Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Yeah they mostly are though there are solid chicks who do actually want to be friends not want a man to give them attention 2 examples.
Chick I used to see we stopped talking back in summer 2021, didnt hear a peep from her until a month ago, when she popped up saying hi randomly one night.
I asked her what’s up long time no hear etc, she's like she wants to be friends etc she misses me. Not sure why we stopped talking yada yada
I’m like are you still with your BF, she won’t even fully answer that question. Anyway I keep her at a distance as I know how she goes, a few messages for a week then she will disappear again and as I suspected she has low energy and barely reaches out but really want to be ‘friends’. Not going to even make an effort.
Another chick I used to see as a FWB we stopped as she met a guy, I stepped back so she could do what shes doing.
Then her and her man split after a few months and she got in contact and told me she missed me etc, the usual but she has shown through effort that she wants to make this friendship work, checking in on me, giving me heads up on freelance work she's heard of looking for particular people, pushing work from her business towards me, taking me out for dinner and us doing activities together, we had a conversation and both agreed, if we were not going to be honest with each other and also return energy this was never going to work.
Friendships are like romantic relationships you have to put in the upkeep and effort to keep things going well and it requires both people to want to make the effort.
Women like that I’m happy to have in my life. That first chick though she can
she cant even be honest with herself.
I learned alot about the Instagram game during pandemic.. First things first you have to have a active page... Now with me being a interviewer, content creator, and having pics with celebs, It helps but you gotta be active for one... Alot of dudes be having nothing but 2 pics and be wondering why nothing is popping off. Post fly pics of yourself, your cars, artwork, hobbies, being with your friends, whatever. Make sure the shyt is active.
2. Look for women in your city within your mile radius.. Hashtag your city, clubs, malls and you'll see alot of women in your area popping up and hit them up.. If you a traveler its easier for you.. Hit up chicks in Miami, Atlanta, Texas, NC, SC, etc.
3. This works for me personally as well. I always go for women with a lower follower count. Under 10K. I avoid women with alot of rap industry nikkahs constantly following and thirstin on their page because its easy to get lost in the shuffle.
I usually check out their page, hit them with a harmless compliment based off the activity.. If she responds your 50/50 in.. Now heres a small but major factor here.. INSTRUCT HER to follow you back after you let her know you like what you see and followed her.. If she leaves your message on seen and don't follow you back. BUSH HER.. Also pay attention to how she interacts with her followers.. If she only responds to her girls and blue check marks.. Don't fukk with her.
The IG game is that it is.. a game.. Don't take it too serious and just have fun with it
2. Look for women in your city within your mile radius.. Hashtag your city, clubs, malls and you'll see alot of women in your area popping up and hit them up.. If you a traveler its easier for you.. Hit up chicks in Miami, Atlanta, Texas, NC, SC, etc.
3. This works for me personally as well. I always go for women with a lower follower count. Under 10K. I avoid women with alot of rap industry nikkahs constantly following and thirstin on their page because its easy to get lost in the shuffle.
I usually check out their page, hit them with a harmless compliment based off the activity.. If she responds your 50/50 in.. Now heres a small but major factor here.. INSTRUCT HER to follow you back after you let her know you like what you see and followed her.. If she leaves your message on seen and don't follow you back. BUSH HER.. Also pay attention to how she interacts with her followers.. If she only responds to her girls and blue check marks.. Don't fukk with her.
The IG game is that it is.. a game.. Don't take it too serious and just have fun with it
I recently moved to Jersey and get girls from Brooklyn and Queens to come to me. One girl spent $50 on an Uber from Elmhurst to my crib at like 11pm the first time we met. Women don’t care about the distance once the interest is established. Text them briefly, get on FT and/or phone and make her comfortable enough to wanna be around you. Then casually mention her coming over and/or doing a non-sexual activity at your crib together like watch a movie. She will come
Tommy Lee Jones
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How you deal with objections from her that she’s not ready to fukk yet becshse she’s not sure if I like her or you just trying to tuck.
I said why can’t it be both? She been to my place twice I’m going to her place for first time tomorrow. She was all over ne last time I know she wants to fukk too. I like her but I’m not jumping through hoops so not sure how to play it tomorrow.
I said why can’t it be both? She been to my place twice I’m going to her place for first time tomorrow. She was all over ne last time I know she wants to fukk too. I like her but I’m not jumping through hoops so not sure how to play it tomorrow.
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If you don’t smash tomorrrow at her place, lose her number.
She sounds like a waste of time & playing games. I personally i wouldn’t deal with it.
Women are silly because they want the first time to be “special” on some fairy tale type ish
Tommy Lee Jones
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Yea if we don’t do it tomorrow I’m bushing. I don’t think she’s playing games I think she’s worried I’m gonna pump and dump her. It’s weird sometimes if they feeling you too much they are scared to fukk because they don’t want to lose you I guess?
Or they just aren’t attracted to you.
Women have this backwards way of thinking, if you have potential, you should wait, meanwhile a bum can hit night 1, cause it doesn’t matter.
Tell her what you actually want and let it play out from there
If you put her desires before yours now, you will continue to do it, likely unknowingly. You gotta ask yourself is she a girl worth being second for. You can wait 90 days and still bush her, so her logic is already skewed. It really just comes down to making decisions out of fear. She will continue to do that if you enable her now.
Tommy Lee Jones
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Last time she came over I called her out like I know your unsure of me and think I’m just trying to fukk. Which I am trying to fukk but I like you too. Right before she left we were fooling around and she said I wanna fukk you so bad right now. I dubo I guess she been pumped and dumped a lot. Not playing this game anymore tho.
Tommy Lee Jones
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I agree you gotta set the frame early on. How am I enabling her?
You can already see she's afraid you'll leave so she's behaving a certain way. If you let her continue believing that without showing her something different she'll likely continue to operate in fear cause its gotten her this far. So you really enable her to keep treating you this way. 5 months from now when she's not in the mood she'll hit you with the "you know what you signed up for".