Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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@kevm3 @His_Excellence_Reincar how do you feel about finding out a chick you're talking to has a roster??? Y'all not official by any means just the occasional cupcake session on the phone thing. You see her facebook and another negro comments "hey I called you back"... This happened to me a few years back and i'm still not sure I handled the situation accordingly
 
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@kevm3 @His_Excellence_Reincar how do you feel about finding out a chick you're talking to has a roster??? Y'all not official by any means just the occasional cupcake session on the phone thing. You see her facebook and another negro comments "hey I called you back"... This happened to me a few years back and i'm still not sure I handled the situation accordingly

Really, it just depends on how long she knew me and how long we started talking. If we JUST started talking, I can't be too mad at her because I'm new in her life and she doesn't really know me... On the other hand, if we've been kicking it for a while and really enjoying each other's company, then I wouldn't take her seriously after that and keep it pushing. There's a point to where you are 'unspoken official' with someone, where although you don't proclaim it, you are only seeing that person and turning down other offers because you want to give them the impression that you are serious about them.

I'm not a dude that sits around and competes for women, so if I was kicking it to a woman, she gave me the impression she was feeling me, but then it came up that she was chopping it to another dude the whole time, she isn't getting taken seriously. I don't care to deal with women who just have things going on in the background like that.
 
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Really, it just depends on how long she knew me and how long we started talking. If we JUST started talking, I can't be too mad at her because I'm new in her life and she doesn't really know me... On the other hand, if we've been kicking it for a while and really enjoying each other's company, then I wouldn't take her seriously after that and keep it pushing. There's a point to where you are 'unspoken official' with someone, where although you don't proclaim it, you are only seeing that person and turning down other offers because you want to give them the impression that you are serious about them.

I'm not a dude that sits around and competes for women, so if I was kicking it to a woman, she gave me the impression she was feeling me, but then it came up that she was chopping it to another dude the whole time, she isn't getting taken seriously. I don't care to deal with women who just have things going on in the background like that.

How long would you have considered to be 'a while" back then I barely been talking to ole girl for like a month and ain't even kick it with her in person yet just phone flirting and texting. I was young so I took a L... I also got bad advice from some dudes who was like just cut her off which is what I did. I was bitter from dealing with other chicks so I wasn't really in a trusting mind state. I'm just reflecting on past L's so I don't repeat them in the future...
 

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How long would you have considered to be 'a while" back then I barely been talking to ole girl for like a month and ain't even kick it with her in person yet just phone flirting and texting. I was young so I took a L... I also got bad advice from some dudes who was like just cut her off which is what I did. I was bitter from dealing with other chicks so I wasn't really in a trusting mind state. I'm just reflecting on past L's so I don't repeat them in the future...

The distinction really lies in her reactions to you. if you 'had her', as in she was taking you seriously and ya'll were moving to the next step of meeting up, yeah, I'd cut her off and keep it moving if she has another guy in the cuts. That's just a red flag on her part when she's shown she is really digging you but she's also chopping it up with some other guy in the background.

On the other hand, if ya'll were 'just cool' as in kind of flirting every now and then, but nothing real serious, then I couldn't be mad at her. But then again, if you're dealing with a woman for a month and she hasn't known you enough to want to to take you seriously, then she might not be the one for you.

Any woman that is decent looking will have numerous guys trying to get at her, but I feel that when she finds a guy she really likes, she cuts off all of the other guys just out of sheer respect for the guy she is dealing with. If a woman can't accord me that respect, I'm not taking her seriously. I'm definitely not no type of dude to be stuffed on a woman's roster, trying to compete my way out.
 

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Malcolm's dedication to Elijah was scary at times. He was so crushed when the nation started to turn against him. If I learned anything from this book, it's never put your faith in another person.

:ohhh: Never put faith in Jesus!
 

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if you notice, there are lots of men at the extreme ends of life that attract a high number of women. that is, the reckless men who are without their own place, no future prospects, a long criminal record, baby mamas, and endless drama throughout their relationships, live an unstable lifestyle, tend to get womens antennas to stick up. the more ignorant, the more ratchet or player, then the more hot these girls get. :skip:


then, there are the men who are very successful, spend lots of money to floss, have a cold attitude, a lack of morals, behave in a cutthroat way in their business, live a fast lifestyle, and have a strong lack of loyalty to any woman. those types also get a lot of interest from women.

:jawalrus:

its one way or the other with some of them, as someone in between these two extremes are either "too nice" or "too boring." there are plenty of women who tend to gravitate towards the hard to reach, "hard to figure out," and hard to get along with types. you see women lose their minds and go crazy over a$$holes, career criminals, absent fathers, bombers, serial killers, womanizers, thieving lawyers, corrupt men in power, etc.




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what do you see from that?

you would almost think that a dangerous man like that wouldnt serve a womans "emotional needs", but nope. with these hens, it is just the opposite.

its typical to find many women who are drawn in to danger, and are consciously or subconsciously seeking out that sort of destructive man into their lives. make no mistake, this is not a subtle quality in these men that they are craving. its glaringly obvious what these men really are, yet many women are still drawn to them, the consequences be damned. this is no accident that its going down, because if theres one thing that many females are, is perceptive. these problamatic men are not guys who just turn into "different people" and change up on them. it just turned out the the fire burned too hot for them once they flew in too close. women like danger, but like to run from it and shame it when it gets too real. drama queens accept and invite trifling men into their lives even when its plain to see trouble a mile away. in other words, they like to try and win over the borderline (or full fledged) sociopaths.

