him to make man decisions and it will come back to bite you every time.

FELLAS... FELLAS, if you allow a chick to run up on you and GET at you like that. best believe she will continue THINKING she's running things. she will try to wear both crowns in the relationship. and you will spend more time trying to tone her down then you will trying to enjoy the woman.

now with that said. yes women, you need to give us hints and clues. you cant just walk past me and not LOOK at all. how will i know you're even interested. i dont want to randomly holler at chicks. thats high school in the mall stuff. you see a girl, she's looking at you. or looked at you in that way. yall know what i'm talking about. then you go over there and say what you gotta say. and take it from there.

cliff notes
ladies: its okay to drop hints, and say like the one dude said "you look really nice today." but dont go any further then that.
Dude's, its okay to wait to see if a chick is feeling you via her dropping hints. but dont wait for an aggressive woman to run up on you. you will mad you did later on in the relationship.

 

[DaRealness]

Whatever man, go back to your bullshyt bible bashing....

 

[innocentdevil]

I'm fine with approaching a guy, but him approaching me leaves a greater impression.