No i have no kids yet. It's why i'm thinking this hard about the relationship as i know that once (or if) we do have kids there is no going back and im locked in.
It's funny, when i was single i got bored of the single life and meaningless sex/lack of focus etc and i was looking back at my life at 30 asking myself what i had achieved/what could i show of my progress in life. I decided that i wanted to settle down with that one person and have a serious serious relationship (marriage, kids, the whole 9 yard etc) plus i knew that i was getting bored of the casual sex/life.
Now that i'm in a relationship by mind constantly drifts towards being single as i'm seeing the perks. What i really want is to Grow and meet the person i believe i can be but in terms of relationship i do want to settle down and have children in the future (not right now).
What's really bugging me is the lack of sex as this is what i feed off on (brings me happiness) and i know how easy it would be for me to get it if i became single.
Got you, mind you I am not your target audience for who you wanted to respond but in mid/late 30s who probably passed up on atleast 3 good ones tryna find whatever the fukk I was at time and all close boys are married and have had to talk a couple off the ledge and let them know aint shyt in these streets. Mind you, I know them and their significant other so its different as I dont know your situation. I remember I was at happy hour with a close breh and he was talking about issues and then he was like breh we can get the boat/jet skis and do it like old times thinking I was gonna co sign, I had to hit him with the

.. Like if you dont go home and figure that shyt out, lol.. Mind you his girl at time hated me because I was the single friend that all my boys used as scapegoat. That changed when he told her I kept it real with him and they worked it out, now Im favorite bro in law and godfather to the youngest..

But breh, life is about moving thru stages, regardless if you ready or not, you cant go back home lol. We got no choice but to mature in the game, I am a big believer that the game changes every 4-5 years for every individual playa. Also when we get what we want, we want what we had, like the little kid who dont even look at a toy anymore but then another toddler pop up and see the neglected dusty toy now jit want to cry and try to snatch it out they hands. Its human nature, that why we need to have absolute clear vision of what we want to stay on the mission. 5 years is ALOT to invest in someone and not know what the move is. Obviously you invested TIME and money, is she an asset to your mission? Does she share your vision? You in the estate building stage, its hard to do that and juggle multiple women.
It really depends on if she is of quality, and does she check off the majority of boxes to help with family and kids (only reason I think for brehs to get married, right?) Also have to be mature and understand no women gonna check off EVERY box, just like brehs wont meet the 1000 requirements women have. But what are the deal breakers, can they be worked around, what are the good qualities, I can tell you ALOT of women lack even the basics and the soil is not even fertile to try to till.
I know you mentioned lack of sex is an issue, that can be a big problem, especially if we talking even before having kids cuz I seen alot change after. Is it an asexual thing or can it be worked on, that might be a deal breaker, not sure I ever dealt with that so its tough on how to handle.
Hope this ramble helped some, about to hit this Calle ocho quick and then Jazz in the Gardens (I already know the tributes for Angie Stone and D'wayne Wiggins gonna be serious

). The talent

, Enjoy the sunday brehs
