We gotta define terms.
Eat - any given weekend - Thurs/Fri/Sat/Sun - there's a good shot you're taking an attractive woman home for sex.
The better you are, the more of this you get. It's gonna fluctuate with seasons, and sometimes for no reason - but having sex with a cutie (or a stunner) is no longer an achievement.
#1 thing - especially after going out for years -
Brothers aren't going out, at all. You can't eat if you don't leave the cave. As packed as any venue is - it's a fraction of the male population that could be at those things.
#2 - for the cats that are out at the bars, clubs, brunches, concerts, hotel lobbies, the beach, the malls -
They don't get at broads. A dude can get at a chick respectfully, disrespectfully, indirectly, directly - but a dude has to make the move. Go to any spot, 50-80% of dudes is holding the wall, chilling with their people, sipping on something, but not spitting at nothing. These days, they're on their phones.
#3 - If cats go out and they get at broads - they usually don't eat because of -
Lack of Consistency. They don't go out every weekend, and they don't spend that time socializing with females.
What I haven't said
- Height or Lack Thereof
- Flabbiness/Skinnyness
- Lack of Money/Abundance Of
- Lack of Game/Abundance Of
- Self Confidence/Self Consciousness/No Trauma/Seen the therapist a lot
The 3 main things -
Not going Out, Not actually hollering, and not being consistent - also applies to dieting, working out, getting an education, doing well at your job, starting a business, running a business, youtube, podcasting, etc.
And the reason I say these things that most people think matter but actually don't matter
Types of guys that I've seen get hoes
- Short guys (in general, short guys have better game, the way fat girls are more interesting to talk to)
- Stinky Indians and Arabs - (persistence game, and the ones that win are straight up delusional)
- Short Asians - (social like a mug)
- Skinny Tall dudes (the more artistic the better)
- Guys with No Game (no mouth piece, no observational skills, no fireworks - just determination - this is your brawler/street fighter, not your martial artist - we gotta few in this thread, but don't realize it)
- Guys that are clearly messed up mentally - Real wrap, trainwreck type dudes always seem to bring out nurse mode.
And every last one of us knows a cat with zero money, sleeping on an air mattress, with 3-4 baby mamas, and his phone stay ringing.
We all know a fat dude that's dress well, smells good, and has fantastic verbals.
To get to that higher echelon - that dude that always got a banger on his side - a lot of that, in my experience, is not straight up game/looks/money, it's getting into the right social circles, and then being smart.
Case in point. I'll take me for an example. I'm not a pretty boy by any means, I look like Slim Kid Tre's goofy cousin, a long lost Son of Bob Marley. But My game is mostly my brain and my verbals. I notice things. That's way more important than being able to razzle dazzle a broad.
There was a spot I used to go because me and the DJ was tight. I was known by him in my circles, but not in his circles.
Getting seen with him, got me put on the radar with the regulars at the club.
So now I'm cordial with them. The females might know my name, but they took no notice.
I bring my next door neighbor to the spot one night. She's half white/half Asian.
I bring a Latina co-worker to the spot.
I bring a Ugandan friend to the spot.
Literally the same dude from a few weeks ago. Same funny. Same insightful. Same love of hip hop. Same height. Same skinny. Same fashion sense.
But now the VIP broads is like - "Who is this guy?"
Cape Verdean Chick, that was in the clique, that I thought was cute said, "I see you with all these exotic girls, How come you don't notice me?"
Made me reassess my "game".
IMO,
That's how you start eating.
Then take one of them high visibility VIP chicks to the
next club.
Start finding out where the bar/restaurant crew eats AFTER the bar/club closes.
Start going to the after parties.
And it just snowballs into a social life.
At that level, you're a made man.
Every cat I know that's at the top of a "food chain" - it's mostly his social skills and understanding the group - moreso than his one-on-one game spitting type skills, his bankroll, etc.
I say this right now, not having hit the gym in months. I am going after work!
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(shout out to Patrice!)