Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Dude how is vegas solo???? I was thinking about doing that as well but a brotha got scared lol

never been to vegas will be my first time

cuba was my first vacation in my life i went alone and i had a blast, its amazing going on vacation by yourself, can do what you want, when you want.

i was up like every morning at 630 and not returning bck to my room till ike 2am in drunken stupor
 

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good post

some men are weak, at one point in my life i was a beta simp, then as i got older and rwhen relationships ended I thanked the Lord, Better now than with 2 kids, better she cheats now than when your married with 3 kids and a house.

Look for the blessing in everything:smugbiden:
 

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another thing that bothers me today, is how men have compromised their standards. its not as important nowadays to be considered a man worthy of respect, and they have demoted themselves into girl hounds. theyre setting themselves up for the okie doke. simply put, many men today are slaves to their thirst. and they dont even try to hide it.

:upsetfavre:

their main bragging rights are not: if their family is together, if their credit/financial situation is planned out ahead of time and going smoothly, if they have a happy home, or if their kids are doing well in school.

a lot of men these days have only got this to brag about: I fukked so and so. or I COULD fukk so and so. I have this, so Im about to fukk so and so...

:dwillhuh:

theyre basing themselves and their status around women. their priorities are seriously misplaced.

and to make things worse, since thats the main goal, men have become shameless in their pursuit of sex. even more than some women these days. they will scheme on their mans girl, their girlfriends sister, their friends wife, the guy from their jobs lady, etc etc.


there used to be more of a code in place, that said you will not shyt where you eat. you will not fukk your mans girl. men nowadays are more ready than ever to creep with someone elses chick, and not give a fukk. problem is, not only are you fukking up someone elses relationship in your chase of p*ssy, but youre attracting a lot of problems that might come to light and turn out worse than you think.

I dont know why its like that, as before, if you KNEW someones old lady was flirting shamelessly, talking to other men, or being seen around town with someone else, youre SUPPOSED to pull ol boy to the side and let him know. thats your job, just as a man.

instead, theres just no shame today. men dont know how to be men. thats bird behavior. youre not supposed to run up in her, and then just be like "hey, if not me than its someone else."


the problem with that is, you knew better. if it was someone else who did that shyt, than maybe he didnt know better because she lied to him. let that be his burden. but dont scheme on another mans girl. its not your place to be a p*ssy hound and fukk over the next man for yourself, so to speak.

:leostare:

theyre fukking up the game, and believe it or not, giving the women more power over everything. men need to have a code, and be able to check a bytch. youre not doing that if youre chasing her at all costs.


thats a big problem today, as many men think its cool to holler at the next mans girl, and even brag about it. sooner or later though, all that selfish shyt will add up.

men are trying anything they can, to get anything they can. too much of that means sooner or later you will have to deal with someone else that you messed over. and all of the shyt that comes with screwing anything with a pulse. and when it comes down to it, you dont want to have a man looking for you because of some dirt you did.

men need to gain their composure and look into self control. and stop fukking anything they can. have some real standards, and have some decency about themselves. you dont have to fight over scraps and be fukking the next mans girl. get your own, or wait in the wings at least. shyt. fools out here are playing a dirty game, and wonder why theyre so stressed by ho shyt, and surrounded by ho shyt.

:childplease:


We have a generation of stunted personalities cause of people in the pursuit of sex. Men who backstab other men for p*ssy, women having no hobbies and the personality of a chalkboard, and the dating scene in shambles.
 

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Who cares what your parents think. The world is changing. There is a different way to live in this day and age. The curtain has been lifted. Feminism has allowed us to see what feral women are actually like. The “liberation” of women from their traditional roles is now resulting in the liberation of men from their role as provider. Those who do not accept the truth will get chewed up by the meat grinder.

:ehh: very well put.

I would not put any woman in the role of a traditional lady and I as her traditional man, unless she genuinely understood what that meant. otherwise, there is no use in being the traditional man with her. men, stop providing for women who arent worth it. they dont even contribute anything for that treatment from you.

men out there, realize that many women out there ARENT acting like ladies, and with that being the case, DONT treat them like they are.
 

