Rate of women cheating on their husbands increased by 40% since 1990

[African Peasant]

Where are you from if you don't mind me asking? My preface for asking is I am trying to get a grasp on your cultural beliefs? I was raised in a western society, America to be specific. In my culture, specific to my household, when faced with an issue, it is your duty as a man to solve whatever problem you face.

You say that women aren't scared anymore but I don't think its as simple as women no longer being afraid of cheating rather why they are cheating and it therefore being rationalized as acceptable behavior.

Fear is irrational and so is cheating so we can at the very least agree that they have that commonality. So once again we are faced with the issue of how do we as men solve the problem of casting aside this fearful society that we reside in. I think it is less of what the coli equates promiscuity with western culture and more along the lines of a culture of fear being closely associated with western culture.

Fear is what kills marriage in my opinion. Fear of missing out. Fear of how our peers view our mates. Fear of the wrong person hurting our feelings. If we as men become rational in our thought processes, I can say with confidence that its highly probably that our ability to select the proper mate for marriage would increase substantially.

I'm from Congo-Zaire.

Fear and guilt always been tools of social control. Why do you think feminists attacked "slut shaming" ? Those things work.

The consequences of one's actions (in this case cheating) always had an effect on the probability of one acting a way or another.

A society where people are told that cheating is bad and where cheating result in ostracization or worst will give agents different incentives from a society where cheating is normal and without consequences. People react to incentives and social environment.


I think at this point, we're above the question of choosing the right mate. When society itself becomes so toxic against marriage and fidelity, choosing the right one become less and less important. It becomes a cultural problem and individual solutions are not sufficient.

I don't know if cheating is irrational: I know that it's immoral, but irrational ? I don't know.

 

[Bobby Lashleys eyebrows]

Here's the thing I don't understand...women put pressure on their men to get married/commit just to cheat. We might as well just be fukk buddies with side pieces, no contract. Some women are illogical as fukk.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

You know...I personally believe this stat is skewed. I think women (and men) have ALWAYS cheated on their spouses. It's just easier to track now, and or people are more honest about it.

Remember, 30-40 years ago women wasn't just supposed to be out here like that.

 

[Rarely-Wrong Liggins]

Coli brehettes will duck this thread too or blame the guy for being too nice

WHY SHE GOTTA TREAT HIM GOOD CAUSE HE NICE!!!!!?????? -Coli Brehette

I remember when white women used to say stupid shyt like this. They just passed the cancer on to the queens. Just like this feminism bullshyt. Feed 'em the poision and laugh silently as they take it home.

 

[StickStickly]

Key is to find a mate that loves you more than you love them or a broad that is infatuated with you. They are repulsed by the notion of being with someone else.

Okay, but what about your feelings for them over time? Seems like if you love them less you're not really that into them so your feelings may decrease, you'd start to resent the relationship, and when you do meet a girl who you really do like a lot, you'd question your choices

 

[William F. Russell]

I've always wondered what would happen to the institution of marriage if prostitution was legalized.

 

[freetroit]

Okay, but what about your feelings for them over time? Seems like if you love them less you're not really that into them so your feelings may decrease, you'd start to resent the relationship, and when you do meet a girl who you really do like a lot, you'd question your choices

Actually a mans indifference is attractive to women

So it works out for both

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

Okay, but what about your feelings for them over time? Seems like if you love them less you're not really that into them so your feelings may decrease, you'd start to resent the relationship, and when you do meet a girl who you really do like a lot, you'd question your choices

He didn't say that he did not love her... When it comes to men, most of us commit out of honor, and we try to uphold that commitment because of that.... most of us don't commit because of love only

 

[Shadow King]

Typical Coli Poster Response: Then stay single and fukk women then breh. No lint off my nutsack whether you get married or not. (Take No Offense)

Locigal Coli Poster Response: My point is that nothing in life happens in a vacuum and as one intelligent poster placed in here that was conveniently overlooked, this is manipulation at its finest. Edit: @Booksnrain

Whether the coli.com or GMB acolytes see this as trickery is not really in my interest although I do wish of the dudes on here stop spreading terrible advice to the youth on here who may read and be persuaded by things like this.

