Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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”Watch what she does, not what she says”

sounds like she got what she wanted out of you (sex and since y’all were fukking in public — the thrill), made up a bullshyt excuse for whatever reason, and left it at that. Maybe she’ll come around, maybe she won’t.

as far as your ex, her knowing you back in the field and (if you a decent dude) knowing she let a solid guy go, she wants to rekindle that.
”Watch what she does, not what she says”

sounds like she got what she wanted out of you (sex and since y’all were fukking in public — the thrill), made up a bullshyt excuse for whatever reason, and left it at that. Maybe she’ll come around, maybe she won’t.

as far as your ex, her knowing you back in the field and (if you a decent dude) knowing she let a solid guy go, she wants to rekindle that.
Yup. She's a deceiver. Wanted sex and then turned it on dude and blamed dude. Whoever posted that better run fast
 

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Yup. She's a deceiver. Wanted sex and then turned it on dude and blamed dude. Whoever posted that better run fast
Pretty much. Can’t fault shawty for that, as this site and certain posts in this thread echo exactly what she did.

my question to you @InGodWeTrust, is that what you signed up for? Your experience (fukked, no STD, she ghosted) is what a lot of dudes dream for in their dating/sex life.. yet you came in here puzzled by her actions. You also mentioned currently and a few threads back that you broke it off with ya girl and immediately hopped on Hinge.

ion know ya life, or want to be a armchair therapist, but I am lost on ya reaction to that altercation when it’s something that we as men echo to each other in order to not get hurt (exclude the false excuses part, some cats just ghost)
 

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@Babyface can you nikkas write a book on bytches or start a podcast. I have never been successful keeping a bytch for more than a few months.

Really depends on what you're doing. If your goal is to keep a bird around for a long time, then your tactics need to change. All women, no matter the job title or earning, want(we'll get into the needs later) two things; An a$$hole (bad boy image) and a winner. This DOES NOT mean you need to make more than her. Plenty of broke boys with women who have full blown careers. You need to excel at one particular thing. For a small handful, its the gift of gab, for others its working out, reading, drawing etc. And no, you don't have to be the next Bob Ross, simply dabbling in the arts, puts you above most people you'll run into, especially the birds. I can't tell you how many times I've had a pretty little slimmy wrapped around my pinky just because I can go on about art, photograhy, history, etc.

That takes care of the winning part. The a$$hole part is nuanced, that doesn't mean call a bird "fat" though I have done that (in context), it means being confident enough to say what you want, and tell her what you like/dislike. It also means being aloof. For example; I smoke cigs, plenty of birds have used the "I don't like smokers" line on me, to which I respond "Yeah, I should be drinking instead", without skipping a beat, immediately this destroys their little shyt test and makes them reflect on how its all poison and bad for you. They hamster a bit and eventually all end at the same finish line; "I just don't like the smell". A perfect example on how women love to control/manipulate. I laugh it all off and keep smoking, my job is to please myself, not them. So when I hear "you're such a jerk"....I know it means shes already thinking about tonguing my balls.

Women need friction, they need a rebel to try and keep control over. Makes them feel like they're doing something with their pathetic lives. Always be approachable, but do and say whatever you want, their only chase is your manhood, they want to tame that inner wild child inside you, the truth is, they're projecting their failures onto you, never falter, remain stoic to their demands.
 

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Pretty much. Can’t fault shawty for that, as this site and certain posts in this thread echo exactly what she did.

my question to you @InGodWeTrust, is that what you signed up for? Your experience (fukked, no STD, she ghosted) is what a lot of dudes dream for in their dating/sex life.. yet you came in here puzzled by her actions. You also mentioned currently and a few threads back that you broke it off with ya girl and immediately hopped on Hinge.

ion know ya life, or want to be a armchair therapist, but I am lost on ya reaction to that altercation when it’s something that we as men echo to each other in order to not get hurt (exclude the false excuses part, some cats just ghost)
Not OP fault. Just look at the other person's reply to him. People in this thread are SUPER quick to blame the guy when these women can be liars and deceives. This bytch jacked him off at a Dave and busters, and sucked his dikk and fukked him in the car. You honestly think HE was in the wrong and was being too aggressive?! (Not you but the other guy). This bytch wanted to get laid bc she was probably pissed at another guy. She gets her kicks and now wants out...probably a little ashamed as well that she was so easy. I never believe shyt these women say, only what they do.
 

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Not OP fault. Just look at the other person's reply to him. People in this thread are SUPER quick to blame the guy when these women can be liars and deceives. This bytch jacked him off at a Dave and busters, and sucked his dikk and fukked him in the car. You honestly think HE was in the wrong and was being too aggressive?! (Not you but the other guy). This bytch wanted to get laid bc she was probably pissed at another guy. She gets her kicks and now wants out...probably a little ashamed as well that she was so easy. I never believe shyt these women say, only what they do.
At the bolded.. why are you creating a storyline for this bytch bruh? She linked up, got fukked, and went cold feet. End of story.

I’m over trying to “hold women accountable” or look deeper into their soul. Some shyt in life is just what it is — no trauma, no underlying backstory, no nothing. A simple “I wanted her around to be a consistent fukk. Damn, oh well” or “shawty a weirdo” or EVEN a “I thought we had a good time and felt things were progressing. Disappointing” is what I want to hear from Men. Be IN TUNE with what you want out of women or how you feel with your interactions with them (internally or with a close knit circle)
 

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Haven't heard from her since our date and we kissed on Thursday. she texts me today shes been down with a migraine and just got out of bed how am I doing? :russ:
Sounds suspicious like she entertaining others or has a bf.