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never been to vegas will be my first time

cuba was my first vacation in my life i went alone and i had a blast, its amazing going on vacation by yourself, can do what you want, when you want.

i was up like every morning at 630 and not returning bck to my room till ike 2am in drunken stupor

Breh I was married in 2010 remember

Divorced no kids and no stress
No more fighting
Saving more money
Happy as fukk

Headed to south beach tomorrow


We should hit up Vegas no homo let me know reincar lol
 

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Now who else wanna fukk with Hollywood Court?
never been to vegas will be my first time

cuba was my first vacation in my life i went alone and i had a blast, its amazing going on vacation by yourself, can do what you want, when you want.

i was up like every morning at 630 and not returning bck to my room till ike 2am in drunken stupor

:to:
 

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Marriage aint all bad brehs:whoa:




And if you fukking with a whole bunch of chicks at the same time, you're no different then a woman doing the same thing with a bunch of men:manny:



Don't whore yourself out brehs.
 

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Now who else wanna fukk with Hollywood Court?
Marriage aint all bad brehs:whoa:




And if you fukking with a whole bunch of chicks at the same time, you're no different then a woman doing the same thing with a bunch of men:manny:



Don't whore yourself out brehs.


The biggest issue with marriage is the implication of life and the fact you have no control over how the person you're with can change over time.
 

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The biggest issue with marriage is the implication of life and the fact you have no control over how the person you're with can change over time.

I agree. But even though, you're only supposed to enter into marriage with the "cream of the crop" (in your eyes).


Alot of guys marry just any old chick and wonder why it failed:snoop: If you have ANY doubts about your woman, she isnt marriage material at all:ufdup:


A good marriage > A good relationship > A bad relationship > A bad marriage......at least in a bad relationship you can just walk out scot free with no attachments:manny:


Bottomline is.....WE decide if we get married or not, not them. Never should a man settle for less then the best if he's gonna finally decide to get married.


It's our choice (men). Don't blame "marriage" because you picked the wrong woman brehs. A rocky relationship is not gonna magically change just because you're married.
 

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breh i havent been in a relationship in nearly two yeras, in that timeframe ive been to dominican republic, jamaica and finally tis year i travelled on my lonesome to cuba,

when you have that extra time, that extra money, no responsibility :lawd:

im prob heading to vegas for my birthday in june alone again:gladbron:

why? becase i can

I feel you. In her defense, we talked about traveling together. She's a cool one, for now. We have a few things we need to discuss but it will be hard for me to let this one go unless she fukks up. She's a little young so she's not ready for marriage or kids. So we'll have a few years of traveling if things work out.

One of homies is the total opposite. He's been with his girl for years. All they do is travel. And they went from :flabbynsick: to losing mad weight. They get my props.
 

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i feel you but it's tough man...it sounds like the only way to "win" but when you try to apply the blueprint, it's like at some point a chick will somehow manage to soften your heart and appeal to your compassion. and once that happens you're done cause she sees the weakness.

even the late great Patrice touched on that in his epic Black Phillip series. When he talked about how he always tried to be hard on his girl but his girl helped him take care of himself by making sure he eated right and took his medication. And he said he recognized it was her way of appealing to his heart and making it softer. that was like her "in". Women know we are very sensitive to a girl genuinely caring about us cause it's so rare. but when they want you, it's in their nature to try to soften your heart so that they can earn your loyalty (they want that loyalty to secure your devotion). once they get that devotion to an unconditional level, the challenge is solved and they don't feel attracted to you anymore because they already got everything from you. so they move on to the next mark, rinse and repeat. avoiding all this is very hard because we are wired to care and soften a little bit (imo).



I have a feeling that that's what she's doing to me right now. I'm still as playful, goofy and guarded as day one; still haven't cracked yet and i believe, this 4th month and me still being reserved is why girl still is on full admiration mode for the boy.


What about when i start to get routine? When the thrill and excitement is gone - will she still appreciate me for me and be in love with my true character? As much as i'd like to believe she won't do that - women are susceptible to anything, anywhere and most importantly... any time.


Not saying i'm putting up a front/facade, as it is my true personality, but who's to say that this won't get weary on her end? It just may - and as much as in denial about the inevitabilities and that when she was i was the best thing that happened to her (last night via text)... i know better and to realize that it's just how she feels "at the moment".


It's really gonna suck when reality hits - but that's why i'm still guarded and prepared for any surprises or curveballs this seemingly pristine angel i have in my life.


