Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I left feeling like it was a waste of time because we barely talked and I built up no further attraction, other than her female family was engrossed by me but who cares.
Well then it was a success...

Other women approving you, that builds attraction...women like having a dude that other women like.

So chick I was digging was posed to meet up with her last night after she got off. She texts me saturday saying shes super sick, but still wants to see me and I should come into her job so she can buy me a drink. She bartends so I go up there and she is sick and gives me a martini. Shes busy so I kind of chill for a bit, say hi to her people and leave. I got bougie cracker vibes from the dudes but the ladies loved me, so I left before I said something ignorant to the dudes. Its weird because she said they all thought I was cool so its neither here nor there. I left feeling like it was a waste of time because we barely talked and I built up no further attraction, other than her female family was engrossed by me but who cares.

I text her a lil later like you sick as a dog come let me give you a lymph massage (I'm a esthetician/masseuse) and shes not having it. So I charge the night to the game and tell her I give equal effort. She said this week would be a no go beforehand because her family and holidays so I'm guessing hit her up like next fridayish and see what she on? I don't feel like I'm being chasey but I'm def pursuing more than I would like right now. I'm still maintaining mystery or w/e but I'll be honest the fact she wasn't trying to chill with a cold pulled back the blinds because if a chick is into you they usually will raise hell to see you. so interest isn't as high as I initially thought.

brehs how would you handle this. our first actual date she was all over me so I know she was into me. I haven't used the phone to spill my life story either. just texts to set shyt up, learn what I want about her, sharing snippets of myself

After reading through..sounds like she bullshytting...

You said the first date went well...maybe she wanted the dikk that night,:patrice:

When a chick all over you and wants that dikk and you don't give em to em they in my experience go cold, and when you do meet up with them they be on some bullshyt and be bytchy and just play games with you for entertainment purposes.
 
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So chick I was digging was posed to meet up with her last night after she got off. She texts me saturday saying shes super sick, but still wants to see me and I should come into her job so she can buy me a drink. She bartends so I go up there and she is sick and gives me a martini. Shes busy so I kind of chill for a bit, say hi to her people and leave. I got bougie cracker vibes from the dudes but the ladies loved me, so I left before I said something ignorant to the dudes. Its weird because she said they all thought I was cool so its neither here nor there. I left feeling like it was a waste of time because we barely talked and I built up no further attraction, other than her female family was engrossed by me but who cares.

I text her a lil later like you sick as a dog come let me give you a lymph massage (I'm a esthetician/masseuse) and shes not having it. So I charge the night to the game and tell her I give equal effort. She said this week would be a no go beforehand because her family and holidays so I'm guessing hit her up like next fridayish and see what she on? I don't feel like I'm being chasey but I'm def pursuing more than I would like right now. I'm still maintaining mystery or w/e but I'll be honest the fact she wasn't trying to chill with a cold pulled back the blinds because if a chick is into you they usually will raise hell to see you. so interest isn't as high as I initially thought.

brehs how would you handle this. our first actual date she was all over me so I know she was into me. I haven't used the phone to spill my life story either. just texts to set shyt up, learn what I want about her, sharing snippets of myself

I can see where it went bad because a lot of game is being unavailable and not being to blatant in wanting women..... but she was sick..... like assuming she should chill with you sick or doesn't like you is asking a lot. People feel like shyt when they're sick, it's not normal to want to fukk somebody the first time when you're sick. If anything you may have fukked up when she said Nah on the massage and you replied: "I give equal effort". Like it sounds like she had you on that relationship track to be honest.

So if this was me I would hit her up with a "Hey how are you feeling text" before the holiday. Keep that shyt short (cause you aint text buddies) but let her know you're interested in her health and end it with I'll hit you up next week to check on you. Then text her next week after the holiday to check on her and set up a date in a situation where you could try to build the attraction again,

If she flakes fukk it, there are too many women, but it is really a lot to assume she doesn't like you cause she didn't want to hang out sick.
 
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Well then it was a success...

Other women approving you, that builds attraction...women like having a dude that other women like.



After reading through..sounds like she bullshytting...

You said the first date went well...maybe she wanted the dikk that night,:patrice:

When a chick all over you and wants that dikk and you don't give em to em they in my experience go cold, and when you do meet up with them they be on some bullshyt and be bytchy and just play games with you for entertainment purposes.

