Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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First, I appreciated all the feedback. As far as yesterday she stood me up.:wow: Naw, I'm joking, we had fun. She was like 15 minutes late but it was cool. Laughed, debated politics, religion, talked jobs (we used to work together) hip hop for 3 hours. It was a Carribean restaurant and that jerk chicken was spicy but good. We ordered the same thing which she was mad about because she wanted me try something different so she could eat off my plate:comeon: Her love life is dead and she's simpin for a guy whom she never went out with and he stopped texting, calling her. Anyway, she said she had fun twice so I'm assuming she wasn't just being polite. Again, it was 3 hours. Said that she pay next time (whenever that is) and I told her it didn't have to be a restaurant. Just coffee like she suggested. Text me that she got home safe and thanked me for the dinner. That was it.

Still not sure what changed where she finally stop spinning me but I'll continue not to pursue her. :manny:

Why still buy her dinner :dahell: It sound like she finessed a plate off you (which you suggested :mindblown: ) got to vent for several hours, showed no actual sexual attraction to you and placated you with a few "this is fun" OFC its fun free food and she got to talk all night. This seems like a waste of both time and money. This lady has 0 respect for you breh.

You shouldn't entertain this woman unless she wants to come to your crib and chill there next time. The nikka she told you about could have the cheeks right now and you courting her.
 
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Why still buy her dinner :dahell: It sound like she finessed a plate off you (which you suggested :mindblown: ) got to vent for several hours, showed no actual sexual attraction to you and placated you with a few "this is fun" OFC its fun free food and she got to talk all night. This seems like a waste of both time and money. This lady has 0 respect for you breh.

You shouldn't entertain this woman unless she wants to come to your crib and chill there next time. The nikka she told you about could have the cheeks right now and you courting her.
Well let me give background. We became cool at my job. Despute being totally opposites on just about everything. Talked all the time at work. Once she quit, we kept in touch through texting but it wasnt the same. But when i make suggestions to facetime or hang out it never happen. Once she said we would go to lunch but cancelled. I asked the next week and she said she had a meeting. I gave up and didnt talk to her for a month. Then out of the blue she hit me up. But this time she seemed way more intentional and wanted to talk more frequently. To the point now we dont go 2 days without texting. Which led to this point where we finally hung out. So I'm not trying to date, hit etc. Just wanted to hang out.
 

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First, I appreciated all the feedback. As far as yesterday she stood me up.:wow: Naw, I'm joking, we had fun. She was like 15 minutes late but it was cool. Laughed, debated politics, religion, talked jobs (we used to work together) hip hop for 3 hours. It was a Carribean restaurant and that jerk chicken was spicy but good. We ordered the same thing which she was mad about because she wanted me try something different so she could eat off my plate:comeon: Her love life is dead and she's simpin for a guy whom she never went out with and he stopped texting, calling her. Anyway, she said she had fun twice so I'm assuming she wasn't just being polite. Again, it was 3 hours. Said that she pay next time (whenever that is) and I told her it didn't have to be a restaurant. Just coffee like she suggested. Text me that she got home safe and thanked me for the dinner. That was it.

Still not sure what changed where she finally stop spinning me but I'll continue not to pursue her. :manny:

She simping for a guy who can have her cheeks slapping with 1 phone call..:francis:

You should have went into immediate damage control as soon as she said that..

If she don't got friends you can network off of, you just gotta eat that loss breh..

The only way to salvage this shyt is to come out swinging if you actually get a next time..

Like start touching her and getting physical from jump...if you get the p*ssy, you better have a mvp performance...

An opportunity is still there, but you cant pull these kind of moves
 

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Well let me give background. We became cool at my job. Despute being totally opposites on just about everything. Talked all the time at work. Once she quit, we kept in touch through texting but it wasnt the same. But when i make suggestions to facetime or hang out it never happen. Once she said we would go to lunch but cancelled. I asked the next week and she said she had a meeting. I gave up and didnt talk to her for a month. Then out of the blue she hit me up. But this time she seemed way more intentional and wanted to talk more frequently. To the point now we dont go 2 days without texting. Which led to this point where we finally hung out. So I'm not trying to date, hit etc. Just wanted to hang out.

If you just wanted to hang out why not accept the coffee she offered :ld:
 

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If you just wanted to hang out why not accept the coffee she offered :ld:
I didnt want money to be a hindrance. I know she dont get paid much and she just spent $75 on grad school app. $22 ain't a big deal
 

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First, I appreciated all the feedback. As far as yesterday she stood me up.:wow: Naw, I'm joking, we had fun. She was like 15 minutes late but it was cool. Laughed, debated politics, religion, talked jobs (we used to work together) hip hop for 3 hours. It was a Carribean restaurant and that jerk chicken was spicy but good. We ordered the same thing which she was mad about because she wanted me try something different so she could eat off my plate:comeon: Her love life is dead and she's simpin for a guy whom she never went out with and he stopped texting, calling her. Anyway, she said she had fun twice so I'm assuming she wasn't just being polite. Again, it was 3 hours. Said that she pay next time (whenever that is) and I told her it didn't have to be a restaurant. Just coffee like she suggested. Text me that she got home safe and thanked me for the dinner. That was it.