Hopefully i'm not being too cautious... just a realistic and because of my experiences and also, living vicariously through the stories i hear through friends/family and fellow Coli breaghs... the future seems so bleek and dim. The only thing that is certain from here on out, is not everlasting love/her affection for you, the joys of having a companion that gives you attention... shiit, not even our health and wealth.


All you've got is your mind - and the only way to ensure it will be at peace is to remain/become as resilient as you can and be wise about things you can't control.


Sure, in relationships, women may have the upperhand...


But as the men of the Gems thread, i like to believe we have the upper mind.


Use it to keep you elevated and away from any potential dangers. This comradery between us is why we standing and why we here TODAY!!!


Tomorrow, i take my lady friend of four months to dinner. As she sit across from eachother on the dinner table, and we're sentimentally gazing in eacthothers eyes, she's gonna start thinking about spending the rest of her life with this stud in front of her; the house, white picket fences, poodles, oodles and noodles with 4 chul'ren to parle the social landscape.

Au contraire, the only thing that is crossing my mind is how good this Manhattan is and how this 3 course meal, as good as it gon' be - fixing to cost me damn near a pair of airmaxes. Shiiieeetttt...


The reality of the matter is?


My heart knows better than to ever drop this guard, in fear that if i do, the proverbial blow i'll get to the face may be one that i might never recover from.


And that's the representation of impact so strong, i could literally be walking with damage and scars so profound and prominent - you can see it all over my face, even if the superficial wounds have healed.


And because i have no faith in the contemporary woman, all i can say is...



The only woman that's err gon' love yo ass - is the woman that carried you for nine months and went through hours of labor to ensure you would come into this world safe and sound.


She would do anything for you.


And for that woman, i'd do anything for.


All the other females in your life are just there to supplement your existence.


Tread accordingly fam.


I'm sure there is a woman out there who's as genuine and pure as your own mother - but when it comes to anything beyond my own mind, body and soul - i'm always skeptical about.


Good luck out there guys.


And wish a fella luck.


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I have a feeling that that's what she's doing to me right now. I'm still as playful, goofy and guarded as day one; still haven't cracked yet and i believe, this 4th month and me still being reserved is why girl still is on full admiration mode for the boy.


What about when i start to get routine? When the thrill and excitement is gone - will she still appreciate me for me and be in love with my true character? As much as i'd like to believe she won't do that - women are susceptible to anything, anywhere and most importantly... any time.


Not saying i'm putting up a front/facade, as it is my true personality, but who's to say that this won't get weary on her end? It just may - and as much as in denial about the inevitabilities and that when she was i was the best thing that happened to her (last night via text)... i know better and to realize that it's just how she feels "at the moment".


It's really gonna suck when reality hits - but that's why i'm still guarded and prepared for any surprises or curveballs this seemingly pristine angel i have in my life.


Hopefully i'm not being too cautious... just a realistic and because of my experiences and also, living vicariously through the stories i hear through friends/family and fellow Coli breaghs... the future seems so bleek and dim. The only thing that is certain from here on out, is not everlasting love/her affection for you, the joys of having a companion that gives you attention... shiit, not even our health and wealth.


All you've got is your mind - and the only way to ensure it will be at peace is to remain/become as resilient as you can and be wise about things you can't control.


Sure, in relationships, women may have the upperhand...


But as the men of the Gems thread, i like to believe we have the upper mind.


Use it to keep you elevated and away from any potential dangers. This comradery between us is why we standing and why we here TODAY!!!


Tomorrow, i take my lady friend of four months to dinner. As she sit across from eachother on the dinner table, and we're sentimentally gazing in eacthothers eyes, she's gonna start thinking about spending the rest of her life with this stud in front of her; the house, white picket fences, poodles, oodles and noodles with 4 chul'ren to parle the social landscape.

Au contraire, the only thing that is crossing my mind is how good this Manhattan is and how this 3 course meal, as good as it gon' be - fixing to cost me damn near a pair of airmaxes. Shiiieeetttt...


The reality of the matter is?


My heart knows better than to ever drop this guard, in fear that if i do, the proverbial blow i'll get to the face may be one that i might never recover from.