A woman/man grows up in a broken home without strong parental guidance and biologically seeks love from a male/female who too was reared without proper values on how to nurture relationships beyond a physical component.

Once that physical relationship runs its course, what is next for her? him? More physical relationships? The question then becomes when, and not a matter of if, how can they nurture healthy relationships if they have never been or have been exposed to what one looks like? When one of those persons grows tired of just having physical relationships and enter into a monogamous setting, how can they prosper if they have no prior reference?

Enter divorce rates. It is no secret why children with divorced parents also have high probabilities of being divorced themselves because they never had the opportunity to witness (learn) the process that it takes to cultivate a bond. Next up, the cycle of poverty caused by limited mobility due to lack of resources.

So when you ask me if I will roll the dice on half of my livelihood, the answer will always be yes because I know the benefits of choosing a proper mate to raise a family. There is no benefit for me to be single as it is my paternalistic instinct that makes we want offspring and to provide them with the best possible setting to become balanced members of society

I feel like this "happy family" path can be done without legal marriage and should be with the way laws and the way society is. All men have the instinct to be a father but we also have an instinct far and wide but we ignore or sprees that instinct don't we?

We are animals but higher thinking has separated us from the rest, and part of being in an evolved society is figuring out which parts of your primitive drives to suppress to fit into society. Society has evolved to a point where men spreading our seed through a nomadic lifestyle or having a harem has become obsolete. With the way women are being cultivated (yes the onus is on them because it was that half of humanity that decided to shake things up over the last century), society seems to be telling us that marriage is becoming obsolete and is feasible for very few people moving forward.

I also don't really believe in "choosing the right woman" because people change and women have proven to be the more mercurial of the two sexes, or at the very least are far better at compartmentalizing their feelings and motives while we tend to be straightforward. Who we chose to bend a knee and share a life with in spirit and on paper and ink likely won't be that person 12 years and 2 children later, and that right person becomes, well, the wrong person.

A female poster (maybe @BrokePhiBroke?) said that secularism should be injected into the institution of marriage, and I've felt that way for a minute, at least for legally documented ones because needing a government-issued license to vow to cherish, honor, and stay faithful to your partner before God in a country founded on the separation of the church and state makes no sense. To compliment or substitute for that revision, there has to be something done about the judicial system favoring women in family cases as if it's still 1950 and women depend on men for sustaining a certain quality of life. When women have fought to be our equals and have proven to be that in earning power, there comes a time where the progression has to be reflected in areas of consequence...like breaking or giving up on your vows, which statisticlly women do far more often.

A lot of men don't mind the mantle of father, partner, and protector but when we bear the brunt of consequence for the other partner deciding to hit the eject seat button, some of us figure that that risk outweighs the reward because so far it shows that it does. Whether I become an eight-figure man or never earn more than 50k a year, as a man born in the 1990s the concept of marriage is currently far too risky and needs to be revamped before it appeals to me again, because I did dream of it as a child but then I grew the hell up and can now see over the tall grass of social standards.

Props to you for still finding optimism in the concept/life.

 

[Frump]

I partly blame social media

If a women is even kind of attractive these days if she puts a pic up she's bombarded on instagram and Facebook about how beautiful she is by thirsty dudes which is most men

Of course your average women's ego is gonna be inflated in 2017

 

[StickStickly]

Actually a mans indifference is attractive to women

So it works out for both

I dunno, maybe short term dating or a hook up. But a man who is ambivalent about a wife for the long term would get irritating.

 

[Dameon Farrow]

Infidelity Statistics: 23 Eye-Opening Truths


Anti-marriage is all propaganda by the elite to convince poor people to remain listless, lone wolves easily divided and conquered who raise children in broken environments that produce a steady flow of improvershed depressed minimum wage workers.

Meanwhile

Why Is Marriage Thriving Among (and Only Among) the Affluent?



I CANT be the only one here who sees the scam. I refuse to be the only one still noticing how naked the emperor is.

