Quick Little Gems on Dealing with Men Thread

[Rawtid]

 

[Ohene]

Girls are really telling one another to hold out that p*ssy eh?

So delusional. He'll cheat on you until he gets the p*ssy and then he'll leave you. Never fails.

 

[Rawtid]

Girls are really telling one another to hold out that p*ssy eh?

So delusional. He'll cheat on you until he gets the p*ssy and then he'll leave you. Never fails.

In my example, it's not about intentionally holding out just to "keep him" but getting to know him better before having sex. I think after a decent amount of time (it varies for everyone) you can tell if a dude is serious enough. I think it's better than trial and error sex, not only from an emotional view but a physical(health) viewpoint as well.

Reading some other things, I think you can be happy with yourself, still attract a good person but that doesn't mean the relationship between you two would be beneficial to you in the long run.

 

[KnowledgeIsQueen]

Well that last line definitely true, I treat people well, some people treat me bad. We don't have control over others actions, obviously. As far as internalize another's individuals experience, I don't feel as if that's what many of us do, if you look at the men's thread most of the guys have all experienced similar things when it comes to cheating.

I see it as if you're in love, so you think these threads serve no purpose and are for bitter people who have been in failed relationships. Eh, maybe they are, maybe they aren't, but I'm not bitter, and I doubt many others are as well. Like most things, we only pick apart what we want, and then we take it and leave the rest of the things to rot. In these threads, eh I'm good looking and such but what I really needed was to learn to put myself first and to not care about everyone else's well being, all the boys in my family (brother, cousins) all take care of their friends and such like we're their mothers, even when they mess up we still love unconditionally. And what I've learned is that for example with my ex, I'll forgive you for what you've done, but make it right, but I'm not going to forgive you until you make it right, and when you can approach me and make it right then I'll mend our friendship. So I'm not scorned or whatever, it's just good to see a thread that bigs up loving yourself more than it does the opposite sex tbh.

Let me start off by stating, if I thought this thread served no purpose I would have left well enough alone. Secondly, it is not my desire to make anyone feel less than or that I am above others; I'm simply expressing myself.

What I've written thus far has nothing to do with being in love, it stems from the fact I wake up & go to sleep with my s/o (dealing with him on a daily basis). Marriage & raising children is a different entity in itself. Yet, I've spent the majority of my life without the aforementioned, which is why I commented.

My main reason for writing in this thread was to give a different perspective. I've never been an advocate of women putting unnecessary energy into understanding men, when they're a stranger to themselves. Once you know yourself & what you will not tolerate, you'll ward off nonsense without trying. In the event, those who try succeed, were brought into your life to teach you a lesson you couldn't learn on your own (my own interpretation).

We all have to deal with people on an individual basis. The words one reads, the wisdom bestowed upon us by our elders, what we've witnessed, etc. is a guide which has a very small percentage in preventing us from experiencing the growing pains of life. Everything we do requires action, thought and effort which stems from ourselves in order for anything to be gained.

 

[South Paw]

Boy, bye. You're probably in your 20's.

Sex shouldn't even be introduced into a relationship until you've known each other a VERY long time AND you've agreed to commit to each other...and after a thorough STD/AIDs test. (Don't just swab the cheek, get that blood work done, b) People's true intentions and character will be revealed with time. "it's only so long fake thugs can pretend". You can date someone without fukking them and if you feel you can't, then keep it moving.

and LMMFAO at feed you. Boy, bye 3 times over. fukk I look like? Your mother. You can feed your own self because you've been eating before I came in the picture so you shouldn't be starving now.

First off, I'm not in my 20's. And I don't know what that viewpoint has to do with age. Those are basic needs that any man looks for in a woman, and yes men want to be taken care of. I didn't know that all grown men cook for themselves while they're in a relationship with a woman. Any good woman wants to take care of her man.

And and some bytch asking me for a STD test before I get the beats. Secondly, if you choose to not give up the puss, that's your decision and you are well within your rights to do so. Understand that when you are dating a guy and you are not exclusive, you are not the only girl he is dealing with. And while you need to hold sex over his head until you "know him better" there are other females willing to do what you are not. Don't fool yourself into thinking he is practicing celibacy just because you're "special." You are probably in competition with several other females, whether you realize it or not.