Pretty much. Can’t fault shawty for that, as this site and certain posts in this thread echo exactly what she did.

my question to you @InGodWeTrust, is that what you signed up for? Your experience (fukked, no STD, she ghosted) is what a lot of dudes dream for in their dating/sex life.. yet you came in here puzzled by her actions. You also mentioned currently and a few threads back that you broke it off with ya girl and immediately hopped on Hinge.

ion know ya life, or want to be a armchair therapist, but I am lost on ya reaction to that altercation when it’s something that we as men echo to each other in order to not get hurt (exclude the false excuses part, some cats just ghost)
I can dig it fam. I'm someone that never understood the "hit it and quit it" mentality. I like to collect women and have a rotation. She said she "needed some time" and I'm confused because we hit it off so well

Not OP fault. Just look at the other person's reply to him. People in this thread are SUPER quick to blame the guy when these women can be liars and deceives. This bytch jacked him off at a Dave and busters, and sucked his dikk and fukked him in the car. You honestly think HE was in the wrong and was being too aggressive?! (Not you but the other guy). This bytch wanted to get laid bc she was probably pissed at another guy. She gets her kicks and now wants out...probably a little ashamed as well that she was so easy. I never believe shyt these women say, only what they do.
Exactly :mindblown:
 

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Idk what these women want.

I told this chick out and shes baddd AF. We had video chatted before and I love aggressive women. We were in a closed off spot at a Dave and Busters type place and she jacked me off in public. Said she wants us both to delete dating apps because she only wants to talk to me.

Next date we went to a lounge and she was the finest one in the building. Ass soft as hell so I stuck a finger inside discreetly. We went to my car and she gave me head. Busted 3 times and she swallowed. We put the passenger seat down and fukked. After a while she said she was sore but I had to get one more off. After that she fell asleep in the car. I didn't want her to get a DUI so I chilled before waking her up.

She called me the next day saying I was a little too aggressive and shes been distant since.

My ex called me and wants to get back together even though she knows I've been talking to other women the two weeks we said we were done.


 

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Long distance talking stage basically died out over the past month :unimpressed:

Blessing in disguise, have a terrible habit of getting oneitis out of lack of options and effort. Might be able to smash again down the line.

Now I have to work through this drought long term and get my weight up:ufdup:

Oneitis is more psychological than anything else. You're a naturally obsessive person, cognitive behavioral therapy helps with this. Mantra's and exercises that help you attack said obsession can help. Might not want to pay for therapy, so mantras always help. I self analyze all the time, but I move into the praxis of all my theories when it comes to the self and how I can be better at a particular trait. For some men like me, this is one unknowingly when I was surrounded by women all the time, so unlike many men out there, I don't mystify women, nor am I intimidated by them.

Essentially its best you surround yourself with what can actually provide you value, worth, and experience, and spoiler, it isn't a woman.
 

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Oneitis is more psychological than anything else. You're a naturally obsessive person, cognitive behavioral therapy helps with this. Mantra's and exercises that help you attack said obsession can help. Might not want to pay for therapy, so mantras always help. I self analyze all the time, but I move into the praxis of all my theories when it comes to the self and how I can be better at a particular trait. For some men like me, this is one unknowingly when I was surrounded by women all the time, so unlike many men out there, I don't mystify women, nor am I intimidated by them.

Essentially its best you surround yourself with what can actually provide you value, worth, and experience, and spoiler, it isn't a woman.

You think?

Gonna be honest, I just think it was because getting more than two women interested takes way more effort me than it should, thats where self improvement comes in

All a learning curve
 

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You think?

Gonna be honest, I just think it was because getting more than two women interested takes way more effort me than it should, thats where self improvement comes in

All a learning curve


Depends, if you analyze your prior experiences with women, realize that you've been too clingy or far too obsessed, it could be something you do naturally with other aspects of your life. That's not say don't have any feelings about a previous relationship, but if all you're used to doing is dwelling on one girl and find it hard to move on, yeah I'd say you owe yourself a closer inspection, if not for the opportunities of other women but for peace and self growth.
 

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Date 2 went well, like I said do what you want brehs. First date was monday second was wednesday. I was actually supposed to meet up with this 26 year old nigerian but she said she was "busy" then I noticed a few hours later she unmatched me on hinge :yeshrug:. So I hit up the south african and right away she was like sure

whats funny this other nigerian chick i went out with once 3 weeks ago messaged me during my date :heh:
 

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At the bolded.. why are you creating a storyline for this bytch bruh? She linked up, got fukked, and went cold feet. End of story.

I’m over trying to “hold women accountable” or look deeper into their soul. Some shyt in life is just what it is — no trauma, no underlying backstory, no nothing. A simple “I wanted her around to be a consistent fukk. Damn, oh well” or “shawty a weirdo” or EVEN a “I thought we had a good time and felt things were progressing. Disappointing” is what I want to hear from Men. Be IN TUNE with what you want out of women or how you feel with your interactions with them (internally or with a close knit circle)
This wasn't even my interaction in the first place. The original message reads like the guy was confused on what she was doing. And it is a NATURAL reaction to create a story. We are always creating stories in our heads, breh. I understand what you are saying though
 

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Females are out here really equating their p*ssy to a man's money...

A nikka dikk ain't enough for many. That's not an even trade apparently.

I'm aware that's an oversimplification and there's a lot more to it but still.

:francis:
 

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Females are out here really equating their p*ssy to a man's money...
In 2022 where a man will drop hundreds, literally thousands on p*ssy that she’s given out for free.. yes it is the same.
A nikka dikk ain't enough for many. That's not an even trade apparently.
The EXPERIENCE, MOMENT, how you make them feel is the trade-off. dikk? Please, shawty can hit up a nikka she matched with in 2014 for some and the odds are he’ll be at her doorstep
I'm aware that's an oversimplification and there's a lot more to it but still.
nah, that’s pretty much it.
 
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