Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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1. i meet this girl a few days ago at the mall. we text and at some point she stops responding but claims shes busy or whatever...coool.
2. she messages me one day saying her days been crazy and she hopes my day is going well.
3. i respond asking why her day has been crazy; she responds asking if were gonna be "texting buddies"
4. me appreciating her directness, i ask if she prefers phone calls and also mention we should link friday/saturday - that she should let me know when shes free so i can plan something. she doesnt respond again so I call her and ask.
5. she gives me a 1.5 hour window on friday. It works for me cause i am off friday. given the time constraint, i pick a couple places with good food but quicker service that we can hit up.
6. she doesnt respond
7. i call tonight to confirm if tomorrow is still a go cause i am planning out my day. she doesnt answer so i tell her fukk it cause shes acting weird.
8. she responds saying shes busy doing some shyt with her mom and how she isnt trying to go to some "pizza pizza" restaurant. she says how i showed what type of guy i am and we arent compatible. during a back and forth she even had the audacity to say I am blessed for her to even be texting me.

so in summary...a girl i met on lets say Tuesday expects me to take her to an upscale restaurant when she cant even respond to messages in a timely manner. she is using this as a litmus test for to see "what kinda guy i am" not realizing that

a. the only reason i chose those restaurants (which actually have great food) is because of the time crunch
b. why would i invest any real money in a chick who I barely met who is displaying shyt comunication skills.

its just a lot of delusion and entitlement in these women out here. Shes a good lookin Somali chick with a fat ass who seems to still live with her mom yet shes trying to downplay me, a dude who has his own place, makes almost 500K a year, is tall, deezed and most of all...just a solid ass nikka with integrity. It be the same women claiming men or trash or they cant find a solid nikka - nah, the problem is them
 

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the directness was refreshing so i figured hmm, lemme overlook the texting bullshyt and work through phone calls/in-person - giving her the benefit of the doubt. but as we know, giving the benefit almost always futile. i take the L on that.

happy i aint waste my bread and time tmw, but man, a lot of these black woman out here on some bs in Toronto
 

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lol its too much to type so ill try to type it in point form



1. i meet this girl a few days ago at the mall. we text and at some point she stops responding but claims shes busy or whatever...coool.
2. she messages me one day saying her days been crazy and she hopes my day is going well.
3. i respond asking why her day has been crazy; she responds asking if were gonna be "texting buddies"
4. me appreciating her directness, i ask if she prefers phone calls and also mention we should link friday/saturday - that she should let me know when shes free so i can plan something. she doesnt respond again so I call her and ask.
5. she gives me a 1.5 hour window on friday. It works for me cause i am off friday. given the time constraint, i pick a couple places with good food but quicker service that we can hit up.
6. she doesnt respond
7. i call tonight to confirm if tomorrow is still a go cause i am planning out my day. she doesnt answer so i tell her fukk it cause shes acting weird.
8. she responds saying shes busy doing some shyt with her mom and how she isnt trying to go to some "pizza pizza" restaurant. she says how i showed what type of guy i am and we arent compatible. during a back and forth she even had the audacity to say I am blessed for her to even be texting me.

so in summary...a girl i met on lets say Tuesday expects me to take her to an upscale restaurant when she cant even respond to messages in a timely manner. she is using this as a litmus test for to see "what kinda guy i am" not realizing that

a. the only reason i chose those restaurants (which actually have great food) is because of the time crunch
b. why would i invest any real money in a chick who I barely met who is displaying shyt comunication skills.

its just a lot of delusion and entitlement in these women out here. Shes a good lookin Somali chick with a fat ass who seems to still live with her mom yet shes trying to downplay me, a dude who has his own place, makes almost 500K a year, is tall, deezed and most of all...just a solid ass nikka with integrity. It be the same women claiming men or trash or they cant find a solid nikka - nah, the problem is them
Texting buddies lol. You're letting her dictate terms of engagement. She already showed low interest and you tried to keep pushing forward even if you make 500k and are tall you're showing that she's more valuable to you than you are to her

The second a girl says the word busy youre already playing from behind its no use
 

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Texting buddies lol. You're letting her dictate terms of engagement. She already showed low interest and you tried to keep pushing forward even if you make 500k and are tall you're showing that she's more valuable to you than you are to her
i agree with you on the bold. def looks weak on my part. what ill say though is her basically wanting to meet in person arguably shows higher interest than just wanting to text.

thing is i prefer to cut through the texting bs and link up in person myself as well. thats why I was receptive to that.
 

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When you meet a woman who would be perfect for you but she got a 1 year old. :snoop:


Be having you feeling like you was 2 years too late getting to her.