 

[Rawtid]

First off, I'm not in my 20's. And I don't know what that viewpoint has to do with age. Those are basic needs that any man looks for in a woman, and yes men want to be taken care of. I didn't know that all grown men cook for themselves while they're in a relationship with a woman. Any good woman wants to take care of her man.

And and some bytch asking me for a STD test before I get the beats. Secondly, if you choose to not give up the puss, that's your decision and you are well within your rights to do so. Understand that when you are dating a guy and you are not exclusive, you are not the only girl he is dealing with. And while you need to hold sex over his head until you "know him better" there are other females willing to do what you are not. Don't fool yourself into thinking he is practicing celibacy just because you're "special." You are probably in competition with several other females, whether you realize it or not.

-My response was to men that desire to be catered to, when they don't contribute anything to the relationship

- at not knowing your partner's health status before you have sex with her.

- I never said a dude should, would or will practice celibacy if a woman chooses not to have sex with him while they are dating, good for him and I personally wouldn't care who he was fukking because it wouldn't be be. But IF the time comes where two people decide to be exclusive/committed, then it would be expected that he didn't have sex with other women and vice versa.

 

[South Paw]

-My response was to men that desire to be catered to, when they don't contribute anything to the relationship

- at not knowing your partner's health status before you have sex with her.

- I never said a dude should, would or will practice celibacy if a woman chooses not to have sex with him while they are dating, good for him and I personally wouldn't care who he was fukking because it wouldn't be be. But IF the time comes where two people decide to be exclusive/committed, then it would be expected that he didn't have sex with other women and vice versa.

And how often will you have a STD retest? Every 6 months?

 

[Rawtid]

And how often will you have a STD retest? Every 6 months?

Ummm yeah!!! I think eventually as the relationship progresses then just once a year, but that's standard.

 

[South Paw]

Ummm yeah!!! I think eventually as the relationship progresses then just once a year, but that's standard.

 

[Reckless]

-Never pay for a date until you're in a committed relationship

I'm sure niccas have already argued this comment, but this is laughable. Now way in hell we get into a committed relationship and we've been out numerous time and you haven't offer to pay for anything a single time.

So we kick it each weekend and you never once even offer to pay for something? Some dudes might not mind, but you couldn't be my girl

 

[Reckless]

And lol@ this thread. Its clear which girls have been fukked over by dudes in the past

 

[Rawtid]

I'm sure niccas have already argued this comment, but this is laughable. Now way in hell we get into a committed relationship and we've been out numerous time and you haven't offer to pay for anything a single time.

So we kick it each weekend and you never once even offer to pay for something? Some dudes might not mind, but you couldn't be my girl

I didn't say you had to pay for me, we can go dutch. But women shouldn't spend money on men they aren't committed to and vice versa.

LOL it's not about being fukked over, it just makes sense to me.

 

[Reckless]

I didn't say you had to pay for me, we can go dutch. But women shouldn't spend money on men they aren't committed to.

ok we can go with the dutch idea...but the better question is why then should men spend money on women they aren't committed to?

edit: and i wasnt taking about your post (regarding getting fukked over) was referring to some other posts in here.

 

[Rawtid]

ok we can go with the dutch idea...but the better question is why then should men spend money on women they aren't committed to?

I dont' think they should!! (I added vice versa after an edit) and I said this numerous times in the thread. People should keep their own money to them ownselves until they see the realtionship is going somewhere. You start tricking off on people before it's time and it sets and ugly precedent.

 

[Reckless]

1) stay away from men who didn't grow up with two active LOVING parents in their lives....men from single parent homes = no go.


5) stay away from men who don't like animals. if he's like when he hears about animal abuse or sees a stray puppy on the road and doesn't even bat an eyelash...it's a NO GO! (just trust me on this one....it sounds petty but it's actually an IMPORTANT character\ethics and empathy level assessment test ;))

these two are silly..mainly because there are exceptions to every rule. I got a bunch of boys from college who grew up in single parent homes, who are doing great and have made great husbands, fathers, etc.

you'll miss out on quality dudes applying these two rules blindly