Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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If you're unsure about a woman should you communicate this to her?

I mean she went all out for my birthday(bought me sneakers and a cake), she pays for some of our dates and is the type that will tell me U don't have to spend too much or let's eat in some days to save money but to me the passion ain't there. Most of the time I have to initiate the sex and even aside from that something seems off. Can't really trust my gut cause I don't trust any woman but she said she loves me and I couldn't say it back. She is also weird about eye contact looking away and shyt like that. Another issue is she has a male friend she knew since high school that she used to string along during her college years but she didn't truly like him, she was just bored. He asked for her help planning his wedding and she is considering it but she asked me and instead of saying no yesterday I told her do what she wanted.

Part of me wants to just play shyt by ear and see how it develops but the other part is like talk to her and see if it changes anything and to especially tell her I don't want her helping him.

You better nip everything now you don't like or it'll just get worse, and things you want train her overtly and covertly were required.

I made the mistakes you mentioned and learned a lot but painfully. Don't go with flow, control your relationship, she wants you to.
 

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Might as well be upfront about everything. Passion is wack tell her. Don't want her helping with dude? Tell her.

You better nip everything now you don't like or it'll just get worse, and things you want train her overtly and covertly were required.

I made the mistakes you mentioned and learned a lot but painfully. Don't go with flow, control your relationship, she wants you to.

Appreciate the advice fellas but I'm gonna follow my gut and dump her eventually. We have a cool vibe and chemistry but something seems off. Today she answered my good morning text telling me she was gonna have a break down over an issue between her mom and aunt. I tried to send an encouraging message (can't front it was kinda long) but I didn't get a response back after even 8 hours. So I get out of work and I call her a few minutes ago to see if she is good and she tells me she is helping a friend "move" and she'll call me before bed. At this hour? I'll tell her how I feel this weekend but in the meantime I'll just date other women and chill with her from time to time.
 

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Appreciate the advice fellas but I'm gonna follow my gut and dump her eventually. We have a cool vibe and chemistry but something seems off. Today she answered my good morning text telling me she was gonna have a break down over an issue between her mom and aunt. I tried to send an encouraging message (can't front it was kinda long) but I didn't get a response back after even 8 hours. So I get out of work and I call her a few minutes ago to see if she is good and she tells me she is helping a friend "move" and she'll call me before bed. At this hour? I'll tell her how I feel this weekend but in the meantime I'll just date other women and chill with her from time to time.
The one that got away is the one you got away from.
 

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I have lost all faith in the institution of marriage.:francis:



As clarification, im normally a daytime cold approacher, so maybe im not used to the night time fukkery. But here is the story.


So im feeling festive but hungry so i hit up a downtown bar. I went soley for food, not company. Its technically still happy hour. I order my meal and a drink and start eating and im immediately opened by a woman. Some lame approach like, isnt that rueben good?:shaq:

I nod my head and return to my meal. She then proceeds to talk about her life, uninvited. She then begins to compliment my face and phisique, uninvited. While im just trying to eat my damn sandwhich.:stopitslime:



Keep in mind i am running no game whatsoever and am simply nodding my head to whatever she says and going "oh really?" periodically as my fries slowly get cold. I really could care less, but im silently noting these events mentally as they happen as if im in 3rd person.


In the middle of this, her friend walks up and says her husband is looking for her. My brow raise with intrigue as i begin wondering what she is doing talking to me. She soon gets a text, then a call from her man and she even invites dude to come chill with her. I return to my sandwhich.


She then proceeds to tell me she thinks i play sports and she massages my leg, from calves all the way to upper thigh. I laugh because this is Legit the same move guys do when trying to escalate. I must admit that i forgot about my sandwhich by this point. Soon afterwards, her husband comes. She introduces him to me, and i greet+head nod this poor dude. After small talk, he quickly excuses himself to talk to other men on the othet side of the bar.




As soon as her husband leaves, his wife starts lifting up her skirt from bar booth and pointing it at me. And im like :ohhh: cause her dude is legit on the other side of the room. This is of course followed by her bragging about giving good "mouth massages", which she insists are purely non sexual and therapeutic




This interaction ends with one of her friends pulling her away. But this woman insists on sneaking back to me, taking my phone, putting her number in it and text herself from my number. All while her huaband is having a chat with the guys on the other side of the room...:francis:








My take away from this interaction.
  • Before yall say anything,
    • yes i saw this couldve been an easy layup,
    • no im not gay,:dame:
    • and yes i was unmotivated to pursue this because i was genuinely hungry
    • It also helped that i was coordinating new additions to my roster earlier in the day so i wasnt giving off needy vibes.

  • Second, Gmb is clearly undefeated.