What makes it worse is that when she tells the story of why she had the baby with him, nothing makes sense :francis:
I might be the only one who feels this way, but I feel if you are childless at any age, you should only seriously date women without kids as well.

The only time I think it’ll probably be cool is if the kid is old enough and moved out.

Or if she’s rich.

:pachaha::pachaha:
 

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lol its too much to type so ill try to type it in point form



1. i meet this girl a few days ago at the mall. we text and at some point she stops responding but claims shes busy or whatever...coool.
2. she messages me one day saying her days been crazy and she hopes my day is going well.
3. i respond asking why her day has been crazy; she responds asking if were gonna be "texting buddies"
4. me appreciating her directness, i ask if she prefers phone calls and also mention we should link friday/saturday - that she should let me know when shes free so i can plan something. she doesnt respond again so I call her and ask.
5. she gives me a 1.5 hour window on friday. It works for me cause i am off friday. given the time constraint, i pick a couple places with good food but quicker service that we can hit up.
6. she doesnt respond
7. i call tonight to confirm if tomorrow is still a go cause i am planning out my day. she doesnt answer so i tell her fukk it cause shes acting weird.
8. she responds saying shes busy doing some shyt with her mom and how she isnt trying to go to some "pizza pizza" restaurant. she says how i showed what type of guy i am and we arent compatible. during a back and forth she even had the audacity to say I am blessed for her to even be texting me.

so in summary...a girl i met on lets say Tuesday expects me to take her to an upscale restaurant when she cant even respond to messages in a timely manner. she is using this as a litmus test for to see "what kinda guy i am" not realizing that

a. the only reason i chose those restaurants (which actually have great food) is because of the time crunch
b. why would i invest any real money in a chick who I barely met who is displaying shyt comunication skills.

its just a lot of delusion and entitlement in these women out here. Shes a good lookin Somali chick with a fat ass who seems to still live with her mom yet shes trying to downplay me, a dude who has his own place, makes almost 500K a year, is tall, deezed and most of all...just a solid ass nikka with integrity. It be the same women claiming men or trash or they cant find a solid nikka - nah, the problem is them

Part of this is these people are extremely anxious, and trying to feel as powerful as possible, and think by tightly qualifying people they are being efficient. Optimization is a major Western theme.

Part of this is just the delusion due to, and influence of....social media, trying to navigate somewhat complicated dynamics with brief and impersonal communications through a medium like texting, the pervasiveness of online content, converted into tok content

"10 Red Flags before you date"

"Heres how to Screen a guy BEFORE the date".


I get it though. It's weird. Similar to your story, and the term "text buddies", begs to be told here.

-Run into each other in July, know each other and flirted a few years before,

-re establish contact/to go out. text her a good invite, she "hearts" the message

I kinda lost motivation right then. But, the next week, I was like lets meet tomorrow at this really dope spot in SD. and she texts here and there, through July and August, never pushes for a meet up.

-get a text like a week ago, walking out of a movie from her "How was your day?" and hilariously, I kinda thought like maybe she's not mentally stable LOL because of that text, like you barely know me. But, I know it's people whose conflidence is kinda low/ a low stakes way to initiate a convo

-so I just say lets meet up now, it was like 9:00, like tonight, (or tomorrow) and drop two high end spots, for drinks, and ironically, she ducks that, and we actually have an in depth convo about movies, she kinda knew her shyt. and then she disappeared.
 

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lol its too much to type so ill try to type it in point form



1. i meet this girl a few days ago at the mall. we text and at some point she stops responding but claims shes busy or whatever...coool.
2. she messages me one day saying her days been crazy and she hopes my day is going well.
..

You can't even let the chick have it, cause she's just gonna be, "I was right about you the whole time".

All I can say is that she is getting the life she deserves
 

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lol its too much to type so ill try to type it in point form



1. i meet this girl a few days ago at the mall. we text and at some point she stops responding but claims shes busy or whatever...coool.
2. she messages me one day saying her days been crazy and she hopes my day is going well.
3. i respond asking why her day has been crazy; she responds asking if were gonna be "texting buddies"
4. me appreciating her directness, i ask if she prefers phone calls and also mention we should link friday/saturday - that she should let me know when shes free so i can plan something. she doesnt respond again so I call her and ask.
5. she gives me a 1.5 hour window on friday. It works for me cause i am off friday. given the time constraint, i pick a couple places with good food but quicker service that we can hit up.
6. she doesnt respond
7. i call tonight to confirm if tomorrow is still a go cause i am planning out my day. she doesnt answer so i tell her fukk it cause shes acting weird.
8. she responds saying shes busy doing some shyt with her mom and how she isnt trying to go to some "pizza pizza" restaurant. she says how i showed what type of guy i am and we arent compatible. during a back and forth she even had the audacity to say I am blessed for her to even be texting me.

