Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ahadi]

Could you date a woman you have no physical attraction to?

She checks all the boxes: intelligent, financially responsible, comes from a stable family with a great relationship with her father. Last week, I called her out on something, and she immediately apologized, which I really respected. My only issue is that I feel absolutely no attraction toward her. On the other hand, I meet plenty of women I'm attracted to, but they usually end up being more trouble than they're worth.

No.

 

[The ADD]

i was talking to a high school friend recently. He and i are both single and we were talking about the state of dating. I basically told him that were at a time in the world where as a man, you either go along with the bullshyt that feminism, IG, simps, dating apps etc. has turned these women into and end up castrated in the process or you hold out til you find a solid chick who's really down for you at the risk of being single.

its really one of those two outcomes if you're single nowadays. I'm choosing to hold out. even in the latter, there is a risk that she changes her mind down the line and gets bored or whatever.

I've accepted the fact that marriage, kids and all that may not be in the cards and thats perfectly fine because all that shyt does is anchor/tie you down in a life thats kinda pointless anyway lol

Old Man advice. I doubt it’s ever really off the table. Life moves in stages. You might be older when it make sense and works out.

Sample size of 1 (me) and just my $0.02

 

[twan83]

Reading them @PatCake post and sheesh. It's easy for me to.say this as someone not married but I'd dead that shyt because it's only going to get worse and you are going to sink in a hole of depression to the point your life/health is going to be at risk. Idk how old you are but if y'all don't have kids take the minor financial hit if any now and rebuild

I have kids and just visualize how I would do it and I couldn’t breh. I mean off the bat I wouldn’t I would tolerate till I got my ducks in a row then bounce tho
As far as the phone thing I disagree to a extent
My wife has my password and I have hers now I don’t go looking for shyt in her phone and whatnot but from past experience if something is off and it’s obvious damn right gonna look
I respect people privacy but if you acting funky I wanna know why and from my ex wife when she was acting off and then didn’t even give me no sex on my birthday after taking me out I checked her shyt a week later come to find out she was cheating on me and planned on leaving me when I went thru her phone I her real quick and she wasn’t mad at all was actually happy so that’s my view point in looking into phones
Leave it alone respect their privacy only do it if something is seriously off only reason why cus if u just do it all the time ur gonna see shyt that will hurt ur feelings that may not be cheating could be girl talk and ur not gonna be able to handle it then wanna get mad and her response could be don’t look my stuff if u can’t handle it so there’s that
That’s what i tell my wife if she go thru my stuff when it’s guy talk

 

[Apollo Creed]

I have kids and just visualize how I would do it and I couldn’t breh. I mean off the bat I wouldn’t I would tolerate till I got my ducks in a row then bounce tho
As far as the phone thing I disagree to a extent
My wife has my password and I have hers now I don’t go looking for shyt in her phone and whatnot but from past experience if something is off and it’s obvious damn right gonna look
I respect people privacy but if you acting funky I wanna know why and from my ex wife when she was acting off and then didn’t even give me no sex on my birthday after taking me out I checked her shyt a week later come to find out she was cheating on me and planned on leaving me when I went thru her phone I her real quick and she wasn’t mad at all was actually happy so that’s my view point in looking into phones
Leave it alone respect their privacy only do it if something is seriously off only reason why cus if u just do it all the time ur gonna see shyt that will hurt ur feelings that may not be cheating could be girl talk and ur not gonna be able to handle it then wanna get mad and her response could be don’t look my stuff if u can’t handle it so there’s that
That’s what i tell my wife if she go thru my stuff when it’s guy talk

yeah dude ripped the band aid off, so no amount of bullshyt therapy or convos will fix it, it will always be dwelling in the back of his mind and deteriorate his mental and or physical health. It will also lead to him likely staying in the relationship and getting his "revenge", getting caught and the world treating him as the bad guy and everything she did is justified (because you know people will always/usually side with women).

I didn't read his thread to see how recent the marriage was, but if its been under a year get that annulment and keep it moving especially since it seems the financial blow will be minimum.

it def aint like these folks were high school sweet hearts and shyt, dude was a straight lick for this chick and moment someone she lusts for comes along she gonna dump dude and have him looking goofy and hit him with a divorce on some "I`m not happy" shyt if the dude she lusts for decides to commit.

 

[Apollo Creed]

I would spit in my daughters fukking face if I found out she was on a dating app talking about she wanna be spoiled.



then take her to the court house to change her last name.

 

[Guvnor]

Could you date a woman you have no physical attraction to?

She checks all the boxes: intelligent, financially responsible, comes from a stable family with a great relationship with her father. Last week, I called her out on something, and she immediately apologized, which I really respected. My only issue is that I feel absolutely no attraction toward her. On the other hand, I meet plenty of women I'm attracted to, but they usually end up being more trouble than they're worth.

Depends on the sex, is it her weight or face?

If the sex is good I would over look that cause looks fade overtime and it's hard to find a real one now a days. You got to think long term and as you said the women you like are often no good, sometimes you got to get the one who likes you. She can take accountability which is also a plus but then again depends on how busted she is. If she was decent I would make it work though.

