Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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One thing I have to say is get a woman who is into you more than you are into her, that every day she wakes up she realizes if she messes up there are ten other women waiting for a chance. That gives you compliments and isn't a social media whore. That comes from a good family, doesn't hate men and has a good career or is working to bettering herself.

Everyone has stuff they like and don't, I noticed with many women I've been dealing with dating with going out with etc. they were somewhat the same aggressive, talked loud and expected men to do a,b,c,d,e,f,g and have abcdefg . :picard: not anymore thank goodness
 

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One thing I have to say is get a woman who is into you more than you are into her, that every day she wakes up she realizes if she messes up there are ten other women waiting for a chance. That gives you compliments and isn't a social media whore. That comes from a good family, doesn't hate men and has a good career or is working to bettering herself.

Everyone has stuff they like and don't, I noticed with many women I've been dealing with dating with going out with etc. they were somewhat the same aggressive, talked loud and expected men to do a,b,c,d,e,f,g and have abcdefg . :picard: not anymore thank goodness

This is how you win. Maintain leverage. Indirectly let her know that she has competition.
 

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One thing I have to say is get a woman who is into you more than you are into her, that every day she wakes up she realizes if she messes up there are ten other women waiting for a chance. That gives you compliments and isn't a social media whore. That comes from a good family, doesn't hate men and has a good career or is working to bettering herself.

Everyone has stuff they like and don't, I noticed with many women I've been dealing with dating with going out with etc. they were somewhat the same aggressive, talked loud and expected men to do a,b,c,d,e,f,g and have abcdefg . :picard: not anymore thank goodness

Yep as once that energy slips and you become the fan. It’s pretty much over.

Had one of my Paags over on Sunday night and she stayed over. In the morning she wanted me to stay in bed with her, but I told her I’m going to the gym. I’ve told her before nothing comes before my workout. She’s tried a few times to see if she could get me to not go whilst she’s with me and go later. She likes an evening workout but I love my morning ones.

She relented I went to wash and get dressed and spotted her lying on my bed looking at me smiling, she said she was admiring me. She loves complimenting me. She has also seen some of the previous women I’ve dated so knows the levels I’m dealing with. She’s pretty fine herself but these chicks always see other women as competition and ‘better'.

Told her to stay comfy and went for my workout, when I got back this chick was so excited to see me.

Basically stripped me and told me to fukk her, I bent her over the bed and got to work. Then we went for a shower together. Where she soaped me up and washed my back. Then took me for lunch.

I’ve found it’s a fine balance of never going too overboard with my own compliments to them or bending too much to their will.

In the past I can pull out a few chicks where shyt went left when the power dynamics shifted and I started chasing.
 
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Lol whats the latest yall ever hit up a chick from hinge? I got matches from last yr that got me like
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I’m meeting up with this chick tomorrow night who hit me on hinge last month after two years. I just split up with my ex so I don’t care still gonna meet up. Don’t have much to lose just meeting her.
 

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One thing I have to say is get a woman who is into you more than you are into her, that every day she wakes up she realizes if she messes up there are ten other women waiting for a chance. That gives you compliments and isn't a social media whore. That comes from a good family, doesn't hate men and has a good career or is working to bettering herself.

Everyone has stuff they like and don't, I noticed with many women I've been dealing with dating with going out with etc. they were somewhat the same aggressive, talked loud and expected men to do a,b,c,d,e,f,g and have abcdefg . :picard: not anymore thank goodness
My rule now is I’m not chasing them or playing games. Either they with it or they aren’t and I swear I been getting more matches since i had this mentality. It may seem like the women have the leverage but it’s really the men. We just so thirsty for some buns we don’t realize it. I bet you it’s harder to find a good man then it is to find a good women. Don’t chase em just replace them.
 

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It’s nice aging and getting to a point where you honestly just don’t really care about p*ssy that much

Girl with big t*ts and a big ass wants to fukk? Meh
Girl wants to take me out to dinner? Meh
Girl showing interest but wants to go out and do some pointless shyt? Meh
Girl wants to hook me up with a friend? Meh
Cute Sister of my homies fiancée making convo with me at their party? Meh. She had her chance.
Old girl from school wants to catch up over sushi? Meh

it’s a beautiful spot to be in. And it isn’t out of bitterness, laziness or anything. Its simply out of comfortability, purpose and peace of mind. (Maybe a bit of cheapness too). A nikka goes to work, watches sports, eats good, hits the gym, works on side projects and loves it. No chick sulking cause she’s bored, taking up my time or causing unnecessary stress and arguments with her foolishness. No thinking of the perfect romantic dates to plan for valentines. No thinking of the perfect birthday/christmas gifts. No being judged only for what I've done lately when I have been putting work for years throughout the relationship. Just peace.
 
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Is it time to get sober if you simp while lit? I ain’t text nothing or anything like that. Just in my head as I eat.
 

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When you meet and learn what a real woman is like you won’t even entertain most women out here. You’ll be able to identify very quickly why they not worth the time, money and effort.

Have a kid? X
Abusive ex? X
Poor conversation skills? X
Poor relationship with dad? X
Posts bullshyt on social media? X
Argumentative? X
Cant take direction / follow orders? X
Makes you wait some arbitrary time period to fukk? X
Never been in a real relationship? X


I can go on and on. The signs be there. Dont over look them and stay strapped up.

And don’t be afraid to step out your comfort zone and invest in building something when the girl is worth it either. nikkas can talk all that simp, high value man rhetoric, but part of being a man is being a leader, and that applies to relationships as well. The right girl is worth the extra fix-ins. Don’t expect to be followed just because you are a man. You must exude leadership consistently.

Be calculated
Be confident
Guide
Motivate
Uplift

And know that the work you put in isn’t enough in and of itself. If you are investing, you have to make sure your girl has skin in the game as well. Otherwise you’ll end up holding the bag when she drops you ass.
 
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My rule now is I’m not chasing them or playing games. Either they with it or they aren’t and I swear I been getting more matches since i had this mentality. It may seem like the women have the leverage but it’s really the men. We just so thirsty for some buns we don’t realize it. I bet you it’s harder to find a good man then it is to find a good women. Don’t chase em just replace them.
I agree with this with the caveat that you must must MUST!!! get your finances in order.

Try to get to six figures, invest in the stock market and invest in your health.

When you have these things in order you will be playing in God mod when dating these women.
 

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slowly learning this

everytime I look at them apps I realize my pics ain't interesting and dull as hell

until I decide to show myself off foreal, cold approach it is
My pics ain’t all that but my matches were flooded on Dating apps. I legit had my choice of women. Just about any chick I wanted I was about to chat with. I’m only a slightly above average looking breh and my pic game is literally just bathroom mirror pics.

Where I excelled was in my bio. Just giving a novel description of what I’m interested in and looking for. I also asked specific questions when messaging women that showed I took the time to Read their bio, or at least make an inference about their pictures.



I say this to say. Pictures don’t always mean shyt. Your messaging and bio >>>>
 

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it’s a beautiful spot to be in. And it isn’t out of bitterness, laziness or anything. Its simply out of comfortability, purpose and peace of mind. (Maybe a bit of cheapness too). A nikka goes to work, watches sports, eats good, hits the gym, works on side projects and loves it. No chick sulking cause she’s bored, taking up my time or causing unnecessary stress and arguments with her foolishness. Just peace.

gud post
 
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