I FaceTime and phone call before dates to guage interest level. Not going to happen to me. I can tell a chick is big over the phone (heavy breathing,depth of voice etc)
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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I FaceTime and phone call before dates to guage interest level. Not going to happen to me. I can tell a chick is big over the phone (heavy breathing,depth of voice etc)
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shyt I’m married going on 12 years and I know for a fact I ain’t doing that shyt again that process of courting and trust and learning all that shyt again and knowing also that shyt be a front just to get the ring na I’m good
I can’t stand my wife shyt sometimes and sometimes I’m like I love this woman and marriage
The ups and downs the hurricane seasons and the calm seasons
NOPE IM DONE we either gonna stay together or I’ll stay single or at best have a relationship no marriage
More than anything peace of mind is what is important too me
I do feel people give up to easy in relationships nowadays cuz shyt is bad at the moment or a argument
Talk that shyt out and give each other space don’t go straight to
Not saying there ain’t situations where u shouldn’t get rid of someone because there are of course
But recently I seen people break up over some of the dumbest shyt possible then regret it
Especially thinking green on other side realizing the flaws their ex had wasn’t shyt compared to the field or not putting them in place and letting things simmer down then revisiting it
You have to know when to pull the trigger and when not too
At least give it time to blow over don’t ever make decisions on emotions
Not referring too you breh bout all that staying shyt just in general I’m saying cuz been a trend lately and damn females and guys whinning bout that shyt I’m like stfu and calm down and take ur time and compose before making rash ass decisions
Rich Spirit
#LeveledUp
The last one is so important
well said OGshyt I’m married going on 12 years and I know for a fact I ain’t doing that shyt again that process of courting and trust and learning all that shyt again and knowing also that shyt be a front just to get the ring na I’m good
I can’t stand my wife shyt sometimes and sometimes I’m like I love this woman and marriage
The ups and downs the hurricane seasons and the calm seasons
NOPE IM DONE we either gonna stay together or I’ll stay single or at best have a relationship no marriage
More than anything peace of mind is what is important too me
I do feel people give up to easy in relationships nowadays cuz shyt is bad at the moment or a argument
Talk that shyt out and give each other space don’t go straight to
Not saying there ain’t situations where u shouldn’t get rid of someone because there are of course
But recently I seen people break up over some of the dumbest shyt possible then regret it
Especially thinking green on other side realizing the flaws their ex had wasn’t shyt compared to the field or not putting them in place and letting things simmer down then revisiting it
You have to know when to pull the trigger and when not too
At least give it time to blow over don’t ever make decisions on emotions
Not referring too you breh bout all that staying shyt just in general I’m saying cuz been a trend lately and damn females and guys whinning bout that shyt I’m like stfu and calm down and take ur time and compose before making rash ass decisions
VertigoKnight
Veteran
shyt I’m married going on 12 years and I know for a fact I ain’t doing that shyt again that process of courting and trust and learning all that shyt again and knowing also that shyt be a front just to get the ring na I’m good
I can’t stand my wife shyt sometimes and sometimes I’m like I love this woman and marriage
The ups and downs the hurricane seasons and the calm seasons
NOPE IM DONE we either gonna stay together or I’ll stay single or at best have a relationship no marriage
More than anything peace of mind is what is important too me
I do feel people give up to easy in relationships nowadays cuz shyt is bad at the moment or a argument
Talk that shyt out and give each other space don’t go straight to
Not saying there ain’t situations where u shouldn’t get rid of someone because there are of course
But recently I seen people break up over some of the dumbest shyt possible then regret it
Especially thinking green on other side realizing the flaws their ex had wasn’t shyt compared to the field or not putting them in place and letting things simmer down then revisiting it
You have to know when to pull the trigger and when not too
At least give it time to blow over don’t ever make decisions on emotions
Not referring too you breh bout all that staying shyt just in general I’m saying cuz been a trend lately and damn females and guys whinning bout that shyt I’m like stfu and calm down and take ur time and compose before making rash ass decisions
Absolutely agree me and my ex wife would always talk it out. We almost called time when lived in the UK, but again talked things through and reconciled.
Ironically it was us 'starting again' when we moved to Canada that really exposed the deep faultlines in our relationship. We had another 2 yrs together then I think it was best for us to split.
I will say we really did try our best but neither of us were happy anymore. At that point it was best to end things.
that’s the blueprint 100% is what most people need to do so when it’s over ITS OVER NO REGRETS
Having said all that man the single life seems brutal because of social media got the game fukked up
My breh was like man I wish I was single years ago during the MySpace chat room era
He uses the dating apps but rather cold approach so he won’t get catfished
Told him use FaceTime google duo or Skype
TBH we keep tryna shoehorn a dated marriage model in a modern world that it doesn't make sense to do anymore.
