RIP Kevin Samuels
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Oh trust, I KNOW.
I was always in a weird position because guys wanted to get married because they thought I was pretty, or because of my family. Like, legit “wouldn’t it be great if our families united” conversations. I’ll probably end up marrying someone who is in the same frat as some of my family because he’s also in the same field as some of my other relatives. And the problem is he probably already had this sh!t planned out before I even realized it
(although he’s perfect in every way).
I won’t even lie, I haven’t even begun to live up to my family’s rep, but simply because of what I’ve learned and watching them move, I don’t reaaally stress because they already charted the path.
I’m in a weird space because my mom was a princess who was able to get by on her looks and family name, while everyone else decided to grind it out to essentially continue the legacy (in a sense). It’s part of my frustration with her, part of why I’m stressed (because I worry about her since she didn’t remarry) and a reason for my soul-searching because she was literally given so much and she took it for granted. But she had the privilege to do that.
It’s a mix of her being a little troubled so family helped her, but I can tell she got so used to it she knew it wouldn’t end. So she pretty much raised me to do the same. But life doesn’t work like that! And it feels weird to only be valued for what you look like. It’s actually made me more independent than I should be because I hate the idea of people thinking I’m incapable.
And that’s the thing with KS’s message. He wasn’t wrong at all, and there are definitely unrealistic women out there! But people always want to talk about women getting married; very few people talk about what women may go through in these “high value” circles and why the women who maintain careers may have better outcomes than the housewives. The pressure to keep up appearances and pretend things aren’t bothering you when you know your daughter may grow up to go through some of the same sh!t… When you’ve ACTUALLY witnessed some sh!t you are in no rush to get down the aisle. Being a REAL wife/mother is never-ending and thankless and you can still get dropped for the younger model.
Makes you question religion and what they teach us and why, because most of those vows and teachings aren’t followed. So when you realize it’s really all about keeping society civil and organized…You look at all of it differently.
I’m rambling. A lot of this stuff is just people being pretentious and not actually about building the community.
Another good post....I am glad you broke that down....some think they want that type of life....they do not...
it is as the person asking "why did he jump off the building when the market crashed".....
being broke or starting over or FAILING is hell for some people....
parties, schools, golf clubs all gone...
There was a thread about some rich folks in long island who lost their mansion....
they were able to buy back some of the old furniture.....
they seemed so happy.....because the furniture was handed down from long ago....
"keeping society civil and organized" describes it perfectly....
I will be paying attention to your posts though...
Far too many seek to be as all others for comfort....
The individuals should be celebrated...
Yet realistic...
NYC Rebel
...on the otherside of the pond
Thats my issue with dude. All I saw from him was harshness at the end. The end game had zero healing. It had a cruelty that many seem to nourish and as KS background revealed itself, the harshness made sense.
Theres tough love but it always should come with caring for that party’s feelings. Dude said things out of shame while himself having a subpar resume until his grift paid. That aint helping anyone but him and nourishing those who are just as bitter and need to feel tall by hearing others get cut down.
Adebisi_Said
Truth is Power
I won’t even get mad at that because I remember the Black pastor on Married at First Sight said that none of the Black men wanted to be matched with Black women. Brothas have shytted on us on TV alreadyWhy she had to shyt on all Black Men? Just because she called into his show on the wrong day and got roasted?
Lord Bison
Superstar
After looking at her FB. I'm 100% convinced that average at best is definitely on the spectrum. She was fasho in the slow class in school.
That said imma keep my comments about her to myself.
Adebisi_Said
Truth is Power
saturn7
Politics is an EXCHANGE!!!
The High Value Conspiracies continue.......
youtubians are tinfoil-rific with these conspiracies.
People swear Dennis Spurling and Melanie King had KS offed.
youtubians are tinfoil-rific with these conspiracies.
People swear Dennis Spurling and Melanie King had KS offed.
Maaaaaaan…Pink Book Lessons zoomed in at some choice angles…After looking at her FB. I'm 100% convinced that average at best is definitely on the spectrum. She was fasho in the slow class in school.
That said imma keep my comments about her to myself.
This wasn’t a good look for a few reasons. I never understood the Kevin Samuels controversy. From the few videos I watched of his about 50 to 60% of what he was saying was true.
I guarantee you that most of the women criticizing Kevin Samuels are fans of The Bachelor or don't have a problem with the show even though The Bachelor promotes the same beauty bias that Kevin Samuels did. 90% of the Bachelor's female contestants are under the age of thirty-five, childless, above average looking,and are in shape. This Beauty standard that the female contestants must meet in order to compete for a desirable Bachelor is no different than the beauty standard Kevin Samuels told women that they must meet to get a desirable bachelor.
Matter of fact a lot of Black women celebrated when the Bachelorette cast a Black woman even though the show completely discriminated against black women for decades.
I guarantee you that most of the women criticizing Kevin Samuels are fans of The Bachelor or don't have a problem with the show even though The Bachelor promotes the same beauty bias that Kevin Samuels did. 90% of the Bachelor's female contestants are under the age of thirty-five, childless, above average looking,and are in shape. This Beauty standard that the female contestants must meet in order to compete for a desirable Bachelor is no different than the beauty standard Kevin Samuels told women that they must meet to get a desirable bachelor.
Matter of fact a lot of Black women celebrated when the Bachelorette cast a Black woman even though the show completely discriminated against black women for decades.
You think I’m bullshyttin? Lol My moms called her friend to tell her KS died…and her ass was DEVASTATED. She was in the livestream about the will smith slap.
Anyways, RIP to this man. I'ma go rewatch that livestream of him clowning her
Chrishaune
Veteran
When he was talking to that 52 year old woman 3 weeks ago and said "we only have a few more sunsets". It has to hit her now.... but knowing women she probably is doing the same thing and just talking about how she talked to him right before he died.
You wonder why
white & blue collar men are traveling overseas
to find a suitable wife
HARLEM AL
Your broad loves me.....
That's how they make their decision on what man is fit for a relationship. shyt is sad but hey your body your choice...Breh I just finished the clip… she said her coochie wasn’t tingling after a date with a BISEXUAL MAN like what in the literal fukk.. and had the nerve to be disappointed/surprised
