Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Killigraphy]

Hmm..

I’ve had this nagging ass thought that has been fukking with me.

I’ve been reading some feminist theory to try and understand things from woman’s perspective. So we all know about their concept of toxic masculinity (dudes beating women, assaulting them, etc.) and how some of the things amen do could be considered toxic. And how we live in a gendered patriarchal society (there’s a gender binary that exists, men are seen as player 1 by default).

Now I know women ain’t a monolith, but you can definitely generalize. Why is it that on one hand I’ll read how women don’t like to be objectified as sex objects, etc….

But on the other hand, I’ll go out and see dudes grabbing women, physically imposing, stopping them, all that shyt at bars and clubs. Things that could be considered toxic online. But the women appear to like that shyt and validate that behavior by either giving play or being real polite. Like I don’t really see em making a fuss over it and a lot of those dudes who embody “toxic” behavior typically get a lot of the play from what I’ve seen.

Very rarely do I see meek overly respectful dudes get play like that. I’ve even experimented a bit myself. It’s always some dude doing the most and really imposing the fact that he’s a masculine figure that gets play (in those environments).

Why is that? Am I missing something or judging it wrong? Reason why I’m asking is I wanna know what’s really going on under the surface.

Few things to tackle, but more importantly, toxic masculinity* is what got us here. Inventors, fighters, war, etc. All toxic in their own right, paved the way for some the greatest (and most annoyingly comfortable) eras known to man. So "toxic" should be used loosely...testosterone being what it is and all. Secondly toxic femininity exists, passive aggressive behavior, instigating, playing victim, manipulation, etc. This is a dance, and both parties/sex play it, except one does more with their "trait" than the other.

Thirdly, its a misnomer and flat out erroneous statement, that our society is patriarchal. Women who believe this can't show us evidence, and men who believe this, ignore commonly addressed issues like the particulars of suffrage, and how many women didn't want to vote and or go to war on their own volition. Basically, cherry picking history, doesn't mean our existence is that of a patriarch. Men are seen as "Player 1" because they bother to pick up the controller, and learn every aspect of the game, women do not. Plenty of chess communities....very little female players and or champions.

And now to the hard pill to swallow....women are just as shallow as men if not more so. Being the gatekeepers of sex, and the "fairer" sex, they're given a soapbox to spew their benign beliefs. While ignoring actual facts. They're also just as toxic, and want toxic men in their lives. That's why you can always meet a woman who has been beat, or had a shytty long-running relationship. Because as much as they bemoan and lament that existence.....the lady doth protests too much, and that victim curtain is ripped away. They're sick children in need of excitment via getting treated like garbage. I can't tell you how many times I've heard women with degrees and full blown careers, say some of the most ho-ist shyt ever. From wanting to strip/dance, to wanting to do porn.

You don't need to read feminist theory to understand their perspective. Its quite simple. Women don't know what they want, but they know what they like. See this in all things, and you'll understand their "way".

 

[Malik1time]

If a dude doesn’t even have his own crib. (Still live with parents at 26) Drives A beat up hooptie and works a dead end job he shouldn’t even be worrying a bout women until all of those things are fixed right??

Yes and No… bum nikkas get buns everyday B
Although if you feel Unhappy with your current situation and you been chasing women all day and it’s distracting you then you probably should tight up your boot straps and get busy and work on yourself for a bit
Have a off season and come back when the season start
That’s what I did
Went thru a breakup couple years, was torn,chase p*ssy all day, wasted time so I stopped dating for a whole year
Now look at me..Next week I’m moving in my own apartment new job new city new car..life’s good
Now I’m ready for dating

 

[Killigraphy]

What y’all think about a man with no kids, hopping into a relationship with a woman in her 30s with 3 kids, a $14/hr job, and unable to have more children?

like what would be the benefits of this?

Essentially just a ho who's buying me gifts. Statistically speaking, thats what you're gonna run into is she's over 25. Just make it very clear, you're not trying to be the step dad, or even meet the kids.There's really no benefits beyond her getting you a cheap gift from time to time. Pump, dump, pump again, dump again.

 

[Killigraphy]

How many of y'all are actually straight up about your intentions when it comes to these dating apps and these single mothers? Do you lie or are you up front?

Because in my experience, these hoes can't handle the truth that you just want to smash and keep it pushing. It's almost like they subconsciously want you to lie to them because deep down they know what the deal is when it comes to what men want especially in conjunction to what they bring to the table which is children/baggage. Or are they hoping that you're a simp or captain save a hoe?

It's almost like what Patrice O'Neil said. They got to get something for their p*ssy. It's pretty much all they got to barter that men really want, at least on the front end (your time, a date, a meal, etc).

The whole thing plays like a game of chess.

One of the rules of game; lie, lie, lie. Or more pleasantly; fake it until you make it. Women are easily placated, at the same time, they're on a dating app that obviously pits physical beauty above everything else. You're not looking for your soulmate in a club or on PoF. Entertain their garbage ideology, pump and dump...or use extensively.

 

[Chrishaune]

Weak men create weak societies.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Don't know what to do. i said 'listen.. it can't happen...i'm your boss' and she was like so what nobody has to know it's none of their business etc..

she's a nice person and one of my best employees but damn..

Yeah down that road is trouble. This is why messing with chicks at a job you care about is a non starter for me. especially as you're her boss as well.

I would create a bit of space between you both. And lessen any interactions you don't have to have.

