Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Ahadi

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I've seen a few of those. One chick was talking about she likes finding restaurants to eat at (suspiciously all pricey ones) and would love to have a platonic male friend to take her.

I could only laugh.

See that’s the thing lol. Cause either shes honestly capping or she just wants to learn about places in the city im in & some of my friends / connections.

Basically eat off me, while I receive nothing in return.

I’ll try it out, but I won’t spend any money or show her anything.
 

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women aren’t stupid. They’re aware of the million brunches/lunch-in/social events in said city.

& on Tinder too? Not Hinge or even Bumble lmaooo

She said “My goal is to really expand my social circle and make new connections! I feel like it’s easier to do that in my previous city but super hard to have an energetic, bustling friend circle in a place in this city”. It’s hard to hit up a few friends and go for drinks or go for dinner or anything else. I’m craving that energy here (even though that’s virtually impossible lol)

:patrice:
 

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what playlists/artists you play when a new joint coming over? Shes 31 but I think she knows older music. the right music is important.
 

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“If you’re ever out with a bunch of friends let me know, I’m looking for connections and a good time”

Hell no

:mjlol:
 

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You reach a time and age in life where you have to look in the mirror and decide what you actually want.

If you want a serious relationship there are certain things youre going to have to accept, and changes youre going to have to make to your approaches in dating in order to make that happen. Being more communicative, direct and egoless is one of those things. Not completely egoless but knowing when to suppress it.

If you wanna gallivant, then continue with the toxic, prideful methods...but youre going to continue to run into revolving doors with women. Youre not gonna beat them at their games.
You wanting a serious relationship has no bearings on you actually attaining it. You can want it all you want and even be dedicated to it, but you forget it takes two to tango. There are people who go their separate ways after spending years in a “serious” relationship. If marriage is involved, at least for women, they benefit from how much of your stuff they’re legally allowed to claim.

I say, when you consider the many uncertainties of life, you really have to weigh how much a relationship means to you, in the face of the problems of the world. Do you really think spending hours per week communicating with ur significant other a worthwhile use of your time? Are you financially secure? How secure is your job? If you’re unable to work, can you sustain yourself without being a burden on someone else?

There are folks who can’t answer these questions but will think having a girl is priority.
 

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You wanting a serious relationship has no bearings on you actually attaining it. You can want it all you want and even be dedicated to it, but you forget it takes two to tango. There are people who go their separate ways after spending years in a “serious” relationship. If marriage is involved, at least for women, they benefit from how much of your stuff they’re legally allowed to claim.

I say, when you consider the many uncertainties of life, you really have to weigh how much a relationship means to you, in the face of the problems of the world. Do you really think spending hours per week communicating with ur significant other a worthwhile use of your time? Are you financially secure? How secure is your job? If you’re unable to work, can you sustain yourself without being a burden on someone else?

There are folks who can’t answer these questions but will think having a girl is priority.
What you said and what i said can both be true at the same time

The fact is that there is no room for ego in a serious relationship if it is stemming from a fear of being hurt. If one is being disrespected or treated poorly then yes, pride and ego are things that will properly help you regulate the situation and make good decisions. But when using it as a defense mechanism due to fear It will lead to nothing more than a cycle of failed relationships because you will never get past the inevitable conflicts that arise in relationships

I’m speaking from the perspective of a person who has answered yes to the questions you posed above.

If the answers are no, then it doesn’t apply, but if somebody truly wants and believes they are ready for and can benefit from a relationship (male or female) they need to learn how to put the bullshyt games and ego aside
 

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what playlists/artists you play when a new joint coming over? Shes 31 but I think she knows older music. the right music is important.

You posted that like she's 50....you don't need any Al Greene or Teddy Pendergrass, Play some LL Cool J, Dru Hill, and 112.
 

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What you said and what i said can both be true at the same time

The fact is that there is no room for ego in a serious relationship if it is stemming from a fear of being hurt. If one is being disrespected or treated poorly then yes, pride and ego are things that will properly help you regulate the situation and make good decisions. But when using it as a defense mechanism due to fear It will lead to nothing more than a cycle of failed relationships because you will never get past the inevitable conflicts that arise in relationships

I’m speaking from the perspective of a person who has answered yes to the questions you posed above.

If the answers are no, then it doesn’t apply, but if somebody truly wants and believes they are ready for and can benefit from a relationship (male or female) they need to learn how to put the bullshyt games and ego aside

Grown man shyt. You spoke nothing but facts breh.
 

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Matched with this bartending “traveling massage” therapist on Hinge.

She’s fine as a mfer. But she’s a goddamn airhead first convo this bytch said “I don’t believe in evolution” and I was like :unimpressed:


Anyways, we set up a date for today and she ain’t respond to my follow up text yesterday
 

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Matched with this bartending “traveling massage” therapist on Hinge.

She’s fine as a mfer. But she’s a goddamn airhead first convo this bytch said “I don’t believe in evolution” and I was like :unimpressed:


Anyways, we set up a date for today and she ain’t respond to my follow up text yesterday

That sounds like a bad time all round. And she sounds like she’s touting for ‘clients'

Dealing with an airhead even a fine one always had me

:francis: after we would smash the MOC would be sobering.

These days If I cant enjoy a chick outside of us just fukking she can KIM
 
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