Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The ADD]

and you probably didn't tell her she needs to lose weight when she asked.

You need to tell her. She'll either work on losing the weight or she gonna have a melt down and yall gonna break up and can stop wasting each others time.

^^^
This but also if he isn’t in pretty good shape and consistent, it’s not going to change much. 30 pounds requires a lifestyle change of some kind.

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

and you probably didn't tell her she needs to lose weight when she asked.

You need to tell her. She'll either work on losing the weight or she gonna have a melt down and yall gonna break up and can stop wasting each others time.

If he wants to stay with her, he gotta be tactful about it. Bluntness works on guys, not women. He should've addressed it somehow before it got to this point.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

Or find a chick whose already about that life

Basically my dealbreaker at this point. I’ve been down that “trying to get a woman to workout” road. 9/10 it’s not sustainable and she will easily fall off the wagon for the smallest reasons. She has to want it for herself.

I look at it like this, my woman chose me and I her. We are direct representations of each other. What does that say about me as a man if I hold myself to a high physical standard but I allow MY woman to be a slob.

We go to the beach and I’m shredded in shape while she’s laying next to me looking

Women don’t realize they have life on easy mode if they keep their body right but too many thirsty nikkas out here accepting sloppy badly built women.

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

If he wants to stay with her, he gotta be tactful about it. Bluntness works on guys, not women. He should've addressed it somehow before it got to this point.

I’ve been through this before with an ex. Truth be told there’s really no effectively motivating way to be tactful about telling a gf that she needs to lose weight or else. She has to want to please you and want it for herself.

1. If you’re too nice about it (which is how it got to this point in the first place) she won’t take it serious.

2. If you’re harsh about it she will get offended and the relationship won’t be the same because she’ll be insecure about her body and being naked in front of you (which she probably already is)

In all honesty she should’ve gotten the memo when ol boy stopped initiating sex. She got eyes, she can see that she’s fatter. But women are delusional, see and hear what they want, and lack accountability.

She’ll have every excuse in the book on why she’s 30lbs fatter except laziness and complacency.

 

[Ahadi]

Or find a chick whose already about that life

I’m big on diet and working out.

If I look in your fridge and it’s full of trash, I’m turned off completely.

 

[Brandsdale]

Me and my girl have been together for about a year and change now. Things were kind of rocky at the beginning, but it's been good since except for one issue.

Recently she's gotten on me because I haven't initiated anything sexually with her in a few months, and she feels like she's always trying to initiate/I'm disinterested. I feel guilty about it but man, she's gained nearly 30 pounds since we met and bigger girls aren't my thing

Edit: I've already asked her to come to the gym with me, but she's resisted

might as well end the relationship

 

[Ahadi]

These joints in Chicago.. I didn’t know

 

[DaRealness]

Me and my girl have been together for about a year and change now. Things were kind of rocky at the beginning, but it's been good since except for one issue.

Recently she's gotten on me because I haven't initiated anything sexually with her in a few months, and she feels like she's always trying to initiate/I'm disinterested. I feel guilty about it but man, she's gained nearly 30 pounds since we met and bigger girls aren't my thing

Edit: I've already asked her to come to the gym with me, but she's resisted

So many red flags in one post.

Let them get too comfortable, this is what happens.

Unless she's got some illness or pregnant, 30 pounds in one year is unacceptable. We're not in lockdown anymore.

She's just lazy, undisciplined and doesn't feel you're worth making any effort for - that's ALL bad and you haven't even been together that long. The fact things were "rocky" at the beginning was probably a sign you should have never got into a relationship with her from the jump anyway.

 

[Ohene]

Me and my girl have been together for about a year and change now. Things were kind of rocky at the beginning, but it's been good since except for one issue.

Recently she's gotten on me because I haven't initiated anything sexually with her in a few months, and she feels like she's always trying to initiate/I'm disinterested. I feel guilty about it but man, she's gained nearly 30 pounds since we met and bigger girls aren't my thing

Edit: I've already asked her to come to the gym with me, but she's resisted

Will never date a girl who isn’t active or in the gym for this reason

You try to tell them to go to the gym and all of a sudden you’re the a$$hole. And even if she does go, she may resent you and leave you once the weight is off lol.

