Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[RealCrownHeights]

The reason I asked bout the hinge shyt. I won't go into an essay. My on and off ex told me she wanted to date this other nikka and I went out sad about it it's whatever. During the pandemic and our break up I had a run on hinge, Some legit 9's some I would be ashamed to be seen in daylight Thank God I didn't catch anything. My ex's big thing was always marriage, she came from that saw that growing up. I was always reluctant to do that until recently. Like the constant smash and reintroducing yourself gets old; dating tricks, ghosting etc,

Now, I don't make alot but I'm 28 and grew up in the hood but went to a reputable HBCU so women do like that. I'm 6'0 190 dress nice tatted blah blah. The main thing is I need to level up and work on self-improvement which I been doing ) gym,(wearing a suit today so I can get a LinkedIn headshot) church, BJJ (just started) studying for sec + , reading (Atomic Habits good book )and might pick up a weekend help desk job. I also have a new job also so I'm starting therapy once the insurance kicks in.

My question in regards to the dating shyt with hinge is: when I went to college and came back most of the people I grew up with were on the same shi* 2 kids, scamming etc. So I kick it with them but I can't really go out with them to bag joints. And most of my college friends are scattered around Atlanta, LA, DC, my last friend moved to Chicago but comes back on holiday.

I know to focus on purpose and self-improvement but what to do when I went to work, BJJ studied for 3 hours, read a chapter in a book and I'm in bed thinking about bytches. Like I know there has to be a 80 work 20 play balance somewhat

 

[Serious]

Some of yall are making it way too complicated.

 

[DapMeUp!]

Havent been in the game

Don't know how to advise you from this vantage point.

At this stage I guess you just have to learn on the job.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

The reason I asked bout the hinge shyt. I won't go into an essay. My on and off ex told me she wanted to date this other nikka and I went out sad about it it's whatever. During the pandemic and our break up I had a run on hinge, Some legit 9's some I would be ashamed to be seen in daylight Thank God I didn't catch anything. My ex's big thing was always marriage, she came from that saw that growing up. I was always reluctant to do that until recently. Like the constant smash and reintroducing yourself gets old; dating tricks, ghosting etc,

Now, I don't make alot but I'm 28 and grew up in the hood but went to a reputable HBCU so women do like that. I'm 6'0 190 dress nice tatted blah blah. The main thing is I need to level up and work on self-improvement which I been doing ) gym,(wearing a suit today so I can get a LinkedIn headshot) church, BJJ (just started) studying for sec + , reading (Atomic Habits good book )and might pick up a weekend help desk job. I also have a new job also so I'm starting therapy once the insurance kicks in.

My question in regards to the dating shyt with hinge is: when I went to college and came back most of the people I grew up with were on the same shi* 2 kids, scamming etc. So I kick it with them but I can't really go out with them to bag joints. And most of my college friends are scattered around Atlanta, LA, DC, my last friend moved to Chicago but comes back on holiday.

I know to focus on purpose and self-improvement but what to do when I went to work, BJJ studied for 3 hours, read a chapter in a book and I'm in bed thinking about bytches. Like I know there has to be a 80 work 20 play balance somewhat

So what's your question

 

[Uno Venova]

Tips for a shy quiet guy getting back into the scene? Been single like 8 yrs

Watch videos of men doing game on YT and emulate them, learn & fail, eye contact, a good IG for online game.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Watch videos of men doing game on YT and emulate them, learn & fail, eye contact, a good IG for online game.

Horrible advice

 

[Guvnor]

Friday night was weird. First off this chick shows up to the bar damn near an hour late. She had said 9 but she actually came through around 9:48 and while we were texting I told her first round is on you for being late and making me wait.

