Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Ohene

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Yep, I usually go for the hug, with that chick we started touching early as she was showing me her nails and I took her hands to look. Once a woman is fine with you both touching it's all good. As she’ll reciprocate.

It's funny one of my boys went on a date last weekend with the opposite result. His very bad at reading a woman's vibes.

His a white boy she is a Chinese chick he used to work with at a company. According to him, she contacted him and they decided to go to watch a movie. In the early afternoon.

:francis:

I warned him about movie first dates especially if you haven’t warmed a woman up. They can go sideways very quickly and the worst you both have to sit there without talking.

I asked him if she was brought up here or in china. He said in China. He showed me a picture. Cute woman. I told him when you meet a ‘traditional' Asian chick like this don't go for the hug at the beginning, you need to take it initially slow with these kinda chicks or they’ll clam right up. Touching hands is OK once you find a reason to, anything else unless you know for sure she’s into you is going to be a fail.

Anyway, he goes on his date. I message him later to see how it went.

He told me, pretty badly. She got there and he went for the hug and she tensed up, and wouldn’t take her mask off for the entire movie. At the end, she was outta there. She had already pre-prepared him with an excuse that she needed to get back to walk her dog. I told him ways around that earlier in the week but by then he’d already blown any chance that day of extending their hang.

This is why I’ll advise against cinema dates for a first date, for me cinema dates are once you and her have broken the touch barrier and she's comfortable in your presence.
thats not even a rookie mistake. thats a junior varsity mistake
who goes to movies for first dates? only do it if its with a woman you know is boring and cant hold a conversation.


what you said about the hug/mask is grade A+ game though lol.
 

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this is why if you do a date you either
1. we going for tea
2.we finna sit our asses at this free ass park and talk
3.I`m going to do something I already planned on doing, if you want to come cool.
If a woman turns down anything you present that is a blessing from God to move on lol

You gotta understand women will never suggest anything, if you do not initiate yall will be texting for ever and in the same instance because you suggested to do something they will assume you gonna pay. this how how dumb the concept of dating is. there is a minority who will offer to pay which is cool but then those often times tend to end up leaning to being masculine.

I'm of the thought that if you are gonna date, go after women who show you a large amount of positive energy and vibes that way you paying for shyt doesn't feel like a chore. Lotta dudes are chasing women and trying to prove themselves (hence the damn i fumbled the ball mindset).

In reality we all human and grown, a woman knows if she wants to fukk you, the dates is just so she doesn't feel like a hoe (if yall met while on vacation she would smash on a ONS and not feel bad because she is never gonna see you again more than likely).
That’s why I always said the concept of whoever asks the person on a date pays.

It’s bullshyt because the man is usually the one who is going to ask and has to because that’s what “real men” do.

:mjlol: :mjlol:
 

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Ya'll really argue with yall's significant other? Like I don't think we ever had an argument cause I just be trying to understand and find common ground and we work it out.
 

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Question for brehs:

If you have chicks from other cities/states/countries, how often do you text them or call them? Just looking for viewpoints.
 

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Question for brehs:

If you have chicks from other cities/states/countries, how often do you text them or call them? Just looking for viewpoints.

They keep up with me, I do not keep up with them.

That said, from a non-sexual pov, it's actually a good idea to get into the habit of keeping up with all the people who have touched your life. Friends, Family, homies, chicks you are on good terms with.

In general, men fail to do this, and this is part of the reason that men are much lonelier than women are. We, as men, let those friendships die. Part of that is that we expect reciprocation - and a lot of your friends and family ain't finna call you unless they need something.

* Me ducking calls from fam who need help on the bills*
 

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They keep up with me, I do not keep up with them.

That said, from a non-sexual pov, it's actually a good idea to get into the habit of keeping up with all the people who have touched your life. Friends, Family, homies, chicks you are on good terms with.

In general, men fail to do this, and this is part of the reason that men are much lonelier than women are. We, as men, let those friendships die. Part of that is that we expect reciprocation - and a lot of your friends and family ain't finna call you unless they need something.

* Me ducking calls from fam who need help on the bills*
I just sent a mass “Happy Thanksgiving” text to my LinkedIn list and my contacts. Received all replies with how my family was doing, how school was, and what my post-graduation plans were.

let folks know you’re still alive.
Part of that is that we expect reciprocation - and a lot of your friends and family ain't finna call you unless they need something.
this is a decision many brehs have to make and stick to: either be a hermit & only reciprocate energy or reach out to folks knowing you might not receive love back. I chose the latter, because I learned I don’t have to be the apple in everyone’s eye. I ALSO learned you never know how much you matter to people

1) A grandmotherly figure in my life assisted my mom during her pregnancy with me. As a result, she had my toddler photo on her fridge. Nun of my siblings or family — just her children and me. Every time I’d visit or call her, she’d always say “I was JUST thinking about you the other day” up until her passing, she always greeted me warmly and made sure her home was a safe-haven for me.

2) Friend of mines told me he wasn’t in the right mind frame & had to step back in September. Told him to keep his chin up. Hit his line a few times with positive shyt. We now talking bout the World Cup as if it ain’t happen.
in short, your words & actions matter. Folks do care about you
 
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TLDR: women are allowed to have standards and be picky but men get criticized if they have some standards.

And it’s only gotten worse with modern feminism, social media, corporate media, and public bashing of men. Fat women love other fat women because it’s less work they have to do. At the same time, they’re not happy with themselves, so they take pill cocktails to manage their mental health. I watched the whole video and it was spot on
 
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