It’s a shytty cycle to be in. To be honest, it’s something I’m working on. Can grasp the concept, but putting it into action is a struggle for me
idle time usually is what gets folks. Gives your mind time to wonder then next thing you know you start making bad/impulsive decisions whether its sex or the over consumption of things.
First step is find ways to fill your time with doing something + also get comfortable with being solo. While doing this you will come to discovery what you actually want.