Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Also I find I a common occurrence of women feeling weird when you place them on the inside of the sidewalk.

It’s like they get thrown off / turned off by these types of gestures (Could be doing this to the wrong girls as well)
 

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Also I find I a common occurrence of women feeling weird when you place them on the inside of the sidewalk.

It’s like they get thrown off / turned off by these types of gestures (Could be doing this to the wrong girls as well)

Interesting. I seem to find asian women really like that kind of small gesture.

Sometimes I do it without really thinking about it.

Actually, the Egyptian woman I see. She told me that me doing that and also guiding her with my hand in the small of her back melted her on our first date.
 
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I joined interpals to talk to women from other countries, going decent btw, but the best conversations I've had have been with women here in the US.
 

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Interesting. I seem to find asian women really like that kind of small gesture.

Sometimes I do it without really thinking about it.

Actually, the Egyptian woman I see. She told me that me doing that and also guiding her with my hand in the small of her back melted her on our first date.

It could be the younger ones / Gen-z who are on the feminism wave who feel they don’t need it, but others are like you said, very appreciative and feel refreshed when a man holds a door, or walks on the opposite side
 

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Is it easy to find girls with that expert level back arch?
You really have a higher chance training a lady to arch more into your favor, than running into one who has expert level back arch. Because want back arch is good to one person, it might be okay to another.
 
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You really have a higher chance training a lady to arch more into your favor, than running into one who has expert level back arch. Because want back arch is good to one person, it might be okay to another.
The kind I'm into looks like something you'd get if you were already flexible, like Yu Shinoda or that latina from Heartandace.
 

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It’s not always you brehs.

It could be a life circumstance, the girl could need therapy, you might be too much for her, you might be too stable, might be too adventurous / have more drive, don’t produce any dysfunction / too “normal” and you move different from the other men she’s dealt with, maybe she can’t read you, etc.

Don’t always assume you’re the problem.
I’m sick of that shyt
 

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I’m sick of that shyt

Same. Went through it last night, connecting with good looking BW from NOLA & her Asian homegirl was vouching for me crazy lol, but

:yeshrug:

Best believe there are women out here that see a guy whos ambitious and seems / has his ish together and they’ll reject themselves because that means they’ll have to keep up with him, go to the gym, change their diet, match his intellect, be involved in interest outside of the box, etc.

They rather take the option they’re comfortable with / familiar with and mold him. (Ex. the Loser)
 
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Same. Went through it last night, nice looking BW from NOLA & her Asian friend was vouching for me crazy lol, but

:yeshrug:
I try to be introspective of my flaws and my improvements.. but my last few interactions has shown me that the phrase “it’s not you, it’s me” is not a cliche.

It ALWAYS begins with “you’re too good to be true 👀“ or “you’re different from what I’m used to”.. I understand I’m dodging a bullet but shawty why are you looking for a flaw in me? Why is your guard up to the sky? Why do you expect me to treat you like an abused pitbull? That shyt is dead.
Best believe there are women out here that see a guy whos ambitious and seems / has his ish together and they’ll reject themselves because that means they’ll have to keep up with him, go to the gym, change their diet, match his intellect, be involved in interest outside of the box, etc.
It stems back to “vet better” which I agree with, but I’m not Bruce Wayne nor am I trying to be.
 

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Another reason why BM gotta be super negros & Todd can just be Todd

To be fair, dating apps largely focus on your looks and height. Wouldn’t go as far as to say it’s a specific BW issue BUT (un)fortunately that’s the only group I care about.

I wouldn’t mind being James Evans to someone’s Florida is all I’m saying
 

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I try to be introspective of my flaws and my improvements.. but my last few interactions has shown me that the phrase “it’s not you, it’s me” is not a cliche.

It ALWAYS begins with “you’re too good to be true 👀“ or “you’re different from what I’m used to”.. I understand I’m dodging a bullet but shawty why are you looking for a flaw in me? Why is your guard up to the sky? Why do you expect me to treat you like an abused pitbull? That shyt is dead.

It stems back to “vet better” which I agree with, but I’m not Bruce Wayne nor am I trying to be.

Yup. I’ve gotten that before too. Especially bumping into more women as I’m approaching 30. Between a good position, living alone, no kids (ESPECIALLY NO KIDS) automatically makes you a black unicorn and makes them unsure about you.

Our women are ingrained in dysfunction, they’re in disbelief when they see a black man that doesn’t foster any of it.

All those flaws she’s looking for comes from the damage due to previous men who she shouldn’t of been with. That’s a woman you don’t want to exchange any type of energy with. She wants a love & hip hop / shade room relationship. Not over here.

Vetting better is the only way. Putting yourself in the best environments, the best cities, trial and error and seeing what works best for you.
 
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