If you dont Then she will wonder why you don’t want to smash

It’s a catch 22

 

[Ohene]

These joints in Chicago.. I didn’t know

What kinda women they got

 

[Ahadi]

Will never date a girl who isn’t active or in the gym for this reason

You try to tell them to go to the gym and all of a sudden you’re the a$$hole. And even if she does go, she may resent you and leave you once the weight is off lol.

If you dont Then she will wonder why you don’t want to smash

It’s a catch 22

Oh no, she’ll work out when they break up

 

[Ohene]

Oh no, she’ll work out when they break up

shyt call it a catch 33 lol
Better off just finding a girl who already living that lifestyle

 

[VertigoKnight]

Basically my dealbreaker at this point. I’ve been down that “trying to get a woman to workout” road. 9/10 it’s not sustainable and she will easily fall off the wagon for the smallest reasons. She has to want it for herself.

I look at it like this, my woman chose me and I her. We are direct representations of each other. What does that say about me as a man if I hold myself to a high physical standard but I allow MY woman to be a slob.

We go to the beach and I’m shredded in shape while she’s laying next to me looking

Women don’t realize they have life on easy mode if they keep their body right but too many thirsty nikkas out here accepting sloppy badly built women.

My dealbreaker as well. Like it or not the woman you walk around with is an extension of you. Even moreso a chick you looking to get serious with. A chick looking sloppy and you in shape? Could never be something I could entertain.

Now I'm not saying I want some hardcore gym bunny or on the other extreme a woman thin as a pencil, but I do want a woman who takes her body and health into her own hands. Not waiting on her man to say something.

The beach is a good example. and it's one I've used on here before. Imagine being on the beach or by the pool, you've looked after yourself in shape and your chick is looking it's the truth that most of the coli BBW crew will never face up to. The reality of messing with chicks who've crossed that 3 cheeseburgers over lifestyle.

 

[re'up]

I may contribute some stories, or concepts I learned from books, or just read and respond when I feel compelled, sometimes strangers see us more clearly.

I'm mid 30's, no interest in kids, no interest in marriage, (unless there's some m's on that offer) don't care much about commitment, or monogamy, have good relationships with lots of women, don't use dating apps, don't drink, and have never had social media. For background, I was in jail as a kid, spent years in jail/halfway houses, got sober at 21, and when I got out all I did was try to get further and further up. Did a lot of work on myself, reading, therapy, losing the bad ego/arrogance. Barely started "dating" as an adult in my mid 20's, closer to 27. I really came up crazy, relative to my life, from picking up trash at a baseball stadium for minimum wage, to being in Cannes on the beach, dropping 1k on dinner. I don't even know how the fukk I did this. I thought I would have been washed by now.

So, I missed all that early 20's partying, and just worked. Further clarity, I live that "life", I'm cautious and low profile, but I do live that life. I've been on since I was a teenager. At the risk of self aggrandizing, looks wise, I get all the compliments, and looks. I attract and am attracted to, meet all kinds, I know strippers, I know lawyers, I know bottle service hosts, I know business women and hair stylists. Been leaning more into the faster and faster types, but that's it's own liability. I don't care about validating myself with sex or numbers, I only want the best of the best experiences.

Someone recently told me, very insightfully, that I have no respect for systems, or structures. That stunned me. He's like you try to go around everything, and I know this about myself, ( we are talking about me, who was heavy in the game at age 17) but not how it applied to romance/dating. I don't lie or mislead people, or even bother with pretending, 'll just throw an offer out like come hit this high end place with me. These like Two Michelin star invites. Nothing attached before or after. And sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't, lately, it's been less. I had no idea how conservative and traditional so many people were. Attraction, chemistry, all there, but more and more, it's like they hold back.

 

[360dagod]

Me and my girl have been together for about a year and change now. Things were kind of rocky at the beginning, but it's been good since except for one issue.

Recently she's gotten on me because I haven't initiated anything sexually with her in a few months, and she feels like she's always trying to initiate/I'm disinterested. I feel guilty about it but man, she's gained nearly 30 pounds since we met and bigger girls aren't my thing

Edit: I've already asked her to come to the gym with me, but she's resisted

You don't want to see that sweat dripping down the extra layer of belly fat this summer?