I mean it's like a page right out of a manipulators playbook.
"Convince impoverished populations to become FURTHER divided! Make them suspicious of an institution even tho the ones who rule the world and have the MOST to lose emphasize it! Their children will be raised in hell and grow up hopeless and create ANOTHER cycle of broken people. And you'll have all the cheap labor u need to slave away and buy the junk we produce to make em feel better about themselves! HA!"
Sometimes I have this dream where I'm running around trying to shake people away b/c there are monsters in the background eating people miles away. But the more I try to point to the monsters the more irritated people get. So I just run, get on a boat and sail away. But I can hear screams on the shores before the wind hits my sails.

You're not the only one who sees the propaganda.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

Honestly I would suggest everyone read this article....."Why Happy People Cheat"


I've said numerous times I don't believe in the concept of "cheating". The idea that we're cheating our partners out of something because we want to experience something outside of a partnership is absurd and this article breaks that down in many ways......Obviously it's practical for society to fit into this box but it's not necessarily ideal. I've gotten to a place where I can think about this logically because spending my 20s Djing in nightclubs and smashing so many people's girlfriends you reach a place where it's hard view life in this box where everyone should only get into relationships where they will remain faithful and break up if they want to have sex with someone else. It just doesn't work that way.

I think after you get past the point where you accept that your partner will change, grow and at some point want to fukk someone else you can find yourself in a real, authentic situation.

Why Happy People Cheat

As I listen to her, I start to suspect that her affair is about neither her husband nor their relationship. Her story echoes a theme that has come up repeatedly in my work: affairs as a form of self-discovery, a quest for a new (or lost) identity. For these seekers, infidelity is less likely to be a symptom of a problem, and more likely an expansive experience that involves growth, exploration, and transformation.

“Expansive?!,” I can hear some people exclaiming. “Self-discovery?! Cheating is cheating, whatever fancy New Age labels you want to put on it. It’s cruel, it’s selfish, it’s dishonest, and it’s abusive.” Indeed, to the one who has been betrayed, it can be all these things. Intimate betrayal feels intensely personal—a direct attack in the most vulnerable place. And yet I often find myself asking jilted lovers to consider a question that seems ludicrous to them: What if the affair had nothing to do with you?

Sometimes when we seek the gaze of another, it’s not our partner we are turning away from, but the person we have become. We are not looking for another lover so much as another version of ourselves. The Mexican essayist Octavio Paz described eroticism as a “thirst for otherness.” So often, the most intoxicating “other” that people discover in an affair is not a new partner; it’s a new self.

One of the most uncomfortable truths about an affair is that what for Partner A may be an agonizing betrayal may be transformative for Partner B

 

[Dameon Farrow]

At the end of the day I’ll say it again...

MARRY “NON” PROVERBS 31 WOMEN BREHS



Then come on a forum and complain about them cheating brehs

I'm gonna give you props here. Proverbs has plenty gems that a man can live by regardless of what he believes. More people should sit down and read it.

These dudes in here worried about losing half their shyt when I bet they rent and pay car notes. If you have nothing of value.....aww fukk it you guys know everything already what's the point? You need your articles like this to justify not getting with females. Just admit it....

With the fears half of you have why even get out of bed. Scared of whites. Scared of women. Come on, fellas.

 

[Hungry Rabbit]

Infidelity Statistics: 23 Eye-Opening Truths


Anti-marriage is all propaganda by the elite to convince poor people to remain listless, lone wolves easily divided and conquered who raise children in broken environments that produce a steady flow of improvershed depressed minimum wage workers.

Meanwhile

Why Is Marriage Thriving Among (and Only Among) the Affluent?



I CANT be the only one here who sees the scam. I refuse to be the only one still noticing how naked the emperor is.

I mean it's like a page right out of a manipulators playbook.
"Convince impoverished populations to become FURTHER divided! Make them suspicious of an institution even tho the ones who rule the world and have the MOST to lose emphasize it! Their children will be raised in hell and grow up hopeless and create ANOTHER cycle of broken people. And you'll have all the cheap labor u need to slave away and buy the junk we produce to make em feel better about themselves! HA!"
Sometimes I have this dream where I'm running around trying to shake people away b/c there are monsters in the background eating people miles away. But the more I try to point to the monsters the more irritated people get. So I just run, get on a boat and sail away. But I can hear screams on the shores before the wind hits my sails.

VERY persuading argument for marriage that I previously had not consideredWas going to avoid marriage but will now consider it. You are one intelligent cookie, I'll give you that...