Still not sure what changed where she finally stop spinning me but I'll continue not to pursue her. :manny:

Damn... you know damn well if she even send you a text saying “Hi”, you’re going to be all :wub::wub:.

If a female start talking about her love life with you, you already friend zoned.

She told you what changed, the guy she was simping dropped her, she was hungry,you were available, she used you to take her mind off him.

Everybody here told you to drop her and you still feed her lol.. We all been here Breh and it sucks. So I know you won’t listen to us and you will just have to learn the hard way.
 

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Why still buy her dinner :dahell: It sound like she finessed a plate off you (which you suggested :mindblown: ) got to vent for several hours, showed no actual sexual attraction to you and placated you with a few "this is fun" OFC its fun free food and she got to talk all night. This seems like a waste of both time and money. This lady has 0 respect for you breh.

You shouldn't entertain this woman unless she wants to come to your crib and chill there next time. The nikka she told you about could have the cheeks right now and you courting her.
I was about to say this EXACT same shyt.
 

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I got finessed by a bytch for a plate last night
My instincts said don't trust her but I convinced myself that maybe she was interested in meeting for real.
:stopitslime:
When we got to the restaurant she ordered some chicken and devoured it
:gucci:
It was clear that bytch hadn't eaten all day. I should have walked out on the bill.
:hhh:
 

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I got finessed by a bytch for a plate last night
My instincts said don't trust her but I convinced myself that maybe she was interested in meeting for real.
:stopitslime:
When we got to the restaurant she ordered some chicken and devoured it
:gucci:
It was clear that bytch hadn't eaten all day. I should have walked out on the bill.
:hhh:
Stop feeding these hoes!!
Repeat after me :
"I already ate"
There's nothing they can do to counter that other than refuse to go out unless there's free food, in which case you bush the broad anyway

Free bonus one, say you're on a diet so you gotta eat grilled chicken at home and you aren't fukkin with restaurants right now
 

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Damn... you know damn well if she even send you a text saying “Hi”, you’re going to be all :wub::wub:.

If a female start talking about her love life with you, you already friend zoned.

She told you what changed, the guy she was simping dropped her, she was hungry,you were available, she used you to take her mind off him.

Everybody here told you to drop her and you still feed her lol.. We all been here Breh and it sucks. So I know you won’t listen to us and you will just have to learn the hard way.

:wow:Facts only...you a good breh:salute:

I wish I had advice and a thread like this when I was an inexperienced young buck:myman:
 

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First, I appreciated all the feedback. As far as yesterday she stood me up.:wow: Naw, I'm joking, we had fun. She was like 15 minutes late but it was cool. Laughed, debated politics, religion, talked jobs (we used to work together) hip hop for 3 hours. It was a Carribean restaurant and that jerk chicken was spicy but good. We ordered the same thing which she was mad about because she wanted me try something different so she could eat off my plate:comeon: Her love life is dead and she's simpin for a guy whom she never went out with and he stopped texting, calling her. Anyway, she said she had fun twice so I'm assuming she wasn't just being polite. Again, it was 3 hours. Said that she pay next time (whenever that is) and I told her it didn't have to be a restaurant. Just coffee like she suggested. Text me that she got home safe and thanked me for the dinner. That was it.

Still not sure what changed where she finally stop spinning me but I'll continue not to pursue her. :manny:

The hard truth pill to swallow; Shes more than likely getting her guts crushed by a guy like me, who did way less. Never pay for food, your job isn't to feed your prey, its to make sure she understands that everything about and or around you, is earned. Get coffee, and even then don't pay for it. Walk around, find a bench/park and dive in. Kino Escalation, it should always start with hand touching, then middle of the back and or arms. Shows interest and assertiveness...as I said before in this thread, be like a rapier, not a rapist. Quick, precise, and elegant in stroke. Within the space of 3 hours, you haven't reached in for a kiss or grope, don't bother.
 

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Stop feeding these hoes!!
Repeat after me :
"I already ate"
There's nothing they can do to counter that other than refuse to go out unless there's free food, in which case you bush the broad anyway

Free bonus one, say you're on a diet so you gotta eat grilled chicken at home and you aren't fukkin with restaurants right now

My favorite tactic to use is; planning a restaurant date, and as soon as she gets to the meeting spot, I tell her that I "canceled" the reservations due to a Yelp review saying that this local Deli has the best coffee.....it doesn't, and I never mad a reservation to begin with. Though she's not gonna bother with arguing about it, since most don't want to look like gold diggers. Either way, I never pay for anything.
 

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Ever wonder why chubby/fat girls tend to be the most freakiest ones than the slim girls? :patrice:


They know what they look like, and they have to bring more to the table. They might not be able to go up flights of stairs, but they can deepthroat some cock down a flight of their throats. Slim girls get attention, even the "meh" ones. Fat girls know they come in as a deficit. Though I know plenty of slim + pretty girls who will eat my ass for a bump of coke.

:Reddybeard:
 
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