So we were talking and shyt was cool, she was quirky a little but not too much where it was over bearing but then shyt got worse, I notice she spoke from a place of superiority a lot(I'm great, I'm better than others, etc.). After about 30 minutes of chat we decided to get drinks and this bytch is looking at me to pay, I stood firm and made sure she paid for the first round of shots though she tried it like 2 or 3 times but nah get that credit card out you great bytch I think to myself. After that the convo heats up, we start touching and kissing and talking about sex and bdsm something she claims she spent a lot of time studying the theory on it but never tried it. Then she tells me she never had penetrative sex ever, she just never wanted it from the sexual encounters she had and never desired sex till the age of 20, currently she is 23. She grew up in a white small town, is not into dating the opposite sex and came out to the big city to meet other black writers and black people in general.

So I finally get an uber so we can get back to her crib, this is after trying to take her to a nearby hotel close to the bar that was out of rooms. Not sure if you believe in signs but I took that as a sign and was willing to just go home but she was horny so I got her the uber after she asked me to get it. The desperation in her face made me realize that if it wasn't for me she would probably be on waiting on the bus. So we get there and she lives in a house with roommates, I sit out in the living room for about 10 minutes or so as she cleans up her messy bedroom. She then welcomes me inside and foreplay goes down. I'm about to finally put a condom on and slip it inside when we hear the bed under us cracking, the shyt breaks and she tells me it killed the mood she no longer wants me to penetrate her. She finishes the job with her mouth, we moved the mattress off the broken bed frame and on to the floor then I left. She texts me after I leave saying we could have finished up on the mattress on the floor after all but I'm on the way home by then.

Now today she hit me up and I don't know if I should even continue this or just ghost her. Part of me is like fukk this chick, she is cheap and annoying but the other part of me is like this is a lay up if you can get it right, fukk the shyt out of her then dump her.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

Friday night was weird. First off this chick shows up to the bar damn near an hour late. She had said 9 but she actually came through around 9:48 and while we were texting I told her first round is on you for being late and making me wait.

So we were talking and shyt was cool, she was quirky a little but not too much where it was over bearing but then shyt got worse, I notice she spoke from a place of superiority a lot(I'm great, I'm better than others, etc.). After about 30 minutes of chat we decided to get drinks and this bytch is looking at me to pay, I stood firm and made sure she paid for the first round of shots though she tried it like 2 or 3 times but nah get that credit card out you great bytch I think to myself. After that the convo heats up, we start touching and kissing and talking about sex and bdsm something she claims she spent a lot of time studying the theory on it but never tried it. Then she tells me she never had penetrative sex ever, she just never wanted it from the sexual encounters she had and never desired sex till the age of 20, currently she is 23. She grew up in a white small town, is not into dating the opposite sex and came out to the big city to meet other black writers and black people in general.

So I finally get an uber so we can get back to her crib, this is after trying to take her to a nearby hotel close to the bar that was out of rooms. Not sure if you believe in signs but I took that as a sign and was willing to just go home but she was horny so I got her the uber after she asked me to get it. The desperation in her face made me realize that if it wasn't for me she would probably be on waiting on the bus. So we get there and she lives in a house with roommates, I sit out in the living room for about 10 minutes or so as she cleans up her messy bedroom. She then welcomes me inside and foreplay goes down. I'm about to finally put a condom on and slip it inside when we hear the bed under us cracking, the shyt breaks and she tells me it killed the mood she no longer wants me to penetrate her. She finishes the job with her mouth, we moved the mattress off the broken bed frame and on to the floor then I left. She texts me after I leave saying we could have finished up on the mattress on the floor after all but I'm on the way home by then.

Now today she hit me up and I don't know if I should even continue this or just ghost her. Part of me is like fukk this chick, she is cheap and annoying but the other part of me is like this is a lay up if you can get it right, fukk the shyt out of her then dump her.

let’s get this straight…

She made you wait for an hour, boosted herself up the whole date, expected you to pay after you told her first round was on her, gave you the “I’ve never been into sex” okie doke as a 23 year old EVEN THOUGH she studies BDSM on her free time, said a mattress killed the mood, then pumped faked you as you was driving with the “we could of done it” line.


Do not reply to this woman. Sounds like she wanted a free drink, attention, or she just wasn’t feeling you from the jump and you couldn’t read it.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

also, that “she grew up in a small town” line is played out. Literally any line that has to do with being sheltered is played out.

