Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[RealAssanova]

It will be very hard to just let it go.

When a woman really loves, she puts that extra effort and she goes to certain extents for a guy. Man i'm finding out this person would take a day off and spend money trying to visit someone who's sick. I never got that. Every single trip i went to pick her up. When I was sick and far away all i got was 'hope yoi feel better'. Now i'm finding out if I was someone else it'd be different.

When I went to visit before we got married. She never cooked. I'd get there and buy takeout all weekend. Come to find out when the dude would pass by she'd go l out and buy grocery. Ask him 'what should I cook for you?'.

Just last weekend my sister said shes gonna come and introduce her serious bf to me. My brother and his wife arranged a whole saturday visit to make it a nice lovely saturday(said he's coming too). So that means we have to wake up and prepare the house for my family right?
No! Friday night she says "I have date with my friend she's been asking me to go shopping with her. Can we at least postpone your family's visit to next week? Or i'll see them tomorrow late when I come back shopping".

We argued for 30 min until i convinced her that my priority should come first as her husband before her friend's.

Looking back now I realize why.
I don't know breh. I have big decision to make.

Yea the signs were there..

Moving forward, don’t ever go against your gut. That is something i learned the older i got.

That is your best friend.

Anytime it starts to act up regarding a particular person when it never used to, its a sign to get ready to move on.

 

[skyrunner1]

Damn, in Miami?

Esme Hotel
Setai bar Jaya
Faena for drinks, shyt was like 2k a night
Edition, was 1300 a night

you don't need to get a room, but just meet at one of those spots. Miami is the sexiest place I have ever been. But, the videos and all that a lot is just for attention. Happens to my boy all the time, when he meets girls at the club. He gets them for sure, but if it's numbers, they will send sexy snaps, vids, pics, and never meet up.

Young breh say he live at the crib with the peoples, no reason to be going to Faena or Jaya (The brunch ) with a church freak Better off getting happy hour at tootsies and get her some lemon pepper wings a couple dances and get that engine running..

 

[Ohene]

It will be very hard to just let it go.

When a woman really loves, she puts that extra effort and she goes to certain extents for a guy. Man i'm finding out this person would take a day off and spend money trying to visit someone who's sick. I never got that. Every single trip i went to pick her up. When I was sick and far away all i got was 'hope yoi feel better'. Now i'm finding out if I was someone else it'd be different.

When I went to visit before we got married. She never cooked. I'd get there and buy takeout all weekend. Come to find out when the dude would pass by she'd go l out and buy grocery. Ask him 'what should I cook for you?'.

Just last weekend my sister said shes gonna come and introduce her serious bf to me. My brother and his wife arranged a whole saturday visit to make it a nice lovely saturday(said he's coming too). So that means we have to wake up and prepare the house for my family right?
No! Friday night she says "I have date with my friend she's been asking me to go shopping with her. Can we at least postpone your family's visit to next week? Or i'll see them tomorrow late when I come back shopping".

We argued for 30 min until i convinced her that my priority should come first as her husband before her friend's.

Looking back now I realize why.
I don't know breh. I have big decision to make.

Yea be careful bruh

This is why nikkas want submissive women. If you aint a priority then whats the point of marrying the chick? How much was the wedding

 

[Ahadi]

Respect yourselves black men

 

[Ahadi]

Classic case of watch what they do, not what they say. If you listen to the words, it would leave you confused. Getting an Airbnb/room is a risk but I would still do it and have her stop by BEFORE yall go on date very close by. Let her get lay of land and comfortable, maybe pregame a bit and see where the vibe go. She gonna "shyt test" you HARD like above but the main thing is you have to communicate it in smooth manner. You got to curate a smooth experience and you should be good to go. Home girl sound like a certified freak, she just dont want to verbalize it in that way but the actions say otherwise.

I always do that.

Act like I “forgot” something. Show them my spot, offer a drink and be on our way. But usually we never leave because she’s comfortable at my spot.

 

[Ahadi]

Yep. I got an Indian chick I have this arrangement with, met for a drink for our first hang and made out in the bar, wasn't sure if we'd hang again but she messages the next day and said she really loved meeting me.

A week later we set it up and I went to her place. Been hooking up for almost 10 months now, usually twice a month. She has a very busy job in publishing but also likes to just unwind with some good sex.

I'm gonna say if you don't have one invest in a 'massager' I have one and bringing these chick's off with a mix of my dikk, fingers and this is deadly. I gave this woman multiple orgasms over a two hour session. Best believe she was calling me back for more.

Saw her last Friday at her new place and she messaged the next day saying she woke up wanting more. She told me if I have any free time to come fukk her again over the christmas break.

A hitachi? Or a clit vibrator?

 

[Ahadi]

Wife recently bought a new fone. Forfeiting the old one. One she had used for the last 3 years right before we go married. We got married 2 months ago (https://www.thecoli.com/threads/got-married-last-weekend-brehs.1056932/)


Did I not get curious and start reading old texts on her old fone while she was at work

I found out the dude who for some readon just wouldn't go away the first 6 months of dating is the actual love of her life

She basicly tried all she could to get with the guy and he kept curving her. It wasn't him keeping contact with her it was the opposite. And the times he would call he was simply returning the 10+ missed calls she left him.

I was the fall guy. I was the other, other option. Not even 2nd choice but third(there was another dude she'd been waiting on but he didn't make the move. If even said if he did she'd dump meee)

She basicly gave up after the dude impregnated a chick. Then I became the ' I guess this one will do just fine' guy

I'm finding this shyt out after giving her the ring

Not sure how old you are, but that’s why I’m skeptical on women 27 and up.

I always think, would you have picked me if you weren’t getting older or had a kid? Am I your type? Or are you looking for a retirement plan?