so in summary...a girl i met on lets say Tuesday expects me to take her to an upscale restaurant when she cant even respond to messages in a timely manner. she is using this as a litmus test for to see "what kinda guy i am" not realizing that

a. the only reason i chose those restaurants (which actually have great food) is because of the time crunch
b. why would i invest any real money in a chick who I barely met who is displaying shyt comunication skills.

its just a lot of delusion and entitlement in these women out here. Shes a good lookin Somali chick with a fat ass who seems to still live with her mom yet shes trying to downplay me, a dude who has his own place, makes almost 500K a year, is tall, deezed and most of all...just a solid ass nikka with integrity. It be the same women claiming men or trash or they cant find a solid nikka - nah, the problem is them
That’s the game my friend
 

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lol its too much to type so ill try to type it in point form



1. i meet this girl a few days ago at the mall. we text and at some point she stops responding but claims shes busy or whatever...coool.
2. she messages me one day saying her days been crazy and she hopes my day is going well.
3. i respond asking why her day has been crazy; she responds asking if were gonna be "texting buddies"
4. me appreciating her directness, i ask if she prefers phone calls and also mention we should link friday/saturday - that she should let me know when shes free so i can plan something. she doesnt respond again so I call her and ask.
5. she gives me a 1.5 hour window on friday. It works for me cause i am off friday. given the time constraint, i pick a couple places with good food but quicker service that we can hit up.
6. she doesnt respond
7. i call tonight to confirm if tomorrow is still a go cause i am planning out my day. she doesnt answer so i tell her fukk it cause shes acting weird.
8. she responds saying shes busy doing some shyt with her mom and how she isnt trying to go to some "pizza pizza" restaurant. she says how i showed what type of guy i am and we arent compatible. during a back and forth she even had the audacity to say I am blessed for her to even be texting me.

so in summary...a girl i met on lets say Tuesday expects me to take her to an upscale restaurant when she cant even respond to messages in a timely manner. she is using this as a litmus test for to see "what kinda guy i am" not realizing that

a. the only reason i chose those restaurants (which actually have great food) is because of the time crunch
b. why would i invest any real money in a chick who I barely met who is displaying shyt comunication skills.

its just a lot of delusion and entitlement in these women out here. Shes a good lookin Somali chick with a fat ass who seems to still live with her mom yet shes trying to downplay me, a dude who has his own place, makes almost 500K a year, is tall, deezed and most of all...just a solid ass nikka with integrity. It be the same women claiming men or trash or they cant find a solid nikka - nah, the problem is them

Too much texting. The “busy” / inconsistent responses tell you everything you need to know, might of seen you as a lick.

It’s should be “hey good meeting you, I’m going to be having a drink or ice cream at blah blah blah, you should join me”

Just put the plans out there and steer the ship. She should be shuffling her life to see you.

& Stop trying to feed these hoes. Once you bust, then you feed them
 

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lol its too much to type so ill try to type it in point form



1. i meet this girl a few days ago at the mall. we text and at some point she stops responding but claims shes busy or whatever...coool.
2. she messages me one day saying her days been crazy and she hopes my day is going well.
3. i respond asking why her day has been crazy; she responds asking if were gonna be "texting buddies"
4. me appreciating her directness, i ask if she prefers phone calls and also mention we should link friday/saturday - that she should let me know when shes free so i can plan something. she doesnt respond again so I call her and ask.
5. she gives me a 1.5 hour window on friday. It works for me cause i am off friday. given the time constraint, i pick a couple places with good food but quicker service that we can hit up.
6. she doesnt respond
7. i call tonight to confirm if tomorrow is still a go cause i am planning out my day. she doesnt answer so i tell her fukk it cause shes acting weird.
8. she responds saying shes busy doing some shyt with her mom and how she isnt trying to go to some "pizza pizza" restaurant. she says how i showed what type of guy i am and we arent compatible. during a back and forth she even had the audacity to say I am blessed for her to even be texting me.

so in summary...a girl i met on lets say Tuesday expects me to take her to an upscale restaurant when she cant even respond to messages in a timely manner. she is using this as a litmus test for to see "what kinda guy i am" not realizing that

a. the only reason i chose those restaurants (which actually have great food) is because of the time crunch
b. why would i invest any real money in a chick who I barely met who is displaying shyt comunication skills.

its just a lot of delusion and entitlement in these women out here. Shes a good lookin Somali chick with a fat ass who seems to still live with her mom yet shes trying to downplay me, a dude who has his own place, makes almost 500K a year, is tall, deezed and most of all...just a solid ass nikka with integrity. It be the same women claiming men or trash or they cant find a solid nikka - nah, the problem is them

sounds like the avg toronto women. That's why I stopped messing or associating with them.
 
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