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

The reason I asked bout the hinge shyt. I won't go into an essay. My on and off ex told me she wanted to date this other nikka and I went out sad about it it's whatever. During the pandemic and our break up I had a run on hinge, Some legit 9's some I would be ashamed to be seen in daylight Thank God I didn't catch anything. My ex's big thing was always marriage, she came from that saw that growing up. I was always reluctant to do that until recently. Like the constant smash and reintroducing yourself gets old; dating tricks, ghosting etc,

Now, I don't make alot but I'm 28 and grew up in the hood but went to a reputable HBCU so women do like that. I'm 6'0 190 dress nice tatted blah blah. The main thing is I need to level up and work on self-improvement which I been doing ) gym,(wearing a suit today so I can get a LinkedIn headshot) church, BJJ (just started) studying for sec + , reading (Atomic Habits good book )and might pick up a weekend help desk job. I also have a new job also so I'm starting therapy once the insurance kicks in.

My question in regards to the dating shyt with hinge is: when I went to college and came back most of the people I grew up with were on the same shi* 2 kids, scamming etc. So I kick it with them but I can't really go out with them to bag joints. And most of my college friends are scattered around Atlanta, LA, DC, my last friend moved to Chicago but comes back on holiday.

I know to focus on purpose and self-improvement but what to do when I went to work, BJJ studied for 3 hours, read a chapter in a book and I'm in bed thinking about bytches. Like I know there has to be a 80 work 20 play balance somewhat

breh... im turn 40 soon and i woke up this morning thinking about womans im not even actively dating. I got hobbies, business manager, attend sporting events and take care of my dad/sister...


But women will always be on my mind. Its what provides that extra kick/spice factor in my life (trill spill, i even beat my shiit at just fantasizing aboot fornicating with my potential victims, my brain is my stimuli).


Its all good. We just some mens thats on the mic.


Improve yourself and still be highly secksual. Be charming, charismatic and glow the room when you walk in it. Command errbody and the clubs attention (get respect from the bouncers. Admired by onlookers/haters and romance the hell out of these xx chromosome laden species).


Rip it. Daily.


*hops on hooptie and puts on dusty tennis shoes but feels like he’s gonna take over the Earf since birth. Every day in the milky way*

you just gotta feel like you the best in the west while being the mouth of the souf. Exude appeal that will seal the deal while reflecting magic that makes you the masterpiece in the east.


Because its how you go forth in the norf.



lets go!!!!!!



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[Straw Hat Luffy]

Friday night was weird. First off this chick shows up to the bar damn near an hour late. She had said 9 but she actually came through around 9:48 and while we were texting I told her first round is on you for being late and making me wait.

So we were talking and shyt was cool, she was quirky a little but not too much where it was over bearing but then shyt got worse, I notice she spoke from a place of superiority a lot(I'm great, I'm better than others, etc.). After about 30 minutes of chat we decided to get drinks and this bytch is looking at me to pay, I stood firm and made sure she paid for the first round of shots though she tried it like 2 or 3 times but nah get that credit card out you great bytch I think to myself. After that the convo heats up, we start touching and kissing and talking about sex and bdsm something she claims she spent a lot of time studying the theory on it but never tried it. Then she tells me she never had penetrative sex ever, she just never wanted it from the sexual encounters she had and never desired sex till the age of 20, currently she is 23. She grew up in a white small town, is not into dating the opposite sex and came out to the big city to meet other black writers and black people in general.

So I finally get an uber so we can get back to her crib, this is after trying to take her to a nearby hotel close to the bar that was out of rooms. Not sure if you believe in signs but I took that as a sign and was willing to just go home but she was horny so I got her the uber after she asked me to get it. The desperation in her face made me realize that if it wasn't for me she would probably be on waiting on the bus. So we get there and she lives in a house with roommates, I sit out in the living room for about 10 minutes or so as she cleans up her messy bedroom. She then welcomes me inside and foreplay goes down. I'm about to finally put a condom on and slip it inside when we hear the bed under us cracking, the shyt breaks and she tells me it killed the mood she no longer wants me to penetrate her. She finishes the job with her mouth, we moved the mattress off the broken bed frame and on to the floor then I left. She texts me after I leave saying we could have finished up on the mattress on the floor after all but I'm on the way home by then.