I say this for men reading this, be selfish. We’re still a hoe renaissance and based on your original message If she’s not overly lusting, or crazy about you. You gotta drop her.

 

[Ohene]

Is it me or is dating weird now a days. Went on a date with this chick who seemed like she was down to fukk then once we met in person she was bland as fukk. It's like you would think there would be a lot of high interest based off our texting and how things were on the phone, we even traded nudes. We seemed to have a lot in common but in person the vibe was whack.

It's like she sucked at at the art of conversation. It's like the chick had no conversation skills and even when I tried to ask follow up questions like for instance I particularly remember when she said she was into horror,

This what @Apollo Creed be talking about
Lot of these women have no personality and thus no convo skill’s whatsoever

They just sit there judging you and tryna look pretty and even when you ask them questions- the same questions they ask you - its like they have no answer cause they so afraid of being themselves or have nun to say. Its crazy lol

 

[Apollo Creed]

This what @Apollo Creed be talking about
Lot of these women have no personality and thus no convo skill’s whatsoever

They just sit there judging you and tryna look pretty and even when you ask them questions- the same questions they ask you - its like they have no answer cause they so afraid of being themselves or have nun to say. Its crazy lol

I Went out with one chick while traveling, and we meet up I ask how the day went with work and the bytch say "a day"

I was done right then and there

 

[Ohene]

I Went out with one chick while traveling, and we meet up I ask how the day went with work and the bytch say "a day"

I was done right then and there

was she not fluent in englsh or sumn?

 

[Ohene]

I think that everyone's entitled to a private side of their life. And seeing the visible proof has to be painful, but there's also maybe, you are seeing someone's decisions and thought processes in hindsight, and because you never knew about it, it's shocking.

blow to your ego for sure. But, there are tradeoffs. People marry for stability, a lot of the time, not the crazy passion. I don't want you to tell me, but the sex is usually a major tell in this. A lot of times you can have sex so good with someone, that it makes them act way out of character, losing themselves, (what you are saying the extra stuff she never did for you), it's not always about romantic/stable love. The kind that a lot of people marry for. it's something else.

but on the flip side, when a girl really likes or cares about you she will do the things hes talking about.
it isnt like homie saying she doesnt suck his dikk from the back or buy him fancy gifts or sumn...homie just talking about cooking for him and visiting when hes sick.


shyt this girl i was seeing earlier this year and I were supposed to meet up during the summer one time, but i injured my back in the gym and told her i was going to the ER. she asked me if I wanted he to come. shorty came with me and waited in the ER. were both unemployed at the moment but the fact remains, if your girl aint willing to do that kinda shyt, like I said...whats the point of having her around? key word is "willing" though cause it isnt like i needed or expected that from her

 

[re'up]

but on the flip side, when a girl really likes or cares about you she will do the things hes talking about.
it isnt like homie saying she doesnt suck his dikk from the back or buy him fancy gifts or sumn...homie just talking about cooking for him and visiting when hes sick.


shyt this girl i was seeing earlier this year and I were supposed to meet up during the summer one time, but i injured my back in the gym and told her i was going to the ER. she asked me if I wanted he to come. shorty came with me and waited in the ER. were both unemployed at the moment but the fact remains, if your girl aint willing to do that kinda shyt, like I said...whats the point of having her around? key word is "willing" though cause it isnt like i needed or expected that from her

I see where that part is hurtful, true.

People often seek out what they lack, but aren't always in touch with what that is, like they couldn't name it. What this person is probably seeking was stability. Those other guys couldn't giver her that, but he could, yet her feelings were different from the other guys, probably for that reason. Not as passionate, and she didn't have to do as much(with PatCake) to get what little attention they gave her.

 

[twan83]

Wife recently bought a new fone. Forfeiting the old one. One she had used for the last 3 years right before we go married. We got married 2 months ago (https://www.thecoli.com/threads/got-married-last-weekend-brehs.1056932/)


Did I not get curious and start reading old texts on her old fone while she was at work

I found out the dude who for some readon just wouldn't go away the first 6 months of dating is the actual love of her life

She basicly tried all she could to get with the guy and he kept curving her. It wasn't him keeping contact with her it was the opposite. And the times he would call he was simply returning the 10+ missed calls she left him.

I was the fall guy. I was the other, other option. Not even 2nd choice but third(there was another dude she'd been waiting on but he didn't make the move. If even said if he did she'd dump meee)

She basicly gave up after the dude impregnated a chick. Then I became the ' I guess this one will do just fine' guy

I'm finding this shyt out after giving her the ring

Man I don’t think I could stay married if I found that shyt out early in marriage to be honest I cut my ties and deal with the hurt and have peace of mind
I ain’t trying to be someone’s 2nd or 3rd option to settled down with and find out she did more for them than me that’s heartbreaking

Now if y’all were married for so many years or together for so many years and she changed her ways It can be salvaged possibly with therapy but the push back family visit is disrespectful as shyt

I didn’t read your thread yet so I’m just going off your post

 

[Ahadi]

Man I don’t think I could stay married if I found that shyt out early in marriage to be honest I cut my ties and deal with the hurt and have peace of mind
I ain’t trying to be someone’s 2nd or 3rd option to settled down with and find out she did more for them than me that’s heartbreaking

Now if y’all were married for so many years or together for so many years and she changed her ways It can be salvaged possibly with therapy but the push back family visit is disrespectful as shyt

I didn’t read your thread yet so I’m just going off your post

Yeah that’s crazy. I don’t wana be no hoes safe landing.

 

[DJSmooth]

Yeah that’s crazy. I don’t wana be no hoes safe landing.

As that one breh use to say in here

"Better to be a woman's problem than her problem solver."