Not saying she could be one of those chicks who could break bad and start making up scenarios but you never know.

 

[Ahadi]

Don't know what to do. i said 'listen.. it can't happen...i'm your boss' and she was like so what nobody has to know it's none of their business etc..

she's a nice person and one of my best employees but damn..

Keep notes / recordings just in case shyt goes left one day.

 

[Abraxus]

Few things to tackle, but more importantly, toxic masculinity* is what got us here. Inventors, fighters, war, etc. All toxic in their own right, paved the way for some the greatest (and most annoyingly comfortable) eras known to man. So "toxic" should be used loosely...testosterone being what it is and all. Secondly toxic femininity exists, passive aggressive behavior, instigating, playing victim, manipulation, etc. This is a dance, and both parties/sex play it, except one does more with their "trait" than the other.

Thirdly, its a misnomer and flat out erroneous statement, that our society is patriarchal. Women who believe this can't show us evidence, and men who believe this, ignore commonly addressed issues like the particulars of suffrage, and how many women didn't want to vote and or go to war on their own volition. Basically, cherry picking history, doesn't mean our existence is that of a patriarch. Men are seen as "Player 1" because they bother to pick up the controller, and learn every aspect of the game, women do not. Plenty of chess communities....very little female players and or champions.

And now to the hard pill to swallow....women are just as shallow as men if not more so. Being the gatekeepers of sex, and the "fairer" sex, they're given a soapbox to spew their benign beliefs. While ignoring actual facts. They're also just as toxic, and want toxic men in their lives. That's why you can always meet a woman who has been beat, or had a shytty long-running relationship. Because as much as they bemoan and lament that existence.....the lady doth protests too much, and that victim curtain is ripped away. They're sick children in need of excitment via getting treated like garbage. I can't tell you how many times I've heard women with degrees and full blown careers, say some of the most ho-ist shyt ever. From wanting to strip/dance, to wanting to do porn.

You don't need to read feminist theory to understand their perspective. Its quite simple. Women don't know what they want, but they know what they like. See this in all things, and you'll understand their "way".

Post of the year candidate!

For dudes still going through bullshyt hit her with this! Why No Contact Rule Works on Everyone! I dropped this one crazy mf into a black hole and used this. Took her 5 days and she was swooning! Wyd? Hey? You busy? Man I ignored her ass! Mf was traveling across the country but still calling and texting me. I let her Ass marinate for a week and said oh hey, been busy! How you doing?




And this





or This!

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

Might have to let her go bro. Or tell HR. If you have any other female colleagues you are cool with you better tell them asap. You need a female voice mitigate any possible issues.

Yeah down that road is trouble. This is why messing with chicks at a job you care about is a non starter for me. especially as you're her boss as well.

I would create a bit of space between you both. And lessen any interactions you don't have to have.

Not saying she could be one of those chicks who could break bad and start making up scenarios but you never know.

Keep notes / recordings just in case shyt goes left one day.

She apologized today and said that basically she was outta line and she's disappointed but understands what i told her.... so we'll see

 

[Neuromancer]

She apologized today and said that basically she was outta line and she's disappointed but understands what i told her.... so we'll see

Does she not realize that #metoo exists? You should explain that to her. That regardless of the actual relationship is you will be blamed if anything happens. Or will be painted as using your power to influence her. Ect.

 

[Neuromancer]

She apologized today and said that basically she was outta line and she's disappointed but understands what i told her.... so we'll see

I would still tell someone or HR. You need records. Record everything bro. Protect yourself black man.

 

[Neuromancer]

You don't need to read feminist theory to understand their perspective. Its quite simple. Women don't know what they want, but they know what they like. See this in all things, and you'll understand their "way".

Preach.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

Does she not realize that #metoo exists? You should explain that to her. That regardless of the actual relationship is you will be blamed if anything happens. Or will be painted as using your power to influence her. Ect.

i got all the texts and shyt.. they were pretty blatant. Wish i recorded the phone call cause that was crazy Lol

 

[Neuromancer]

i got all the texts and shyt.. they were pretty blatant. Wish i recorded the phone call cause that was crazy Lol

Download call recording software.

 

[KingFreeman]

Hmm..

I’ve had this nagging ass thought that has been fukking with me.

I’ve been reading some feminist theory to try and understand things from woman’s perspective. So we all know about their concept of toxic masculinity (dudes beating women, assaulting them, etc.) and how some of the things amen do could be considered toxic. And how we live in a gendered patriarchal society (there’s a gender binary that exists, men are seen as player 1 by default).

Now I know women ain’t a monolith, but you can definitely generalize. Why is it that on one hand I’ll read how women don’t like to be objectified as sex objects, etc….

But on the other hand, I’ll go out and see dudes grabbing women, physically imposing, stopping them, all that shyt at bars and clubs. Things that could be considered toxic online. But the women appear to like that shyt and validate that behavior by either giving play or being real polite. Like I don’t really see em making a fuss over it and a lot of those dudes who embody “toxic” behavior typically get a lot of the play from what I’ve seen.

Very rarely do I see meek overly respectful dudes get play like that. I’ve even experimented a bit myself. It’s always some dude doing the most and really imposing the fact that he’s a masculine figure that gets play (in those environments).

Why is that? Am I missing something or judging it wrong? Reason why I’m asking is I wanna know what’s really going on under the surface.

Key thing about that is you gotta look like the type of dude they want to fukk with. If they attracted to you, you can pretty much do whatever short of throwing them on a table and going to town.