I think a revamped institution is needed.
Spacejam23
Rookie
Ive said This for a long time
It will take some slick talk to get a woman too but in to alternative philosophies because many will want security and won’t tolerate their man being with other women unless she gets the same privilege
i mean women work, so the security argument should be bushed lol.
hence why dudes need to bush it until then. We just gonna be a nation of unmarried folks
dudes need to protect their seed too but thats a topic for another day
My thing is... I'm an individual who has his own sense of style and a penchant for displaying his personality via his looks/apparel.
Very seldom do I bend and I'm a massive purveyor of said philosophies.
Recently met a woman on a cruise (early 40's... I'm 39, no biggie) back in February.
Really cool broad, good head on her shoulders, hardworking and worldly (sex is good).
But that's where it stops. I can see why she's never been wifed up and she prefers to wear the pants in the relationship and can be bossy/demanding.
When I went to San Fran to visit her, she took control of the driver's seat (literally, that's fine, cuz it's car... but proverbially as well).
A fella started getting turned off when she told me where to stand for photos and how to do this/that. I tolerated it because it wasn't that bad and we're several stays away from one another.
Seriously spiels... I was already only lukewarm about her... she's fine as a friend but she started calling me her boyfriend and said she wants exclusivity and when I made zero hints at even wanting a relationship (I even said in the car on the way to the airport that I don't want a long distance relationship and those don't bode well for me... did she even fukkin' hear me?).
She's a recent content creator and does travel YouTube videos and started with the cruise (it was her first cruise... and used that trip as her initial upload as well).
The buck stopped when she said that I had to wear matching shoes when I'm with her or she'll have to crop out my feet (giggled while saying it, a la one of those "not serious but serious" tonality to it).
If you ain't feeling the way I put my shiit together... it's time for this Jesus hugging woman to kick rocks (oh, and I thought it was weird that she only wore closed toed heels since we met and wore socks the whole weekend we were in the hotel).
Good luck to her and I wish her the best... but aside from being a single mom with only a few redeeming qualities... not enough for me to want to invest any more time in.
Even as a friend (although that's all we were, but she's the one who put a category on us). I get it, she's never met anyone like me and never will... but I guess I'll just have to ease back with the texts and calls and hope she gets it cuz I'm no good at breaking hearts (contrary to how often I do it... which appears to be multiple times a year. lol).
Some women just want to believe what they want to believe. Grandeur illusions.
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Very seldom do I bend and I'm a massive purveyor of said philosophies.
Recently met a woman on a cruise (early 40's... I'm 39, no biggie) back in February.
Really cool broad, good head on her shoulders, hardworking and worldly (sex is good).
But that's where it stops. I can see why she's never been wifed up and she prefers to wear the pants in the relationship and can be bossy/demanding.
When I went to San Fran to visit her, she took control of the driver's seat (literally, that's fine, cuz it's car... but proverbially as well).
A fella started getting turned off when she told me where to stand for photos and how to do this/that. I tolerated it because it wasn't that bad and we're several stays away from one another.
Seriously spiels... I was already only lukewarm about her... she's fine as a friend but she started calling me her boyfriend and said she wants exclusivity and when I made zero hints at even wanting a relationship (I even said in the car on the way to the airport that I don't want a long distance relationship and those don't bode well for me... did she even fukkin' hear me?).
She's a recent content creator and does travel YouTube videos and started with the cruise (it was her first cruise... and used that trip as her initial upload as well).
The buck stopped when she said that I had to wear matching shoes when I'm with her or she'll have to crop out my feet (giggled while saying it, a la one of those "not serious but serious" tonality to it).
If you ain't feeling the way I put my shiit together... it's time for this Jesus hugging woman to kick rocks (oh, and I thought it was weird that she only wore closed toed heels since we met and wore socks the whole weekend we were in the hotel).
Good luck to her and I wish her the best... but aside from being a single mom with only a few redeeming qualities... not enough for me to want to invest any more time in.
Even as a friend (although that's all we were, but she's the one who put a category on us). I get it, she's never met anyone like me and never will... but I guess I'll just have to ease back with the texts and calls and hope she gets it cuz I'm no good at breaking hearts (contrary to how often I do it... which appears to be multiple times a year. lol).
Some women just want to believe what they want to believe. Grandeur illusions.
.
VertigoKnight
Veteran
Naw was married. Me and her moved to Canada late 2015 separated Jan 2018.
And we moved here for work in the film industry and as a fresh start.