Always mean what you say & put YOU first
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Always mean what you say & put YOU first
VertigoKnight
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What I never understood is dudes spending a bunch of $$$ on dinner dates. That's how dudes get finessed
shyt....a walk in the park could be a perfect first date. Y'all just enjoying each other's company. Enjoying the sun light...for my east coast people that's gonna be the chilly chill breeze for y'all
The most important thing in a date is the vibe. Are both parties vibing or being socially awkward? Does the chick feel comfortable?
When I take girls on an adventure I adopt the mentality "I am the vibe she's gonna enjoy this vibe" cause girls just wanna have fun
Pretty much. My thinking is if me and her cant vibe with a simple walk. How are we going to vibe over a meal?
NeilCartwright
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Got a lil situation with my ol lady. Shes had a mail friend since childhood, and from her account he has never violated that platonic friendship line. But a couple years back, he broke up with his then gf, and in that moment he was going through it. Saying should i go back to woman X, get with woman Y, should i get with you (talking about my ol lady). She said she shut it down in that moment, that she valued their friendship too much, she dont see him that way etc.
Well i'm like ok, the fact that he even brought up my ol lady name when he was talking in that moment is enough for me to consider that "platonic" line as being crossed. She feels like that line hasn't been crossed. I feel disrespected when she calls their friendship platonic, and honestly doenst feel like he meant what he said. To me, once that line is crossed, thats it
Mind you this exchange happened a couple years back, before i was even in the picture, but im trying to asses the nature of their friendship. I'm not sure if im overreacting to this. She's said that all i have to do it tell her the boundaries and she'll do it, which i will. But where im at is, i dont like that she doesnt feel like he crossed that line based off what he told her in that moment.
Im not really budging on that one. If what he said wasnt out of line, she wouldnt have had to chastise him and shut it down. And from my perspective, as a man, at that point in time, he thought about her sexually (bc of him even throwing her in the mix of that conversation). And of course she shut it down etc. Not sure if im trippen or not
Well i'm like ok, the fact that he even brought up my ol lady name when he was talking in that moment is enough for me to consider that "platonic" line as being crossed. She feels like that line hasn't been crossed. I feel disrespected when she calls their friendship platonic, and honestly doenst feel like he meant what he said. To me, once that line is crossed, thats it
Mind you this exchange happened a couple years back, before i was even in the picture, but im trying to asses the nature of their friendship. I'm not sure if im overreacting to this. She's said that all i have to do it tell her the boundaries and she'll do it, which i will. But where im at is, i dont like that she doesnt feel like he crossed that line based off what he told her in that moment.
Im not really budging on that one. If what he said wasnt out of line, she wouldnt have had to chastise him and shut it down. And from my perspective, as a man, at that point in time, he thought about her sexually (bc of him even throwing her in the mix of that conversation). And of course she shut it down etc. Not sure if im trippen or not
VertigoKnight
Veteran
Was your old lady single when he suggested that?
NeilCartwright
All Star
Yea she was
Before this conversation, the belief was that “oh he’s like a brother, like family, we’re best friends etc”. And no advances have been made while me and her have been together. I’m saying, no, y’all are friends but your brother would not bring up y’all getting together…to me once that line is crossed, that’s it. All that platonic stuff is done
Maybe I’m selfish/petty or w/e but I want her to call the friendship what it is from my POV. A friend she came up with, who said some questionable shyt, now that’s that. Maybe I’m trippen but in my head I’m like why are you attaching these titles (best friend etc) to a nikka who brought up y’all getting together…Then for them to supposedly be close, I don’t trust him, and ion like it.
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Need clarification:
Does she consider him her best friend?
How old are they? You?
NeilCartwright
All Star
She did consider him her best friend till recently. I said i wasnt comfortable with that title so it stopped
We all the same age, late 20's
pretty muchWhat I never understood is dudes spending a bunch of $$$ on dinner dates. That's how dudes get finessed
shyt....a walk in the park could be a perfect first date. Y'all just enjoying each other's company. Enjoying the sun light...for my east coast people that's gonna be the chilly chill breeze for y'all
The most important thing in a date is the vibe. Are both parties vibing or being socially awkward? Does the chick feel comfortable?
When I take girls on an adventure I adopt the mentality "I am the vibe she's gonna enjoy this vibe" cause girls just wanna have fun
if a girl isnt down to do something light like a walk by the lake, ice cream, coffee etc for the first date then it is usually a red flag anyways
either she hasnt experienced much in life and is looking for entertainment. or she is tryna finesse
most people who have been through the carousel couldnt care less about all that fancy date bullshyt. Live in a city long enough and a chick will have already been to every restaurant and venue anyways, so whats the point? Serious ones would care more about catching a vibe and getting to know you in a more intimate, focused environment.
I usually didnt spend more than $50 until the third date. The few times where I did it was because I was extra eager/attracted to the bytch - which often led to me getting played anyways due to what prolly looked like me being thirsty
ima take it to another level. i keep my options open even whilst in a relationship to be honest.
i keep women at arms length but if I see a sexy woman around, being in a relationship wont stop me from hollering at her for multiple reasons.
1) i like to keep my mouth piece sharp and know i still got it in case a girl ever breaks up with me so its easier to hop back in the game
2) i like to have satellites around so if a shorty i'm with does some egregious shyt...its that much easier to walk away
3) most importantly, i just like having a different kind of female energy from time to time - particularly one that has no strings attached to it .
I enjoy talking to and hanging out with women...tapping into their brains , talking shyt to them , hearing about their relationship shyt, sharing ideas with them, learning from them etc. You can only do that so much with your girl before you or her catches feelings and takes things personally lol. People get into relationships and expect one person to fulfil all their emotional, intellectual, physical, spiritual etc. needs. Its unrealistic and too much pressure to put on someone.
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Whats #handsomegang philosophy on cold approaching when out and about, do yall wait on choosing signals or if we see what we like we just go for it.
VertigoKnight
Veteran
Yeah I use an app called getchecked online. They use lifelabs. I get my tests done and then a week later they send an email or text and you log in to get your results.
Looks like this. Any woman I see has to have one of these done. Keeps everyone honest.
A lot of women I see like using it. As before they had to go to their GPs to ask for tests and they'd be all up in their business and it could sometimes take longer.