The Radiant One
Superstar
I don't think it's the same as having nieces or nephews. There's no way to say this without it sounding fukked up but while I love my nieces and nephews.... There's a different level of love for my kid just because I've been there for damn near everything with him.
With that said, I think it's selfish to pressure people who want kids into having one, and I think it's selfish to have a kid in the expectation that they'll labor for their parents when they're old and sick (seriously fukked up) and I think it's selfish to have a kid without fully assessing whether one wants one or is ready for it. Different strokes for different folks, find what makes you happy and don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything else.
Of course but what would happen if you got a divorce? Would you still be able to exercise as much influence on your child?