I think I'm feeling this girl I'm talking to and it's making me rethink what I want in a woman. Funny enough we had a talk two weeks ago about being 'misaligned' in things in life. I have a clear direction of wanting kids, family, etc. I also sort of want a woman, as this girl put it, that 'plays the game'. I am assertive in my career in life.
Meanwhile this girl has a hippy vibe, has a lot of tattoos (usually not into this) plays instruments, does digital design. She's 9 years younger than me at 30 and she is sort of figuring things out in her life after coming out of a divorce a few years ago.
The dangerous thing is that we have VERY strong chemistry and good intellectual conversation. Also after my break up 6 - 7 months ago it's a good ego boost to feel wanted by another person and someone admiring you. Sometimes I'll talk about something and she will look at me in admiration
Our misalignments are on subjects like religion (she sounds like she was in a cult and renounces Christianity, now identifies w/ being Agnostic, meanwhile I'm Spiritual), wanting to achieve things in life, and to some degree our image and perceptions. She has a lot of tattoos that I personally wouldn't get and probably would put some people off, but I guess after being around her for 5 - 6 weeks I just think that's her. Plus she's super smart.
I guess since I'm in a period where I'm not fully emotionally healthy due to the guilt I still harbor from my last relationship and desiring one at the moment, but still yearning for strong feminine energy I am enjoying her right now. I guess I've been more flexible with dating women more outside my normal type.
Anyway done ranting.
yo I've been there just recently. On the tattoo shyt, I feel you and at this point it's all about what you can live with.
Can you live with her current tats? Can you live if she goes out and gets more?
My girl is also on the hippie artsy spiritual tip. She has 3 small tats (wrist, upper back left shoulder, and ankle). You know them roses and designs that "mean something"
I can live with the small tats. I have zero, and to see where she was at I was looking at her wrist tat and asked "so is this the start of the full arm sleeve? where do you go from here?" She goes "no, no sleeve. This one's good, I'm not getting any more."
She's a woman so I know "I'm not getting anymore" means "I'm not getting anymore RIGHT NOW."
Nowadays finding a woman without a tat and doesn't want one is unicorn shyt. That horse left the barn a long time ago. Even "good girls" got a tat now.
I say all that to say you need to be honest with yourself and let her know what your red lines and deal breakers are if you're trying to take it to the next level.
It seems silly but something like tats can blow up if you not on the same page.
If my girl shows up with another tat, what can I do? I either accept her for who she is or peace out. At some point enough will be enough for me.
Now religion...that's an even bigger issue. One of the reasons I got divorced is because my ex went full born again evangelical Holy Ghost and I'm good on all that. I don't know enough math to count the arguments we had behind me not going to church with her. Towards the end she was going 4x week.
Same deal, what can you live with?
I would tell my ex I accept and understand her beliefs, and would never tell her not to go to church and whatnot. My beef was why couldn't she accept my beliefs and lack of interest in church? Well you know why. It didn't matter that we were married, her church taught that both spouses must be of the same belief.
We weren't on the same page and fell out as a result.
These small time disagreements have a habit of turning into thermonuclear bombs if you don't hash them out immediately.
Don't let that shyt fester and build up resentment.
You may need a break from shorty. Not being emotionally healthy and healed can and often leads to disaster
She can be the greatest dopest woman in the world but if you're not ready and still recovering from your ex...
,ya boi appetite is never blunted. I know the homie @Pdiddy woulda effortlessly scooped but this bih caught me hella off guard. NIKKA TIME STOPPED when I saw her @SheWantTheD @africngiant @skyrunner1