  • Third, Why on earth would a man bring his wife/girlfriend/ltr to a bar?

  • Finally, unless that women was feeling me specifically( unlikely since im firmly avg gang) then she probably did something similar to countless dudes despite her husband existing.:beli:
 

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Appreciate the advice fellas but I'm gonna follow my gut and dump her eventually. We have a cool vibe and chemistry but something seems off. Today she answered my good morning text telling me she was gonna have a break down over an issue between her mom and aunt. I tried to send an encouraging message (can't front it was kinda long) but I didn't get a response back after even 8 hours. So I get out of work and I call her a few minutes ago to see if she is good and she tells me she is helping a friend "move" and she'll call me before bed. At this hour? I'll tell her how I feel this weekend but in the meantime I'll just date other women and chill with her from time to time.

I'ma be real with ya. You sound like you care too much. Isn't this just a girl you are seeing and not serious? You sound too invested. Take a step back, date other women, and talk to this girl when you get time.

Don't send long encouraging messages...you tell her sorry to hear that I hope y'all figure it out and leave it be. Good luck.
 

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This thot at work keeps provoking me with all the sex talk during lunch with the lunch crew. She knows I’m married l with kids, I must resist but as a man for how long… :blink:
My dad used to get thrown p*ssy at his work all the time. I even saw it in real life myself. He always refused (or so he says). When he was on his deathbed he finally told me why he resisted. He said that he found a woman who had his back, loved & respected him and looked after him.

Your dilemma is simple. Is fukking this woman worth risking your wife, kids and job for? Only you can answer this question.
 

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Old head followed a girl at the club with his eyes. I thought only yung nikkas did that weird shyt without approaching the bytch@thecoli.com?
 

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I have lost all faith in the institution of marriage.:francis:



As clarification, im normally a daytime cold approacher, so maybe im not used to the night time fukkery. But here is the story.


So im feeling festive but hungry so i hit up a downtown bar. I went soley for food, not company. Its technically still happy hour. I order my meal and a drink and start eating and im immediately opened by a woman. Some lame approach like, isnt that rueben good?:shaq:

I nod my head and return to my meal. She then proceeds to talk about her life, uninvited. She then begins to compliment my face and phisique, uninvited. While im just trying to eat my damn sandwhich.:stopitslime:



Keep in mind i am running no game whatsoever and am simply nodding my head to whatever she says and going "oh really?" periodically as my fries slowly get cold. I really could care less, but im silently noting these events mentally as they happen as if im in 3rd person.


In the middle of this, her friend walks up and says her husband is looking for her. My brow raise with intrigue as i begin wondering what she is doing talking to me. She soon gets a text, then a call from her man and she even invites dude to come chill with her. I return to my sandwhich.


She then proceeds to tell me she thinks i play sports and she massages my leg, from calves all the way to upper thigh. I laugh because this is Legit the same move guys do when trying to escalate. I must admit that i forgot about my sandwhich by this point. Soon afterwards, her husband comes. She introduces him to me, and i greet+head nod this poor dude. After small talk, he quickly excuses himself to talk to other men on the othet side of the bar.




As soon as her husband leaves, his wife starts lifting up her skirt from bar booth and pointing it at me. And im like :ohhh: cause her dude is legit on the other side of the room. This is of course followed by her bragging about giving good "mouth massages", which she insists are purely non sexual and therapeutic




This interaction ends with one of her friends pulling her away. But this woman insists on sneaking back to me, taking my phone, putting her number in it and text herself from my number. All while her huaband is having a chat with the guys on the other side of the room...:francis:








My take away from this interaction.
  • Before yall say anything,
    • yes i saw this couldve been an easy layup,
    • no im not gay,:dame:
    • and yes i was unmotivated to pursue this because i was genuinely hungry
    • It also helped that i was coordinating new additions to my roster earlier in the day so i wasnt giving off needy vibes.

  • Second, Gmb is clearly undefeated.

  • Third, Why on earth would a man bring his wife/girlfriend/ltr to a bar?

  • Finally, unless that women was feeling me specifically( unlikely since im firmly avg gang) then she probably did something similar to countless dudes despite her husband existing.:beli:
Was she white? Maybe they're in an open marriage. Maybe he's a cuck?
 

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I'ma be real with ya. You sound like you care too much. Isn't this just a girl you are seeing and not serious? You sound too invested. Take a step back, date other women, and talk to this girl when you get time.

Don't send long encouraging messages...you tell her sorry to hear that I hope y'all figure it out and leave it be. Good luck.

The thing is we are serious, she has even told me she loved me before but I couldn't say the same. I'm gonna fall back though.
 
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