Now today she hit me up and I don't know if I should even continue this or just ghost her. Part of me is like fukk this chick, she is cheap and annoying but the other part of me is like this is a lay up if you can get it right, fukk the shyt out of her then dump her.

man this is a flex of a post.



I can tell you nikkas are all 30 + in this thread. From a college guy perspective what I give a fukk about a mattress I'll smash a bytch behind the dumpster


You guys be in here like, "haven't been in the game for a while" then get into the game looking to cut these broads off instantly


The way you described her tho she just sounds like a typical female who says shyt like I don't usually do this because she knows she a freak


May I ask what you were looking for?? Actual relationship?

 

[Guvnor]

let’s get this straight…

She made you wait for an hour, boosted herself up the whole date, expected you to pay after you told her first round was on her, gave you the “I’ve never been into sex” okie doke as a 23 year old EVEN THOUGH she studies BDSM on her free time, said a mattress killed the mood, then pumped faked you as you was driving with the “we could of done it” line.


Do not reply to this woman. Sounds like she wanted a free drink, attention, or she just wasn’t feeling you from the jump and you couldn’t read it.

Yeah she was traveling by Train from some sort of bdsm meet up event at a restaurant prior to us meeting. She was there so she could meet people into the lifestyle and claimed the restaurant had issues with their billing system which made her late.

Remember she is from a small white town with damn near 98 percent white folks so that may be why she never explored sex like that. Plus she is kinda weird, the type of person that listens to sex role play audio instead of watching porn. The type of chick that would read a lot of books on parenting and theories and approach to raising a child if she was to get pregnant and I got this vibe from her room and our convos. So she reads a lot period and read a lot about BDSM but didn't explore it in her small town where it's not a big scene for it. She waited to move here and to meet people in the lifestyle cause she found vanilla sexual relationships to be too "performative and damn near contractual and cliche but with bdsm there is more room to make the relationship what you want and go outside the box".

I believe her on the never having "penetrative" sex thing too, emphasis on penetrative. She had no real reason to lie to me and if she didn't wanna fukk I left the ball in her court. If she wanted a free drink she could have just got one and dipped out after. She was wet as fukk too so she was definitely into me and without getting too graphic she swallowed the kids so she had to have some interest. Even text me to come back and tear her ass up with the mattress on the floor after I left.

To me it's more about the signs, the hotel being booked up, the bed breaking before I could stroke her and her being a little weird to me. She is intelligent but weird. I hear you, won't reply.

 

[RealCrownHeights]

So what's your question

How do I go about establishing some female companionship knowing my schedule

 

[Apollo Creed]

How do I go about establishing some female companionship knowing my schedule

Breh just hire and escort and save yourself the headache

 

[Guvnor]

also, that “she grew up in a small town” line is played out. Literally any line that has to do with being sheltered is played out.

She told me where and had a map off the state up in her room. It's a white ass area lol, that's a fact.

man this is a flex of a post.



I can tell you nikkas are all 30 + in this thread. From a college guy perspective what I give a fukk about a mattress I'll smash a bytch behind the dumpster


You guys be in here like, "haven't been in the game for a while" then get into the game looking to cut these broads off instantly


The way you described her tho she just sounds like a typical female who says shyt like I don't usually do this because she knows she a freak


May I ask what you were looking for?? Actual relationship?

I'm not 30+ lol, I'm in my late 20's and learned that some chicks ain't worth the headache. She also is not a freak imo, I could tell by her skill set let's just say. She was putting in effort but she ain't have a freak skill level lol.

Also hell nah I ain't want a relationship, just some side p*ssy to smash. I ideally want a chick I can bang long term on the regular but these chicks out here always do some shyt after 1 or 2 smash sessions where I just have to cut ties.