Logistically speaking we wasnt gonna fukk that first night. And Im not into fukking chicks who I barely know when theyve been drinking, specially not a black one. She wasnt bytchy when she saw me, warm really but she had to make drinks so no deep diving type shyt. IDK Im neurotic and probs overthinking tbh. Yall nikkas right, its kind of a lot to ask to want to fukk sick so.

Also I paraphrased with the equal effort shyt, I said I mirror effort if you want to see me you will and she replied youre damn right. Honestly I was just being straight up because first sign of definite games or flake shyt I remove myself from dealing with them. But she was sick and were both new and on probation with eac h other So its like ehhh IDK. Ill see what happens.
 
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@Zeu$ you know better than this. Have you stopped listening to Corey Wayne?

And with regards to that girl, delete her texts now and do not utter a single word to her again unless she reaches out to you first.


No actually, got sloppy since I figured I had some leeway with how well date 1 went
 
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when youre on a first date and a chick is diggin you, ready to fukk and you DONT purse the smash...a lot of girls fall all the way back from you. they feel SUPER rejected that you didnt fukk. and we know women take rejection much worse than we do. they get insecure as fukk :heh:

theres a couple of things that go thru their minds when you dont fukk:

-they think theyre not pretty enough or they did something wrong
-they feel slutty for putting sex out on the table like that and cant justify it since nothing happened
-they think you your game must be wack and see you as lame
-some might say youre a fukkin fakkit and scared of p*ssy

girls aint dumb. they think all brehs wanna fukk...which we do (and so do they). they know its on your mind, so when she gives you the green light...and you dont hit it...they're like "wtf? he doesnt want this??"

when i go out with a girl, the plan is to hit the first night. always. and if shes showing the signs...its going down. always go for the smash brehs. even if it doesnt happen that night...you let her know that youre a man who goes for what he wants.

some chicks only give you one shot. if you miss the opportunity, they might keep you around afterwards for the attention, but the chances of you fukkin are slim to none.
 

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So chick I was digging was posed to meet up with her last night after she got off. She texts me saturday saying shes super sick, but still wants to see me and I should come into her job so she can buy me a drink. She bartends so I go up there and she is sick and gives me a martini. Shes busy so I kind of chill for a bit, say hi to her people and leave. I got bougie cracker vibes from the dudes but the ladies loved me, so I left before I said something ignorant to the dudes. Its weird because she said they all thought I was cool so its neither here nor there. I left feeling like it was a waste of time because we barely talked and I built up no further attraction, other than her female family was engrossed by me but who cares.

I text her a lil later like you sick as a dog come let me give you a lymph massage (I'm a esthetician/masseuse) and shes not having it. So I charge the night to the game and tell her I give equal effort. She said this week would be a no go beforehand because her family and holidays so I'm guessing hit her up like next fridayish and see what she on? I don't feel like I'm being chasey but I'm def pursuing more than I would like right now. I'm still maintaining mystery or w/e but I'll be honest the fact she wasn't trying to chill with a cold pulled back the blinds because if a chick is into you they usually will raise hell to see you. so interest isn't as high as I initially thought.

brehs how would you handle this. our first actual date she was all over me so I know she was into me. I haven't used the phone to spill my life story either. just texts to set shyt up, learn what I want about her, sharing snippets of myself

She def moved on. Bush her ASAP
 

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This one chick asked me for $30 for an uber to get to work. Her sister was apparently with her CC. Cool no problem, she said she pay me back once she got hold of her sister.

Haven't been paid back since ("loaned" her the money last week Thursday).

I'm thinking about just charging that to the game instead of asking for the $30 back.

What y'all think? I'm not pressed for it, but $30 could get me a decent bottle of wine for Thanksgiving :ld:

It's kinda like that old saying: "If you loan person A $50 but never hear from them again, was it actually worth it?"

FYI - I've smashed shawty before


its 2018 you can log onto your banking app and pay

chicks never paid back

i already told this story back w hen i was a simp i lent a ex 8k never got a cent

now if a woman asks me for money thats it i wont say a word again

this chick ws talking to me today how she has no food in her house till she gets paid next week.

I've been viewing her whatsapp statuses chick is out at clubs and concerts and all that
 
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