she said her twitter app has been acting up lately. I asked her to meet this weekend because we've been talking everyday since Sunday. she said she has plans this weekend so let's have a rain check and she wants to get ot know me more and make sure the first date isn't the last date. kind of red flag ish not sure how to play it or when to ask again to meet.
The Coli Breh answer is to delete her # cause she playing games.
She don't recognize a playa?!!
My answer... this is a Super common situation.
She's set it up the dynamic so that she gets to decide when the 2 of you can talk, and when the 2 of you can meet.
It's rare that females do this
intentionally. It happens, but most girls don't play head games to make you want them more, make you feel insecure, etc. A chick feeling hot and cold, a chick being busy etc - it has a psychological effect on you - but these JD's and MBAs got too much going on to really care about how their actions (and inactions) affect random guys. The real Jedi Mind Tricks happen when she's chosen you...I digress.
In this scenario, generally - guys just tend to have less romantic prospects and less social commitments than women - so we
feel like we're being put at a disadvantage when they deal with a typical woman who's always "busy". The younger and cuter she is, the more social she is, and the less time she has.
This is a subtle wake-up call that you need to be more active, more social = more social and active than the females that you "deal" with.
Anytime you run into strategic/philosophical issues with females - it's usually something missing in the foundation. (imo)
Option 1) If you don't have a lot of prospects (females of this caliber) - you're in a real position of weakness.
All you can do is send periodic texts and wait by the phone.
in terms of caliber, maybe this chick is a 10, maybe this chick is a "wifey" type, Maybe she got a body that won't quit - whatever her caliber - there are not enough in your pipeline.
Option 2) If you have a lot of prospects, you can just play her game.
Send a meme text/photo/joke - something that gets a reaction, but doesn't require a response.
If she does respond, she'll ask how you're doing.
You respond in kind.
Get some feelers for her schedule, but don't ask her out if she's being vague. Only ask her out, if she says she's free.
But if she's being vague, YOU cut it short and keep it moving. (Client calling, I'll circle back with you)
She can get back to you, at her pleasure, but you're actively banging out the next broad as she "figures out whatever BS" she's figuring out.
This doesn't make her move faster - it just puts her at the appropriate level of
your attention and intention.
Option 3) Add her to your social media
But only if
- Your life is popping like that AND
- You go to places that people want to be AND
- You're regularly around men and women that folks want to be around AND
- You know how to take a GOOD PHOTO
Add her to your social media, and let that be a 24/7 advertisement.
Let your value build in her mind, and the dynamics will change.
If you was Michael B. Jordan or whoever, she'd skip Thanksgiving with her dying Granny, talmbout Big Mama will just have to understand...