:whoa:

they want men who will be able to satisfy their need for an eventual dramatic blow up, a long power struggle, and a fued for the rest of their days. theyre essentially picking out their lifelong enemy

:dwillhuh:


as much as a cold approach towards life may appeal to you and your desire to bag a high number of chicks, I strongly advise you to look at all things from an outside perspective 1st and to distance yourself from these heffas who want dangerious, sociopathic types.

you may be able to play the field and mess with these girls for some time, but its still not a safe or fool proof choice. regardless if you are cold or not, you cannot avoid the fire these girls bring with them for too long. keep in mind: they know how to cling to you, bring you down to their level, and to sap your energy/time/money. dont stick with them for the long haul, but then realize that at the same time they are trying to do that with you. having a healthy future does not exist with these drama chasing women, as she will not allow it for you.

the men who mess with these drama hungry, blood thirsty women are sleeping with the enemy. their partner secretly loves conflicts and manipulating things to turn out in a horrible fashion. their personal lives tend to be in complete disorder. even powerful, sociopathic men fall victim in one way or another to the women in their lives. instead of turning into a monster just so you can attract plenty of hens, you should take a look at exactly what kind of person you will attract and what you want to deal with. many men who whoremonger and fukk many hoes end up getting caught up and involved with plenty of problems and women who give them headaches. in the end, if you are serious about having a genuinely beneficial relationship, YOU need to see whos in it for the drama, and who is in it to build with you. duck every woman who finds troublesome men with questionable behavior as a desirable
 

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part two for my last post is this: the woman who used to like those cold and untameable men, and is now trying to settle down with a good man.

if your woman has dated those types of problematic men before, and likes to bring it up to you, then you need to leave her. no if ands or buts about it. she is stating to you in her own way, that she secretly wants to get back with these head cases because, you guessed it, shes one too.

the classic struggle of a woman torn between two worlds (meaning her old life and now her supposedly new life) is one that you should want no part of. its involving yourself in a struggle over a woman who does not know what she wants, or is really just fooling herself for a short time. and you can not base a commitment on someone like that. she is spending time with you, but that may be for other reasons. if she is constantly reminding herself (and you) of her past should be a huge red flag for you. she is only with you to see if you can convince her to stray from her inner callings. they try out the nice guys and the ignorant types in order to attempt to move away from her tendancies of chasing damanging relationships with high risk men. but convincing her of changing who she is and what she wants, thats not your job.

its going to be up to you to spot a woman who is only pretending and putting on a mask. piece by piece, this will come off. if you ignore it, then its your ass. this is reason number one why you dont judge a woman by how she first appears to you. you will have to dig in a little deeper in some cases. bottomline, you should not settle for a woman who is trying to see if you can convince her into making a change in her life. she should already match up with you and come along willingly.
 

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My brother @CrossBones even though I wish I could've heard that a few months ago I know I was so deep in my simpage, my mind wouldn't be able to register these emeralds. Respect.
 
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Something that's tough to do, but you have to handle it is to stop getting soft and letting these women manipulate you. A lot of cats start off real, but then they start getting progressively softer as feelings start to develop. How you start is how you have to finish.
 

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Something that's tough to do, but you have to handle it is to stop getting soft and letting these women manipulate you. A lot of cats start off real, but then they start getting progressively softer as feelings start to develop. How you start is how you have to finish.

:what: yo kev you spying on me breh??? I was just talking to my boy about this... You hit the nail right on the head as men we tend to start to fluff these brawds up in our heads til we start blatantly ignoring red flags and signs that are easy to spot... It usually happens to men quicker than it does to women as well so watch out brehs and don't become that simp negro women take advantage of...
 

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@kevm3 @His_Excellence_Reincar how do you feel about finding out a chick you're talking to has a roster??? Y'all not official by any means just the occasional cupcake session on the phone thing. You see her facebook and another negro comments "hey I called you back"... This happened to me a few years back and i'm still not sure I handled the situation accordingly

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Like kevm said, I don't compete with other guys for a chick attention or to be chosen by her.

I may be labeled nice or to boring by broads because I loathe and avoid drama.

That's why I don't even mess with online dating, nothing worse than talking to a chick going out on a few dates and her profile is up and she logging in every day

Red flags are given early take note of them


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Don't get angry, women love confrontation and drama, they love knowing they can rile you up and mess with your emotions.

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good video there. first thing women learn and tend to fall back on is their name calling and shaming tactics. it worked for them for so long, that they hold onto it, knowing they can say any old shyt to someone and hide behind it like a girl. they learn that they can push buttons, get someone mad, and get away with it.

this is exactly their game. they want to take your focus, and your point by dragging you into an emotional response. always remember that, and dont take anything personal. if she wants to be a bytch, let her know that youre not going to talk to her or deal with her
 

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As for the woman who stuffs you on a roster.You should have a mentality that your no competitor when it comes to a woman.No woman is worth sitting on the bench for.Like I said cats have to have a mentality of a starting quarterback or a contending team.One of my main mistakes was waiting around for a woman.I knew a woman for a number of years.We became close once I moved and it was to the point this woman was going to move to my town,I mean we were real close.We had each other's social networking accounts,our families were tight etc.Until one day ol girl just vanished.I called her and she told me "She got a new man and he made her cut all of her male friends off" etc.... I cant front I was pissed because I was in there and I honestly believe she would have been my wife,remind you I was young at time (24) so I didnt know any better.Well 5 years later as her and I are both close to 30 a,I heard her engagement fell thru. If you are talking to a woman and she has a man or a "friend" let her go.That boyfriend #2 stuff aint going to get you nowhere but hurt,simp zone or nothing at all.No woman is that much of a priority especially if there NO official relationship :manny:
 
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