And that's the representation of impact so strong, i could literally be walking with damage and scars so profound and prominent - you can see it all over my face, even if the superficial wounds have healed.


And because i have no faith in the contemporary woman, all i can say is...



The only woman that's err gon' love yo ass - is the woman that carried you for nine months and went through hours of labor to ensure you would come into this world safe and sound.


She would do anything for you.


And for that woman, i'd do anything for.


All the other females in your life are just there to supplement your existence.


Tread accordingly fam.


I'm sure there is a woman out there who's as genuine and pure as your own mother - but when it comes to anything beyond my own mind, body and soul - i'm always skeptical about.


Good luck out there guys.


And wish a fella luck.


.

You on the right path with her breh:salute:


Hope all goes well for you.
 

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I have a feeling that that's what she's doing to me right now. I'm still as playful, goofy and guarded as day one; still haven't cracked yet and i believe, this 4th month and me still being reserved is why girl still is on full admiration mode for the boy.


What about when i start to get routine? When the thrill and excitement is gone - will she still appreciate me for me and be in love with my true character? As much as i'd like to believe she won't do that - women are susceptible to anything, anywhere and most importantly... any time.


Not saying i'm putting up a front/facade, as it is my true personality, but who's to say that this won't get weary on her end? It just may - and as much as in denial about the inevitabilities and that when she was i was the best thing that happened to her (last night via text)... i know better and to realize that it's just how she feels "at the moment".


It's really gonna suck when reality hits - but that's why i'm still guarded and prepared for any surprises or curveballs this seemingly pristine angel i have in my life.


Hopefully i'm not being too cautious... just a realistic and because of my experiences and also, living vicariously through the stories i hear through friends/family and fellow Coli breaghs... the future seems so bleek and dim. The only thing that is certain from here on out, is not everlasting love/her affection for you, the joys of having a companion that gives you attention... shiit, not even our health and wealth.


All you've got is your mind - and the only way to ensure it will be at peace is to remain/become as resilient as you can and be wise about things you can't control.


Sure, in relationships, women may have the upperhand...


But as the men of the Gems thread, i like to believe we have the upper mind.


Use it to keep you elevated and away from any potential dangers. This comradery between us is why we standing and why we here TODAY!!!


Tomorrow, i take my lady friend of four months to dinner. As she sit across from eachother on the dinner table, and we're sentimentally gazing in eacthothers eyes, she's gonna start thinking about spending the rest of her life with this stud in front of her; the house, white picket fences, poodles, oodles and noodles with 4 chul'ren to parle the social landscape.

Au contraire, the only thing that is crossing my mind is how good this Manhattan is and how this 3 course meal, as good as it gon' be - fixing to cost me damn near a pair of airmaxes. Shiiieeetttt...


The reality of the matter is?


My heart knows better than to ever drop this guard, in fear that if i do, the proverbial blow i'll get to the face may be one that i might never recover from.


And that's the representation of impact so strong, i could literally be walking with damage and scars so profound and prominent - you can see it all over my face, even if the superficial wounds have healed.


And because i have no faith in the contemporary woman, all i can say is...



The only woman that's err gon' love yo ass - is the woman that carried you for nine months and went through hours of labor to ensure you would come into this world safe and sound.


She would do anything for you.


And for that woman, i'd do anything for.


All the other females in your life are just there to supplement your existence.


Tread accordingly fam.


I'm sure there is a woman out there who's as genuine and pure as your own mother - but when it comes to anything beyond my own mind, body and soul - i'm always skeptical about.


Good luck out there guys.


And wish a fella luck.


.

You simply have to remove the power she haves over you by stop caring what she thinks in regards to whether she's going to be around tomorrow. Nothing is promised tomorrow, especially a woman. Enjoy her while she is here, but accept that she may leave tomorrow. Once you've come to that acceptance, you will start rearranging your life to where you don't base your satisfaction around whether you have a woman in your life or not. There is simply way too much to do than to be overly concerned about the presence of a woman. The real deal is that a kept woman will find a way to be kept. If she wants to stick around, she will find a way to do so. All your job is is to keep being you and to keep on pushing for a brighter future. If she's real about you, she will find a way to keep herself in your life. If she leaves, then she didn't stand the test of time and that just makes a roster space for another woman who is willing to go harder.
 
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