 

[97Pac]

Depends on the sex, is it her weight or face?

If the sex is good I would over look that cause looks fade overtime and it's hard to find a real one now a days. You got to think long term and as you said the women you like are often no good, sometimes you got to get the one who likes you. She can take accountability which is also a plus but then again depends on how busted she is. If she was decent I would make it work though.

Mostly weight, although I met her at a run club meet-up. She told me she is comfortable with her weight. I definitely prefer petite women. Only reason I gave her a shot is because she applied so much pressure. I just got out a relationship and she is the complete opposite of my ex. I know I cam build a decent life with her but I absolutely will have to cheat.

 

[Guvnor]

Most weight, although I met her at a run club meet-up. She told me she is comfortable with her weight. I definitely prefer petite women. Only reason I gave her a shot is because she applied so much pressure. I just got out a relationship and she is the complete opposite of my ex. I know I cam build a decent life with her but I absolutely will have to cheat.

Damn bro you don't think you can get her on the right track to lose the weight. Maybe introduce a "healthy lifestyle".

 

[The ADD]

Most weight, although I met her at a run club meet-up. She told me she is comfortable with her weight. I definitely prefer petite women. Only reason I gave her a shot is because she applied so much pressure. I just got out a relationship and she is the complete opposite of my ex. I know I cam build a decent life with her but I absolutely will have to cheat.

Dude this is a bad move. You sound desperate for a bounce back.

 

[DJSmooth]

Damn bro you don't think you can get her on the right track to lose the weight. Maybe introduce a "healthy lifestyle".

Waste of time. For the most part women don't improve themselves, what you get is what you get.

 

[re'up]

Physical attraction is almost everything for me, the immediate and intense kind, but I can be superficial in that way. Attraction is like time, it can move at it's own pace, and you can slowly become more and more attracted, over the course of hours or days, weeks.

on the marriage subject, read some novels about marriage, or memoirs about relationships. That's one way to get some insight. And then think of the people in your life whose marriage you would want. Or that doesn't seem mostly unhappy. I can never think of any examples, which guides some of my thinking, unless I am stacking the deck with wealth and power.

 

[re'up]

oh and this 'checking the box'...when did people start talking like that? I don't mean in a disrespectful way, but where did that kind of thinking become so omnipresent culturally? I have NEVER even thought about saying the phrase "checking a lot of boxes" about someone I was into.

 

[Ohene]

Could you date a woman you have no physical attraction to?

She checks all the boxes: intelligent, financially responsible, comes from a stable family with a great relationship with her father. Last week, I called her out on something, and she immediately apologized, which I really respected. My only issue is that I feel absolutely no attraction toward her. On the other hand, I meet plenty of women I'm attracted to, but they usually end up being more trouble than they're worth.

Nope

In fact the same woman I mentioned above I was attracted to on some level, she has a pretty face. But her body wack and she doesnt really dress well so the physical attraction was mid at best. All it did was make me inquire about her going to the gym and critique her lol. That aint fair to anyone. Dont waste your time.

 

[97Pac]

Dude this is a bad move. You sound desperate for a bounce back.

Well it's actually the opposite, my ex made my life hell to the point I don't want to date. This "new" chick came at me.

Damn bro you don't think you can get her on the right track to lose the weight. Maybe introduce a "healthy lifestyle".

Well I had hope because I met her at a run club meet-up. She did the whole can you train me and help me with my running. She texted me what she had for dinner one day and I accidentally replied and she sent me this message "I'm not ur skinny chic who eats salads nor I have any goals of being skinny. I love the way my body is. "

If she lost about 40-50 pounds I'd be OK with her. I've never really met a chick like her
She has all her shyt in order, house, good career, doesnt nag me about stupid shyt, but I can't get over not being attracted to her.

Waste of time. For the most part women don't improve themselves, what you get is what you get.

I had hope because I met her at a run club meet-up and she always talks to me about running. But running off 500 calaries is a wash when you just ate 2000.

 

[DJSmooth]

Well it's actually the opposite, my ex made my life hell to the point I don't want to date. This "new" chick came at me.

Well I had hope because I met her at a run club meet-up. She did the whole can you train me and help me with my running. She texted me what she had for dinner one day and I accidentally replied and she sent me this message "I'm not ur skinny chic who eats salads nor I have any goals of being skinny. I love the way my body is. "

If she lost about 40-50 pounds I'd be OK with her. I've never really met a chick like her
She has all her shyt in order, house, good career, doesnt nag me about stupid shyt, but I can't get over not being attracted to her.


I had hope because I met her at a run club meet-up and she always talks to me about running. But running off 500 calaries is a wash when you just ate 2000.

was she at the run club to lose weight or to find a man?

Depending on how much time you feel like wasting. You can straight up tell her, "I want to move this into something long term but you need to lose 40-50 pounds", She either going to cuss you out or she is going to lose the weight and it seems you're are willing to help her.