This could be me twisting myself into some kind of double bind, but lately, with almost everyone, even my own sister, as a rule, instead of sending some text and getting some response, I just call, leave a 5 second message or whatever.
What's interesting is, even if I don't get a call back, I feel better than if I had got even a 'good' response. It takes effort though, because the disparity is pretty high. Let's say, 3 women, I can get a text response from within 20 minutes, but that number goes to maybe 1/3 if it's a call. Maybe 0/3. The rate at which I call anyone is low, so that covers that variable.
These are people I have known for longer periods of time, but increasingly just a blanket rule. Read something academic about texts that pushed me on : The norm used to be have a feeling make a call, and now it's want a feeling, send a text.
What's interesting is, even if I don't get a call back, I feel better than if I had got even a 'good' response. It takes effort though, because the disparity is pretty high. Let's say, 3 women, I can get a text response from within 20 minutes, but that number goes to maybe 1/3 if it's a call. Maybe 0/3. The rate at which I call anyone is low, so that covers that variable.
These are people I have known for longer periods of time, but increasingly just a blanket rule. Read something academic about texts that pushed me on : The norm used to be have a feeling make a call, and now it's want a feeling, send a text.
